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    I'm a female customer and just want to know what the tipping etiquette is for tipping strippers for private dances.

    I went to Spearmint Rhino (Melbourne, Australia) last week and paid for:
    $50 1 song topless and 1 song nude (times 4)
    So it was $200.00 all up. I wanted to tip the lovely ladies, but I have no idea what the appropriate amount is. 10%..20% of the private dance? Please let me know, so I can go back and pay extra as well as a tip, because I had a great time that night.

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    I would maybe tip her the cost of 1-2 dances or more depending how much you'd like to spend. Any and all tips are ALWAYS appreciated.

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    there isn't really a rule to go by as far as percentages go. most customers tend to tip between zero and 5 dollars for a lap dance. the lap dances at my club are 30 dollars so guys assume that 5 dollars is fair and some guys are like "why do I have to tip you?" (assholes) when I ask for a tip. last night though a guy tipped me 20 dollars without me even asking and that REALLY put a smile on my face.

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    I know I'm in the minority here, but I think it's ridiculous to expect a tip on top of already-expensive LD's (I consider $20 for 1 song expensive). Don't get me wrong--it's nice when it happens--but dancers who expect people to drop hundreds of dollars on them and then also expect a tip on top of that....seriously??

    Now, if an entertainer does an outstanding job, really makes the room super enjoyable for the customer, etc. etc., then a tip would be wonderful. I'm not anti-tipping. Just saying that expected tips seem counterintuitive to me. LD's cost $20, not $20+expected tip.

    Just my two cents.

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    I used to tip when the dances were $10 at my favorite club. I kept tipping when they went to $15 and then they went to $20. Now they are $30 a dance, and while I still will throw in a couple bucks once in a while, as a rule I don't tip. I will buy dinner and drinks for the girls I get dances from.

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    Quote Originally Posted by charlie61 View Post
    I know I'm in the minority here, but I think it's ridiculous to expect a tip on top of already-expensive LD's (I consider $20 for 1 song expensive). Don't get me wrong--it's nice when it happens--but dancers who expect people to drop hundreds of dollars on them and then also expect a tip on top of that....seriously??

    Now, if an entertainer does an outstanding job, really makes the room super enjoyable for the customer, etc. etc., then a tip would be wonderful. I'm not anti-tipping. Just saying that expected tips seem counterintuitive to me. LD's cost $20, not $20+expected tip.

    Just my two cents.
    expensive? I think having a young, fit, attractive, friendly girl...no...GODDESS grinding on your lap when you're a 40-70 year old man is priceless and these guys should be grateful to be able to afford something like that.

    I know I'm worth more than I make at my job. I give a damn good lap dance. Very sensual, lots of touching, smiling, and hard grinding so yes I expect a tip.

    Maybe I have an inflated ego as a result of being told how beautiful I am all night long, but am I wrong to think that we as women, not just dancers, are worth something!?

    I'll cut a guy a break if he spent his last dollar buying a lap dance from me, but I expect to be appreciated and if you like my lap dance, you can shell out a few more dollars to show your appreciation

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    Tipping in any industry right now is a standard 15-20% if it is deserved. Many older people still tip 10% because it was common when they were growing up, & as a dancer one should never look a gift horse in the mouth... just be grateful. If I think someone did a superb job I often tip more than 20%... my hair stylist for example generally gets a 25-30% tip.
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    Quote Originally Posted by charlie61 View Post
    I know I'm in the minority here, but I think it's ridiculous to expect a tip on top of already-expensive LD's (I consider $20 for 1 song expensive). Don't get me wrong--it's nice when it happens--but dancers who expect people to drop hundreds of dollars on them and then also expect a tip on top of that....seriously??

    Now, if an entertainer does an outstanding job, really makes the room super enjoyable for the customer, etc. etc., then a tip would be wonderful. I'm not anti-tipping. Just saying that expected tips seem counterintuitive to me. LD's cost $20, not $20+expected tip.

    Just my two cents.
    I do agree with this too.

    Except since moving out here and all the clubs take money from the lap dances.
    So I'm not getting a full $20 anymore.

    I think most guys think we get to keep all the entire $20. I dunno what it's like everywhere else, but that kinda sucks we only get like $15 out of the $20.

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    Quote Originally Posted by _Avery_ View Post
    I do agree with this too.

    Except since moving out here and all the clubs take money from the lap dances.
    So I'm not getting a full $20 anymore.

    I think most guys think we get to keep all the entire $20. I dunno what it's like everywhere else, but that kinda sucks we only get like $15 out of the $20.
    Yeah, that's a good point. However, it still costs the customer $20 whether we get the full $20 or not.

    Like I said, I'm not anti-tipping. It's just the attitude--that tips are expected/mandatory--that bothers me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by charlie61 View Post
    Yeah, that's a good point. However, it still costs the customer $20 whether we get the full $20 or not.

    Like I said, I'm not anti-tipping. It's just the attitude--that tips are expected/mandatory--that bothers me.

    I totally agree, I always feel weird asking for tips.
    DEFINITELY appreciated when they do come my way, just not gonna make a big deal about if they don't.

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    Quote Originally Posted by xGigi View Post
    expensive? I think having a young, fit, attractive, friendly girl...no...GODDESS grinding on your lap when you're a 40-70 year old man is priceless and these guys should be grateful to be able to afford something like that.

    I know I'm worth more than I make at my job. I give a damn good lap dance. Very sensual, lots of touching, smiling, and hard grinding so yes I expect a tip.

    Maybe I have an inflated ego as a result of being told how beautiful I am all night long, but am I wrong to think that we as women, not just dancers, are worth something!?

    I'll cut a guy a break if he spent his last dollar buying a lap dance from me, but I expect to be appreciated and if you like my lap dance, you can shell out a few more dollars to show your appreciation
    Oh where to begin. Maybe you should think about how grateful YOU should be that you have 40-70 men willing to buy lapdances from you and not from your other co-workers who might have better adjusted attitudes. If it wasn't for horny guys, you couldn't make the kind of money you do or have the kind of life that you have.

    The truth is, we all think we are worth more at our jobs but that does not mean we are always going to get what we want. That is the reality of life. I'm sure you are a beautiful woman, but so is the next girl...especially at a strip club.

    I really wish women like you had a big sign on your back, that way I can pick the next girl and give her a nice tip for a really great dance sans attitude.

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    Quote Originally Posted by crillin View Post
    Oh where to begin. Maybe you should think about how grateful YOU should be that you have 40-70 men willing to buy lapdances from you and not from your other co-workers who might have better adjusted attitudes. If it wasn't for horny guys, you couldn't make the kind of money you do or have the kind of life that you have.

    The truth is, we all think we are worth more at our jobs but that does not mean we are always going to get what we want. That is the reality of life. I'm sure you are a beautiful woman, but so is the next girl...especially at a strip club.

    I really wish women like you had a big sign on your back, that way I can pick the next girl and give her a nice tip for a really great dance sans attitude.
    I think part of what you're saying (though your tone is perhaps a bit inflammatory, so I'm going to try to rephrase what you're saying a bit more mildly) is that she's not being paid for her worth, she's being paid for the service she's providing.

    If jobs were all about self-worth, we'd probably all be banking.

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    Quote Originally Posted by charlie61 View Post
    I think part of what you're saying (though your tone is perhaps a bit inflammatory, so I'm going to try to rephrase what you're saying a bit more mildly) is that she's not being paid for her worth, she's being paid for the service she's providing.

    If jobs were all about self-worth, we'd probably all be banking.
    Yes I came across a little harsh but thought xGigi could use a reality check.

    Charlie, you succinctly summarized my thoughts. Thanks.

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    OP--Feel free to speak up if you feel that your thread is being taken wildly off course. The current discussion still seems very relevant to your initial question, but as a mod, I will respect the direction you wish to take it in.

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    not all jobs are about self-worth but dancing definitely is. you're not selling a product, you're selling your personality and your looks.

    Hustling is all about making the guy think that you're WORTH the x-amount of dollars to spend 3 minutes with you so how the hell can you do that if you don't think you're worth that money?

    if you KNOW you're worth that money other people will pick up on it. I've had customers tell me they love the fact that I'm confident and they'd rather get a dance from a girl who knows she's hot than one who's shy and unsure of herself.

    and crillin, from conversations I've heard in the dressing room and from what I've read pretty often on here, part of being a top earning dancer is knowing your value. our job is to take money from "horny men" who otherwise wouldn't be able to talk to a pretty girl much less get her to take her clothes off for him.

    yes, I have an attitude, and it's never stopped me from getting big fat tips from losers like you. so go ahead and give your money to whoever you feel like because little do you know that dancer might be thinking "ahah what a sucker". newsflash: the dancers don't like you, they like your money, but believe whatever you want. next time you go to a strip club, tell a girl you don't plan on buying any dances and see how long she sticks around. you'll see what I mean.

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    ^ Having an attitude/confidence definitely increases value and whatnot. It's a crucial element in hustling/dancing/making money in any kind of sales.

    But does that necessarily warrant an expected tip at the end of a dance?

    I mean, if I were in a club where I could set my own prices, I might choose to set my dance price at $30/dance (speaking very hypothetically)...which would be a different issue, since that would be upfront. You're saying that there is essentially a hidden cost at the end of your dances, which seems very different than charging more money upfront for a quality product.

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    xGigi, I'm not going to get into a flame war with you as I think the thread has de-railed enough already.

    I will say that I am not naive to believe that any of these dancers like me. From my perspective it is a business transaction, nothing more. You sell a fantasy, I pay for it so I have no other expectations otherwise. If you are doing well selling yourself and getting guys to tip you extra for it, good for you!

    My problem is with the expectation of getting a tip just because you are a hot, young female. Last I checked, when someone offered me a lapdance they did not say "oh it's $20 dollars+tip". If she had stated so, I would have politely declined. Having said that, I do tip but don't like the attitude and expectation that comes from some women. But maybe I can live with being called the "asshole" if that makes you feel better and yes, I love telling the girls I want to leave that I am not going to buy dances from them. Works everytime

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    Quote Originally Posted by charlie61 View Post
    ^ Having an attitude/confidence definitely increases value and whatnot. It's a crucial element in hustling/dancing/making money in any kind of sales.

    But does that necessarily warrant an expected tip at the end of a dance?

    I mean, if I were in a club where I could set my own prices, I might choose to set my dance price at $30/dance (speaking very hypothetically)...which would be a different issue, since that would be upfront. You're saying that there is essentially a hidden cost at the end of your dances, which seems very different than charging more money upfront for a quality product.
    Charlie, it seems I'm always one step behind you in your posts!

    I would love to go to the club where work! You come across as a very level headed woman!

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    Quote Originally Posted by crillin View Post
    Charlie, it seems I'm always one step behind you in your posts!
    No worries! It's actually a pretty interesting subject, considering how many grey areas there are surrounding tipping in industries like these. I always feel tipping-retarded. It's so hard to know what people expect, what's a good tip, what's a great tip, etc, etc, since a lot of it depends on the region, the individual person, and the establishment itself.

    I'm looking forward to when this book comes out: http://www.amazon.com/Keep-Change-Cl...=13FRKK6UM1KRS

    I guess it was researched exhaustively across different regions and jobs. Everything is supposedly included from stripping to waitressing.

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    I've never told a guy he HAS to tip me. it's not a "hidden cost" at the end of the dance I'll say something along the lines of "you can tip me if you want to" and they generally do. I've only ever had 2 guys walk away without tipping me. if the guy gives me a dollar, fine!

    expecting a tip and asking if you deserve a tip are two different things. as I said before, I give a great lap dance. men are never disappointed getting a lap dance or a champagne room from me, but many of them are confused about whether or not they should tip. it's not as clear-cut as tipping a waitress or a hairdresser. customers seem to think that strip clubs have all these unwritten rules and I've had a customer tell me "oh I didn't know if I was allowed to do that"

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    Quote Originally Posted by xGigi View Post
    I've never told a guy he HAS to tip me. it's not a "hidden cost" at the end of the dance I'll say something along the lines of "you can tip me if you want to" and they generally do. I've only ever had 2 guys walk away without tipping me. if the guy gives me a dollar, fine!
    Ah, cool. I guess I misread the tone in your first post. Didn't mean to offend ya. Just encouraging discussion.

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    no offense taken at all. I've had the same conversation with other dancers at my club and girls tell me they "feel bad" asking for tips, but it's totally up the guy. I've seen a a pretty good increase in my nightly earnings from lap dance tips alone. if you're afraid to ask for money, you're not cut out to be a stripper.

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    Quote Originally Posted by xGigi View Post
    no offense taken at all. I've had the same conversation with other dancers at my club and girls tell me they "feel bad" asking for tips, but it's totally up the guy. I've seen a a pretty good increase in my nightly earnings from lap dance tips alone. if you're afraid to ask for money, you're not cut out to be a stripper.
    Especially not in this economy! Asking seems very fair to me in a SC environment (whereas expecting doesn't seem fair). It's funny how different tipping industries have different sets of unspoken rules about tipping and whatnot. All of the ambiguity there can be exhausting.

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    Guys think strippers make so much anyway that they aren't obligated and they're not but it doesn't mean we don't want a little extra appreciation. Not to sound like the greedy stripper but you can't have too much money. Times are hard so it's good to have a little padding in your bank to fall on.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MinTay View Post
    I'm a female customer and just want to know what the tipping etiquette is for tipping strippers for private dances.

    I went to Spearmint Rhino (Melbourne, Australia) last week and paid for:
    $50 1 song topless and 1 song nude (times 4)
    So it was $200.00 all up. I wanted to tip the lovely ladies, but I have no idea what the appropriate amount is. 10%..20% of the private dance? Please let me know, so I can go back and pay extra as well as a tip, because I had a great time that night.
    There is no appropriate amount to tip, except what you decide to tip if anything. Tipping is strictly up to the customer. Me personally I've tipped anywhere from nothing up to $100, it just depends on how good a time I had in the club.

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