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    Default Hi, my name is Anissa and I have some questions about being a dancer : )

    Hello! I am really glad that I found this website, because I've been seriously considering (well, planning on) going into this industry for a while now, and I would really appreciate some advice as far as that goes.

    I'm sure you've heard this story a million times before, but I am moving out of my parents' house next summer and going to college next fall (planning to major in Game Art at an art college and going into the videogame industry later on). I am going to be living in a relatively expensive place (Laguna Beach), and while I am attending college, it would be best to find a job that has the potential to earn a lot of money in a short amount of time. Many of my friends have the typical "moral" disagreement with the idea of stripping but I do not. It's dancing, after all, and is an art in its own right; and, if what I hear is true, can make the dancer heaps of money.

    However, I also know that before committing to this job you need to know what you're getting yourself into, and while I'm pretty sure I know enough to be careful, I'm also certain that there's tons more that I need to learn. Also, now that I think about it, what is the best way to ask for a job at a club? I doubt that it's as simple as walking in there and saying, "Are you hiring dancers?" Anyway, I know that once I've settled with a club I want to ask about the tip out (kind of important) and about security. I know that it's in my best interest not to drink a drop of alcohol while working (especially seeing as I'm under 21). Also it's important to meet the staff, some of the dancers, and so on. That's about all that I'm armed with.

    Some of my friends have been warning me of dancers they know that had been assaulted (especially by other dancers), that the competition between the dancers is unbelievable, that it's overall a dangerous thing to do. I'm not dismissing any of that, I mean, yes, it does happen, but I also don't think there's any need to be a gloom-and-doom pessimist and assume that it happens everywhere. My impression is that a lot depends on the area, the club and the type of customers that visit there, among other things. Are they right and should I be worried or are those things very unlikely?

    Is the competition between the dancers really that vicious?
    What type of venue should I look for when picking a club (I don't really like any setting that's too frantic, I would prefer a slower, more mellow atmosphere)?
    Are there any red flags I should look for that would indicate that the staff are trying to take advantage of my inexperience?
    In other words, how can I recognise if there is any shadiness in a club?

    There's also another slight problem. As of right now, I don't "officially" know how to dance. I can move all right, I'm fairly sure I have the body for it, and I can kind of follow step-by-step directions, but I would feel much more comfortable with solid, in-person lessons. I know this type of class is available but things aren't as easy as they'd seem. The thing is, and I'm very sorry for breaking the site rules but I think you'll understand, I'm still 17 years old. I'll be turning 18 on the 31st of August and I want to start working right away. My question is whether there is some way I can still take those classes while I am 17, and unfortunately, taking into account the mindset of my parents, who will still (I think?) be my legal guardians even though I won't be living with them at the time, asking for their legal consent is not an option.

    Anyway, from what I can see this forum looks like an extremely useful resource, and I'd be very grateful for any advice you can give me on the above topics. Thank you all : )

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    Default Re: Hi, my name is Anissa and I have some questions about being a dancer : )

    just want to add, that you really should research more about working in orange county/los angeles. it's rough out here so start reading the forums about oc/la to give you a better idea of what dancing is like here.

    i'm not trying to discourage you from dancing but you need to be realistic about the 'heaps' of money you can make...knowing the cost of living in laguna and what you make dancing while going to school can be stressful.
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    Default Re: Hi, my name is Anissa and I have some questions about being a dancer : )

    Thank you for your thorough reply, xoAnnaBanana. I'll definitely keep those things in mind, and I'll be cruising the forum at least for the next few months, because this stuff is invaluable.

    I guess I am not too worried about competitive dancers now since I tend to be a pretty non-confrontational person (well, in situations like this I mean). I may be too much of an optimist but in general I think that if you're decent to people, they'll most likely be decent to you.

    Also, about the dancing -- by that I meant not only pole dancing but also lap dancing (which I think would be a little weird if classes taught that to teenagers, hence the expectation for 18+), and I understand that you probably don't need mad skills to make good money, but I've just grown up with the belief that if you want to be successful, you have to stand out, and if you want to stand out, you need to be the best. Just the mentality that I've always carried I suppose. And I think I'd just take comfort from the idea that I'm "doing it right," lol.


    rubyredlipsss, I've also heard that working in this area is pretty tough, but what are you going to do. I'm really hoping there are suitable clubs in Laguna Beach so I wouldn't have to go up to LA for work (as much as I like it there). It could be just a first impression but it's difficult to picture huge drama in Laguna, but I'll definitely look into it and I'll take a look around next time I'm there.

    And the cost of living...I'm not expecting it to be too bad because I am getting an apartment from a program that caters specifically to college students. Although my college doesn't have dorms or housing, it does help incoming students find good and low-price apartments. And of course I will be living with one or more roommates (one of whom is going to be my bestie, yay) so the rent itself shouldn't be very much of a bother, I doubt that for me it will be any higher than around $700 per month --- and, if luck is with me, I can make that in several nights : P

    However, I don't think I have any illusions about dancing being one big piece of cake. I know that there are good nights and bad nights and sometimes people walk out with less money than they went in with. The one thing that I think is on my side is that I am willing to give 100% effort, and I hope that eventually persistence will pay me back whatever I lost because of simple bad luck.

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    Default Re: Hi, my name is Anissa and I have some questions about being a dancer : )

    um...there are no strip clubs in laguna beach. you are going to have to drive, there's really no way around it...i guess the closest would be ecstasy in santa ana. i've never worked there so i can't say but i do know you'll have to commute. it sounds like you have a lot to learn about this industry...you do need 'skills' to be successful and you have to be a good hustler to make good money in southern california, i'm not the only one who believes this. and it can take time. yes, it's more money than working a minimum wage job but it can get wearing too, especially when you're in school.

    i started working here and have never worked anywhere else and made good money...i also started before the recession hit really hard and worked through the recession. but honestly, i read a lot about the clubs, had a friend who was already stripping and read about all the shitty/downsides to the industry to prepare.

    i'm not saying be pessimistic by any means...just realistic. no you shouldn't be worried about 'competitive dancers' and do your own thing...i'm just saying when people say there's competition out here, there really is. you have to really be on your game to make money consistently. i think once you start researching, you'll have a better idea of what to expect. there's quite a few fairly recent threads w/ club recommendations in the socal area.

    eta: check out zbone.com to also get familiar of where clubs are located and as a starting point of where you want to audition.
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    Default Re: Hi, my name is Anissa and I have some questions about being a dancer : )

    Check out this website its the ultimate strip club list is whatever state and city you are looking for....I did a ton of research before I started dancing and this was very helpful...although unless you buy a membership you cannot see all the reviews but for the most part you see what people think, prices of dances/drinks, etc and whether its gonna be a bikini, topless or nude. I am new to dancing and just finished my first week and although I was scared/nervous out of my mind, it gets easier through the days. As far as dancing goes when you go in check out how the other girls dance and you will get an idea of what to do and the same thing goes for lap dances too...I had never given one in my life and yes it was nerve racking the first couple of times but again it gets easier once you get through your first couple.

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    Default Re: Hi, my name is Anissa and I have some questions about being a dancer : )

    Hello !
    I am also a new member. Would a newcomer be warmly welcome here? Good day you guy

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