Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast
Results 1 to 25 of 28

Thread: Hasn't happened to me before.

  1. #1
    Newbie
    Joined
    Nov 2009
    Posts
    6
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts

    Default Hasn't happened to me before.

    Hi everyone, I took awhile to start posting because I never really had anything to say, but did enjoy reading from this site.

    About a week ago on my birthday however, something happened with my ATF that I never experanced before. I figured someone here could give their two cents.

    So I go to the club (I won't give any names to protect the people involved) and my ATF is there. She gives me a hello, takes care of a customer, then walks over to me and asks if it's ok she takes care of yet another customer. I tell her to take her time, it's her job. She eventually comes back, we talk a bit, then she says how she has to go on stage, but she'll come back.

    So sometime later I get a dance from another girl (figuring afterwords I'll get one from her) and I catch her watching into the dancing room at me and the other girl. I don't think anything of it, but here's where I'm confused.

    When I get out she's talking with the Hostess. I walk over to her and she gives me a stern look and asks what's up, so I told her nothing much, and she says real stern that she's just talking to her friend (In a back off kind of tone), so I apologise and she says she hasn't talked to her friend in a very long time.

    Well after talking to the hostess, she goes into the dressing room.

    So I wait like 5 minutes and leave since it seemed she wasn't comming out.

    What I'm confused about is why would she have a sudden turn like that? I've gotten dances from other girls before when she was on, and she would still go up to me. I wouldn't have cared, but it was my birthday and she knew that. I know I'm just a customer but it just seemed weird to be brushed off like that so quickly. What do you guys think? Sorry for the ramble.

  2. #2
    Member
    Joined
    Sep 2010
    Location
    Portland, OR
    Posts
    26
    Thanks
    29
    Thanked 11 Times in 7 Posts

    Default Re: Hasn't happened to me before.

    Quote Originally Posted by Stallion12 View Post
    What I'm confused about is why would she have a sudden turn like that? I've gotten dances from other girls before when she was on, and she would still go up to me. I wouldn't have cared, but it was my birthday and she knew that. I know I'm just a customer but it just seemed weird to be brushed off like that so quickly. What do you guys think? Sorry for the ramble.
    It's going around. A buddy of mine just had a nice dinner w/his wife at his favorite spot and had his first bad meal in years. Maybe a solar flare?

  3. #3
    God/dess hockeybobby's Avatar
    Joined
    Nov 2007
    Location
    Canada
    Posts
    4,969
    Thanks
    1,811
    Thanked 597 Times in 382 Posts
    Blog Entries
    1

    Default Re: Hasn't happened to me before.

    How do you know she didn't come out of the DR a minute after you left?

  4. #4
    Veteran Member fast tan77's Avatar
    Joined
    Apr 2009
    Location
    Morgantown WV
    Posts
    380
    Thanks
    28
    Thanked 98 Times in 77 Posts

    Default Re: Hasn't happened to me before.

    Ya she was probably going back to the DR to get a condom to give you a freebie for your birthday. You blow it, and she would have too if you stuck around.
    I can do better than you in a two bit fancy house

  5. #5
    Moderator yoda57us's Avatar
    Joined
    Nov 2002
    Location
    at the Y
    Posts
    10,035
    Thanks
    2,878
    Thanked 5,834 Times in 2,332 Posts
    My Mood
    Goofy

    Default Re: Hasn't happened to me before.

    Quote Originally Posted by Stallion12 View Post

    So I wait like 5 minutes and leave since it seemed she wasn't comming out.
    5 minutes? Did you have to catch a bus or something? Seriously, this is not all that long to wait for a dancer.

    As far as her mood shift goes well, honestly, I wouldn't worry too much about that. She thought she could string you along while she took care of some other customers. Happens all the time. She may have gotten a bit of an ego bruise when she saw you spending on another dancer but I'm sure she would have gotten to you eventually.

    Don't assume for one second that she cared about it being your birthday...
    Quote Originally Posted by Katrine View Post
    yoda, I want you so bad it aches in the swimsuit area.
    Quote Originally Posted by Sophia_Starina View Post
    Sophia_Starina is a sensible stripper...Naked all the way.....
    Quote Originally Posted by tempest666 View Post
    Double team! 2 latinas with big tits!!

  6. #6
    Veteran Member rlams2000's Avatar
    Joined
    Sep 2005
    Location
    St. Louis
    Posts
    670
    Thanks
    247
    Thanked 45 Times in 29 Posts

    Default Re: Hasn't happened to me before.

    I bet she really likes you and wanted you all to herself.

  7. #7
    God/dess princessjas's Avatar
    Joined
    Nov 2008
    Posts
    2,520
    Thanks
    348
    Thanked 878 Times in 506 Posts

    Default Re: Hasn't happened to me before.

    Quote Originally Posted by Stallion12 View Post
    What do you guys think? Sorry for the ramble.
    I think that you want us to all tell you she was probably, suddenly overcome with jealousy, but that just isn't true.
    Quote Originally Posted by hockeybobby View Post
    How do you know she didn't come out of the DR a minute after you left?
    Exactly.

    Quote Originally Posted by yoda57us View Post
    5 minutes? Did you have to catch a bus or something? Seriously, this is not all that long to wait for a dancer.

    Don't assume for one second that she cared about it being your birthday...
    Seriously, it takes most of us 5 minutes to freshen up our lipgloss. If I had a reg and I knew he was waiting on me cause it was his b-day, you can guaran-damn-tee that I'd be taking a nice break to freshen up and redo, hair, makeup, outfit, so I looked extra hot as a sorta b-day treat.....which would certainly take more than 5 min.

    Eh, she may or may not have cared that it was his b-day. I did genuininely enjoy the company of most of my regs, but then I get the impression that this guy is a dipshit.
    "I hear you calling and it's needles and pins. I wanna hurt you just to hear you screaming my name...You're poision. but I don't wanna break these chains.... I wanna love you but I'd better not touch."

  8. #8
    Newbie
    Joined
    Nov 2009
    Posts
    6
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts

    Default Re: Hasn't happened to me before.

    Quote Originally Posted by fast tan77 View Post
    Ya she was probably going back to the DR to get a condom to give you a freebie for your birthday. You blow it, and she would have too if you stuck around.
    I'm not into extras.


    I think that you want us to all tell you she was probably, suddenly overcome with jealousy, but that just isn't true.
    Not at all, and I apologise if I gave that impression. I know I'm just a customer.

    Seriously, it takes most of us 5 minutes to freshen up our lipgloss. If I had a reg and I knew he was waiting on me cause it was his b-day, you can guaran-damn-tee that I'd be taking a nice break to freshen up and redo, hair, makeup, outfit, so I looked extra hot as a sorta b-day treat.....which would certainly take more than 5 min.
    Well by that point, it was about 5 minutes till the club closed. Perhaps I left to early on her (which is why I made this thread to begin with, to try to get a better understanding on what happened).

    Eh, she may or may not have cared that it was his b-day. I did genuininely enjoy the company of most of my regs, but then I get the impression that this guy is a dipshit.
    I didn't mean to come off as one.

    As far as her mood shift goes well, honestly, I wouldn't worry too much about that. She thought she could string you along while she took care of some other customers.
    That's what I was thinking it was, but decided to post here to see what you guys/girls think.

    Anyway thank you for your time, and sorry if I bothered or offended anyone here.

  9. #9
    God/dess FBR's Avatar
    Joined
    May 2003
    Posts
    8,351
    Thanks
    85
    Thanked 342 Times in 244 Posts
    Blog Entries
    3
    My Mood
    Mellow

    Default Re: Hasn't happened to me before.

    ^ lol

    FBR
    Once again I have embraced my addiction and have put off the moral dilemma to another day.

  10. #10
    God/dess hockeybobby's Avatar
    Joined
    Nov 2007
    Location
    Canada
    Posts
    4,969
    Thanks
    1,811
    Thanked 597 Times in 382 Posts
    Blog Entries
    1

    Default Re: Hasn't happened to me before.

    Ahhh....another customer satisfied in ten posts or less. We're good.

  11. #11
    Veteran Member bigmarv's Avatar
    Joined
    Aug 2006
    Location
    USA
    Posts
    379
    Thanks
    44
    Thanked 35 Times in 25 Posts

    Default Re: Hasn't happened to me before.

    Quote Originally Posted by Stallion12 View Post
    I figured someone here could give their two cents.
    Well here's my two cents, spend your hard earned money on any dancer you like, have a good time and come back to your local SC when your ready.
    Last edited by bigmarv; 10-16-2010 at 06:08 PM.

  12. #12
    Featured Member sadbuttrue's Avatar
    Joined
    Jun 2003
    Location
    Mass
    Posts
    1,695
    Thanks
    184
    Thanked 49 Times in 35 Posts

    Default Re: Hasn't happened to me before.

    [/ATF]

    Find a new one, I agree. These days I don't tolerate BS from a girl who wants to be my regular dancer.

    Sad
    Blonde jokes are two lines long so that men can understand them.

  13. #13
    Featured Member lopaw's Avatar
    Joined
    Jul 2004
    Location
    Los Angeles
    Posts
    1,535
    Thanks
    222
    Thanked 967 Times in 481 Posts
    My Mood
    Pensive

    Default Re: Hasn't happened to me before.

    I wouldn't read too much into it. I've had this type of thing happen before as well, and sure enough the next time I went to that club when she was working, she was all over me.

    Dancers are people too and have good & bad days. Maybe you caught her on a bad day. I'd give her another chance. If it happens again, then I'd look for entertainment elsewhere.

  14. #14
    Veteran Member Smokeless's Avatar
    Joined
    Jun 2006
    Location
    Colorado
    Posts
    557
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 27 Times in 26 Posts

    Default Re: Hasn't happened to me before.

    ATF's don't last long. For any number of reasons. They leave the business, they need to leave town for some family emergency for 6 months, you find someone else, they have a fit about some unfathomable thing, they O.D. and die, they get ticketed by the police, they get fired, ...

    It's hard to define ATF any more. I have several dancers I see regularly. I like them all. They like my money when I have it. Perhaps "favorites" in the plural is best.

  15. #15
    Newbie
    Joined
    Nov 2009
    Posts
    6
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts

    Default Re: Hasn't happened to me before.

    Quote Originally Posted by hockeybobby View Post
    Ahhh....another customer satisfied in ten posts or less. We're good.
    Well I was just trying to get an idea why she acted the way she did (which I got from this thread). It wasn't a major gripe with the industry or anything like that.

    Maybe you caught her on a bad day. I'd give her another chance. If it happens again, then I'd look for entertainment elsewhere.
    It's possible. She didn't seem herself I'll admit, even before we starting talking. Alittle more serious then she usually is. Even when talking to me, was yelling at how she hates when customers come in pajamas since they usually don't wear anything underneath, loud enough for them to hear her.

    It's hard to define ATF any more. I have several dancers I see regularly. I like them all. They like my money when I have it. Perhaps "favorites" in the plural is best.
    Well what I ment by that was how the girl I specifily go there for to visit, as compared to going their blindly.

  16. #16
    Member
    Joined
    Sep 2010
    Location
    Portland, OR
    Posts
    26
    Thanks
    29
    Thanked 11 Times in 7 Posts

    Default Re: Hasn't happened to me before.

    Quote Originally Posted by Stallion12 View Post
    Even when talking to me, was yelling at how she hates when customers come in pajamas since they usually don't wear anything underneath, loud enough for them to hear her.
    What the hell? I've never seen a customer in a club in pajamas.

    Can you describe the general clientele and which ones do this, please?

  17. #17
    God/dess princessjas's Avatar
    Joined
    Nov 2008
    Posts
    2,520
    Thanks
    348
    Thanked 878 Times in 506 Posts

    Default Re: Hasn't happened to me before.

    Quote Originally Posted by Stallion12 View Post

    Well by that point, it was about 5 minutes till the club closed. Perhaps I left to early on her (which is why I made this thread to begin with, to try to get a better understanding on what happened).
    It's pretty obvious that she was avoiding you then. This is a frequent stripper move when a guy gets to involved or is just a pest or waste of time (spends only so much an hr or only spends the first few minutes, etc.) Are you really attached to this dancer? Cause that is the most common reason I can think of for avoiding a reg on his b-day.
    "I hear you calling and it's needles and pins. I wanna hurt you just to hear you screaming my name...You're poision. but I don't wanna break these chains.... I wanna love you but I'd better not touch."

  18. The Following User Says Thank You to princessjas For This Useful Post:


  19. #18
    Newbie
    Joined
    Nov 2009
    Posts
    6
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts

    Default Re: Hasn't happened to me before.

    Quote Originally Posted by princessjas View Post
    It's pretty obvious that she was avoiding you then. This is a frequent stripper move when a guy gets to involved or is just a pest or waste of time (spends only so much an hr or only spends the first few minutes, etc.) Are you really attached to this dancer? Cause that is the most common reason I can think of for avoiding a reg on his b-day.
    I might have come off as attached. Not meaning to though. I was thinking that as well before I made the origonal post. Perhaps I did or said something to spook her causing her to drop me. I sensed something was off when she didn't give me even a quick happy birthday or anything (not that she's required, but I"d think it would be a good bussiness move to at least say it even if it's a bullshit one). She also asked what brought me in on a sunday, and when I told her it was my birthday (figuring she forgot because I'm aware I'm just a customer) she said she knew it was my birthday and asked me why I was alone and not with my brother (who I told her the time before that I'd try to drag along with me). Then she flipped out about the Pajama customers, then she went to talk to the dj before going on stage.



    Quote Originally Posted by foodgroup View Post
    What the hell? I've never seen a customer in a club in pajamas.

    Can you describe the general clientele and which ones do this, please?
    I never saw it prior, it's a smaller downtown club. You have a few bussinessmen, and even the ocational asetic(spelling?) Jew. Otherwise it's usually young kids.

  20. #19
    Veteran Member Arianna419's Avatar
    Joined
    Jan 2010
    Location
    ohio
    Posts
    325
    Thanks
    508
    Thanked 208 Times in 128 Posts

    Default Re: Hasn't happened to me before.

    If the club was closing, she was probably tired. Most of the girls at my club say "fuck it" and get dressed 10 or 15 minutes before close. I don't, but a lot do. She was probably a little annoyed that you got dances with someone else, had a bad night anyway, and decided to mentally leave early.

  21. #20
    Featured Member
    Joined
    Jan 2008
    Posts
    934
    Thanks
    10
    Thanked 66 Times in 44 Posts

    Default Re: Hasn't happened to me before.

    Two thoughts on this.
    1. She considers you her customer. The fact that you were getting a dance from another customer pissed her off. Dancer's can and do get jealous of each other ALL THE TIME. If you met her the first time you went into this club, she will consider you "HER customer." Getting a dance from someone else is frowned upon to the point of confrontation.
    2. If it was late, she could have been tired and said "f*** it, I'm tired and going on."

    Either could be valid. If it was as late as you say, it was probably #2.
    Have we not heard the chimes at midnight?

    Once more, unto the breach, dear friends.

    If you prick us do we not bleed? If you tickle us do we not laugh? If you poison us do we not die? And if you wrong us, shall we not revenge?

    -- Its always amazed me how no one learns the lines from Shakespeare. I guess it is true that people don't learn history's lessons until something become's their history.

  22. #21
    Newbie
    Joined
    Nov 2009
    Posts
    6
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts

    Default Re: Hasn't happened to me before.

    Quote Originally Posted by JoeUnCool View Post
    Two thoughts on this.
    1. She considers you her customer. The fact that you were getting a dance from another customer pissed her off. Dancer's can and do get jealous of each other ALL THE TIME. If you met her the first time you went into this club, she will consider you "HER customer." Getting a dance from someone else is frowned upon to the point of confrontation.
    2. If it was late, she could have been tired and said "f*** it, I'm tired and going on."

    Either could be valid. If it was as late as you say, it was probably #2.
    Well the girl I got the dance from used to be a regular of mine, but I have since stopped visiting her intentionally. Infact a few years ago when I first went to the club, that girl was the first I got a dance from.

    This current one I was confused about is just recently a regular, I've been visiting her every few weeks since like June of this year. She was there 3 years ago, but I never got a dance from her. It was only recently after seeing the two girls talking to each other I figured what the hell, and got a dance from her after she asked.

    So it's possible the ATF was annoyed with me by getting a dance from the other girl, since I used to be a regular of that girl I guess, but I don't spend all that much anymore, not like I used to so I doubt that.

  23. #22
    Featured Member Chili Palmer's Avatar
    Joined
    Jan 2004
    Location
    In the locker room, but I don't see you here
    Posts
    1,247
    Thanks
    95
    Thanked 475 Times in 164 Posts

    Default Re: Hasn't happened to me before.

    Everyone has bad days: you, me, her, everyone.

    Maybe she genuinely forgot about you. It happens, especially near closing time, when she's probably more focused on her tipouts, etc., than her customers. Maybe she did it on purpose for some vague reason known only to her. Doesn't matter.

    The only thing that does matter is this: Can you put the incident past you on your next visit? If you can, great. Giver her another shot. If she blows you off again, you know she's no longer interested in you or your money for whatever reason. If she's back to the way she was, even better. Treat it as a momentary blip on the screen, even if it was your birthday and you thought you deserved more.

    I have one hard and fast rule in life: I never, ever beg people to take my money. Whether it's my dry cleaner, my favorite diner, a golf course, a retail store, or a stripper, you either treat me like you're happy you have my business or you won't have my business anymore. The moment you start taking me and my money for granted, I move on.

    Two stories to illustrate my point. I had a dancer blow me off a while ago, telling me she had a previous scheduled appointment in the club. I wrote about it here, and was pretty fucken incredulous about it. You know what? She did have (and make) appointments with her custys. I saw her again during some downtime for her, got her number, and now regularly schedule my appointments with her. Worked out great. And now she blows off others to see me.

    Another dancer at that same club, whom I'd seen frequently for a few years. Greatest pole and spinning ring moves you've ever seen. Super fit bod, very gymastically inclined. Always had fun in the VIP with her. About 2 years ago, enjoying a typical evening at the club. She walks right by as she comes off the stage, goes and sits with a group of guys for literally an hour--no dances, no nothing, just drinking and partying. Okay, shit happens. She does it again the next time I'm in the club. Once again, plenty of other dancers to keep me busy and happy, no worries. There is no third chance. Next time, club is fairly dead, and she finally deigns to ask me for a dance again. "No thanks," I respond. She seemed a bit surprised, but took it well. Haven't danced with her again since, and it's unlikely I ever will.

    It's your money. Plenty of dancers want it. Act accordingly.

    Oh, and welcome to SCJ. Thanks for posting.

    CP

  24. #23
    Featured Member
    Joined
    Dec 2009
    Posts
    1,968
    Thanks
    798
    Thanked 1,121 Times in 605 Posts

    Default Re: Hasn't happened to me before.

    Looks like she received a visit from the ubiquitous SBM - aka sweat pants boner man. Those dudes can ruin anyone's night. Are you sure she remembered it was your birthday? Are you a really well spending regular or do you just spend $40 here and there? Obviously she was having a shitty night. How disrespectful she was to you depends on a lot of factors though, although from your perspective, it did seem she wasn't acting in a professional or courteous manner.

  25. #24
    Featured Member
    Joined
    Jan 2008
    Posts
    934
    Thanks
    10
    Thanked 66 Times in 44 Posts

    Default Re: Hasn't happened to me before.

    Quote Originally Posted by Chili Palmer View Post
    Everyone has bad days: you, me, her, everyone.

    Maybe she genuinely forgot about you. It happens, especially near closing time, when she's probably more focused on her tipouts, etc., than her customers. Maybe she did it on purpose for some vague reason known only to her. Doesn't matter.

    The only thing that does matter is this: Can you put the incident past you on your next visit? If you can, great. Giver her another shot. If she blows you off again, you know she's no longer interested in you or your money for whatever reason. If she's back to the way she was, even better. Treat it as a momentary blip on the screen, even if it was your birthday and you thought you deserved more.

    I have one hard and fast rule in life: I never, ever beg people to take my money. Whether it's my dry cleaner, my favorite diner, a golf course, a retail store, or a stripper, you either treat me like you're happy you have my business or you won't have my business anymore. The moment you start taking me and my money for granted, I move on.

    Two stories to illustrate my point. I had a dancer blow me off a while ago, telling me she had a previous scheduled appointment in the club. I wrote about it here, and was pretty fucken incredulous about it. You know what? She did have (and make) appointments with her custys. I saw her again during some downtime for her, got her number, and now regularly schedule my appointments with her. Worked out great. And now she blows off others to see me.

    Another dancer at that same club, whom I'd seen frequently for a few years. Greatest pole and spinning ring moves you've ever seen. Super fit bod, very gymastically inclined. Always had fun in the VIP with her. About 2 years ago, enjoying a typical evening at the club. She walks right by as she comes off the stage, goes and sits with a group of guys for literally an hour--no dances, no nothing, just drinking and partying. Okay, shit happens. She does it again the next time I'm in the club. Once again, plenty of other dancers to keep me busy and happy, no worries. There is no third chance. Next time, club is fairly dead, and she finally deigns to ask me for a dance again. "No thanks," I respond. She seemed a bit surprised, but took it well. Haven't danced with her again since, and it's unlikely I ever will.

    It's your money. Plenty of dancers want it. Act accordingly.

    Oh, and welcome to SCJ. Thanks for posting.

    CP
    Could not agree more. The girls work in the clubs to make money. They don't really like you no matter what they say. Understand that its fantasy land. Its a place to unwind. Don't get wound up if someone gets mad over something like this. You might go in and she would give you a hug and apologize. She could act like nothing happens. Its just not that big of a deal. While the girls get jealous/upset, there's no reason for the guys to. Its fantasyland, guess what, you can spend your money on a different girl/fantasyland.

    I had a similar situation to CP one time at Treasures in Vegas. I asked a girl to join me, she said she had a client coming in and had an appointment, and of course I thought, WTF?!? Sure enough, some guy came in, she disappeared with this guy and his group, and when she came back, she gave me her number and told me that we could setup a time. It was my last time in vegas so I never did "setup the appointment" and of course its been lost since then.

    SCs are about fun, go, go back, have fun! Don't get too hung up in something not happening in one trip.
    Have we not heard the chimes at midnight?

    Once more, unto the breach, dear friends.

    If you prick us do we not bleed? If you tickle us do we not laugh? If you poison us do we not die? And if you wrong us, shall we not revenge?

    -- Its always amazed me how no one learns the lines from Shakespeare. I guess it is true that people don't learn history's lessons until something become's their history.

  26. #25
    Featured Member
    Joined
    Jan 2008
    Posts
    934
    Thanks
    10
    Thanked 66 Times in 44 Posts

    Default Re: Hasn't happened to me before.

    Quote Originally Posted by KS_Stevia View Post
    Obviously she was having a shitty night. How disrespectful she was to you depends on a lot of factors though, although from your perspective, it did seem she wasn't acting in a professional or courteous manner.
    We all can have a bad night. Catch me at the wrong moment, and I can be a major dick. Catch me at the right moment, and I'm much more fun. it happens to everyone. I wish we (people, not strippers, SCJs, but everyone) could do a better job of understanding that as well as trying to be more courteous to people. We all get frustrated at times, we should move on.
    Have we not heard the chimes at midnight?

    Once more, unto the breach, dear friends.

    If you prick us do we not bleed? If you tickle us do we not laugh? If you poison us do we not die? And if you wrong us, shall we not revenge?

    -- Its always amazed me how no one learns the lines from Shakespeare. I guess it is true that people don't learn history's lessons until something become's their history.

  27. The Following User Says Thank You to JoeUnCool For This Useful Post:


Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast

Similar Threads

  1. WHY stimulus hasn't and won't work.
    By Eric Stoner in forum Dollar Den
    Replies: 58
    Last Post: 11-13-2009, 10:08 PM
  2. Club hasn't called me to work yet.
    By sparkleeyz in forum Stripping (was Stripping General)
    Replies: 9
    Last Post: 03-22-2008, 08:16 PM
  3. I think I've improved, but the $$$ hasn't
    By lux_44 in forum Hustle Hut
    Replies: 8
    Last Post: 06-14-2007, 08:11 PM
  4. He hasn't called...
    By danni0316 in forum The Lounge
    Replies: 5
    Last Post: 03-23-2007, 11:16 AM

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •