Avoiding the career and current job questions...
Lying about "this normal job" instead of telling them you strip...
Out of curiosity, does this limit the amount of intimacy you have in relationships with people who don't know your a stripper?
immediate family
entire/extended family
closest friend/s
acquaintances
partner
SO / whoever your dating
everyone who knows you


Avoiding the career and current job questions...
Lying about "this normal job" instead of telling them you strip...
Out of curiosity, does this limit the amount of intimacy you have in relationships with people who don't know your a stripper?
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everyone who is not my family. i am very open about it and have no shame. and its very rare that i get any disrespect for it.
i think being open about it keeps me happier.
The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.
I didn't tell anyone who didn't need to know.
Unless I was planning to be in a serious relationship with someone... I never thought they needed to know more than "I work in customer service."
I've never really been one to talk a lot about my job... no matter what the job was... so I never had to lie about my cover job as a stripper. So it didn't have any effect at all on my friend/relationships.
A few close friends, my ex (dated when I started).
I tell other people at school, or people who I meet that I work at a bar.







^yea it depends on your personality. im a very assertive and unashamed person by nature. people really dont give me shit for anything. a few exceptions, but most people respect me.
i wouldnt recommend being open about it to someone who struggled to get respect without people knowing. in that case it will be thrown in your face.
but if you have good self esteem and people in general dont give you shit- its much better this way. at least for me.
The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.
I started out having no one know, but it was just too big a secret to keep so I told my two closest friends, and my roomate. I told the guy i was dating at the time (I ironically started dancing around the same time we started seeing eachother) after we were together for 2 months. A couple of my other close friends know, and that's enough. Enough people know that I don't feel isolated/I have people to talk to about work. My family and everyone else I know thinks I'm a waitress at this random little bar that's far enough away they wouldn't ever venture there to check on me![]()



My parents didn't find out until a few months after I started. I told my mother out of spite lol. Then she told my aunt. My dad figured it out eventually. Surprisingly they didn't get upset.
The guy I have been dating off and on knew the moment I decided to become one. He was the one that had the hardest time with it, but he eventually warmed up to it.
Any new guys I date I tell if they ask. If the first date isn't going very well and they turn out to be a loser, it is the easiest way to get rid of them lol.
A former friend who was a fellow nude model knew. My current best friend knows. I told her shortly after I started.
Any neighbors, apartment management, parents of friends, other extended family, etc think I am a cocktail waitress. I don't think they really need to know what I do.
Oh. I guess I should've mentioned...
My reasoning for not telling anyone is just that I'm a very private person irl.
I don't like people asking ANYTHING. From what I do for a living to what kind of car I drive. To how many bedrooms are in my house.
Oh yes... The list of people who are like "Oh you're a stripper... so can I get a little show?" is RIDICULOUS. I HATE when people think that becuase I get naked FOR MONEY... I'm a horny slut who wants to get naked and ride their fucking cock for free.
Also. A lot of people will throw that sort of thing back in your face any time any sort of argument comes up. It's really shitty.
I'd just rather people not know than deal with any of the bullshit.




There was almost no way for me to keep my mom from knowing without a stupid amount of lies that I didn't want to tell out of respect.
I really wish that she didn't have to know but she had involved herself in my life so much that it was almost impossible for me to do it and her not know. At least, not without compromising my dignity.





Right now, only my closest friends, my boyfriend, and a couple of other people know I'm a stripper. I usually tell people I'm just a student, but if it's someone I really trust, I might open up to them. I tend to make it into a bigger deal than it is, for fear of how others will react, or if they'll gossip to other people. I *especially* don't want my boyfriend's family to know, because they're really conservative.
Yeah, it hinders my ability to get close to people. I don't like talking about anything too personal, and I try to act like a more straight-laced person, which I'm not. I've noticed that the number of friends I hang out with has gone way down since I started working at a strip club. It kinda sucks. : \ I wish I had the balls to just be open about it, but then, I don't want to do this forever, and I feel like it's best to just hide it in the meantime.





Pretty much everyone knows what I do. That's family, friends, previous landlords, etc. I don't have reason to hide it. Even many of my college professors knew. I was required at one college to take an ethics course for my degree, which was taught by a minister - who found it intriguing & always wanted to talk to me about it. There was no judgement, he'd just ask questions about it privately & I'd answer. Personally I'd much rather that people know. If they are the type to judge me for it then I don't want to deal with them in my life. People don't really talk down to me about it though, probably because I've danced while doing other "professional" jobs for so long. Now I don't have another job, but everyone knows that I could. The other thing about being honest about what I do is other people know better than to talk a bunch of smack about this business around me, they self censor themselves, & if they don't/forget then I can stand up regarding what I do without shame.
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Pretty much everyone I know knows. I got pissed one day because someone was talking smack to me about my job, and that was the last straw. I announced it on my facebook lol. I figured the guilt of keeping it a secret was far worse than anything anyone could say/think of me. I'm not ashamed of what I do, so why hide it? Anyone who thinks low of me based on my job isn't worth my time anyways, so its an easy way to pick out my "real" friends and family.





There should be a box "everyone one the internet"
I told my mom after 8 years.
My stepsister's husband found my site through a Facebook friend of friend suggestion...so now the steps know
My exhusbands family found out during the divorce (everything comes out then....but they didn't know for 9 years)
My boyfriend knows and wants me to lie about it (causing issues because um, hello, I'm not just a stripper.....I'm SUPER Stripper! LOL!)
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everybody with an internet connection ?



My family, friends and the people I date know. I'm honest to a point, not ashamed of being a stripper but I don't like broadcasting it. I don't say much if some random guy asks me at a bar what I do for a living....that leads to nothing but bullsh*t.





Just three exes.
I am always thinking about " coming out " but haven't for various reasons.
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The only people that know me that don't know I'm a stripper is my extended family but then again they don't even know where I live much less do they care about what I do for a profession.
My immediate family knows, my boyfriend's immediate family knows, my friends know, and his friends know. I'm not shy about being a dancer.





All of my friends know, and some cousins.




my parents don't know and I feel like it's hurting my relationship with them. I have to lie so much to the point where I now avoid answering their calls. I told them I worked in a restaurant and they were like "oh what restaurant? where is it? what kind of food is it? can we visit you?" my parents are VERY VERY VERY nosy so I told them I quit the restaurant and now I work in an office and whenever they ask questions I just say "oh I don't want to talk about work" and change the subject. when my grandparents started prying about my job I had to be really rude to them because they were asking a LOT of questions. I'm like it's just fucking work! it's a stupid part time job why do we have to talk about it?
the majority of my friends don't know that I dance because I'm not a very trusting person by nature. the only people I've told are people who I KNOW can keep a secret or people that I can blackmail easily. it's bad, I know, but this is my personal life and the last thing I need is everyone I know and their mothers coming into my job to see me half naked. I also travel pretty far to avoid that.


I hear ya here sister. Lately I don't know what it is but it's been frustrating the hell out of me. Although I've already struggled with this very-open/trusting versus secretive complex of mine... it's just multiplied every since I started stripping lol. Wish I had the balls too. And I wonder if I should hide it...in the meantime...I don't know how long I will be stripping. I just started this summer.


lol xGigi -your nosy parents... sound like a nosy guy friend of mine who constantly asks about my cocktail waitressing job! "When do you work?" "Where?" "I'll have to see you sometime!!" I'm like, nooo...
Yeah and only three people know. Two aren't even in a friends circle. And one I can easily blackmail. Guess we're both pretty crafty.






This is how my mom found out. She would ask me so many stupid questions. What were my hours, when was I working, how much was I making an hour (at my stupid mall job). I started cutting her off because it made me uncomfortable that she essentially wanted to know exactly how much money I was making. When I started to be more vague about it she started catching on. Like, I just wanted her off my fucking back. I hated that every time I went over there she would interrogate me about money. So holy fuck. When I told her that I didn't want the money she gave me anymore (I'm spoiled and she would supplement my income. I wasn't comfortable with dancing and taking her money) she demanded to know what I was doing.
If she was just not so nosy and not so overly involved in my life, no one would have known. It annoys me that I feel bad about how she feels. At the same time, I don't really mind that she knows because she set herself up for it.




Also wanted to add that my extended family might have an idea out of suspicion because I haven't been answering their questions about my job as much. Like, why is it so importat that you know exactly where I work, exactly what I do at work and how much I work. Talk to me about my hair and makeup or something equally stupid!
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