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    I already know i am attractive enough and I have a good body. This isnt one of those am I too fat, ugly, tall, short, cellulite questions...
    Ive worked as a waitress in a SC for a short time about 4 yrs ago. I didnt really like it though. I guess I was just too nervous. I am not the most social outgoing person in the world.
    But I am in some credit card debt and I wanna start planning for my future, I want to finish my degree and I would like to just get a jump start out of the hole I am in. Im 28 soon to be 29 and Im currently working full time.
    I am deciding between dancing or camming. Not sure which one Id be better at. I have a pole at home that I have practiced on and use for exercise. I dont have any issues with taking clothes off or showing my body off.
    But i will admit i AM shy. Till i get a few drinks in me. Most people I meet and interact with have no idea im actually quite introverted. Its an act though.
    So my question here is.. do you HAVE to be outgoing to be a dancer? Or do other personality types do well also?

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    I would say I have a pretty shy personality. For me, one of the hardest parts of the job is approaching the customers. Once I'm there I'm fine, it's just the walking up to them that gives me a little anxiety for some reason.
    I haven't been dancing too long, but it's definitely gotten easier since I started.

    As far as drinking goes, when I started out I would work sober. I wanted to make sure that I could do it sober, and that I wouldn't need alcohol to do the job.
    I do drink on the job now (but never get drunk). It just makes it easier for me to approach the customers, and definitely helps put me in a better mood if I'm feeling stressed. I like to start my shift at the bar with a drink and just take a minute to see who is there and get my head in the game. After that if guys want to buy me drinks that's fine but I don't spend anymore of my own money at the bar.

    I'm not telling you should drink at work, I'm just being honest about my experience as a shy dancer. For some people I think not drinking is better for them, and for others it's fine to have a few drinks.

    Either way,once you start and get used to everything I think the shyness will get better whether you drink or not.

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    I think dancing might actually help bring you out of your shell a bit after you've been at it for a couple months! There are definitely more introverted dancers around, you can develop a hustle style that suits your personality! Maybe you can be the quiet mysterious chick. If you know you're super hot you have one leg up already I think (confidence wise I mean).

    I agree on the making sure not to get drunk at work especially when first starting, I think it makes it harder to treat dancing like a job when you're intoxicated. I've only gotten a bit past ti[sy once, but I noticed my mentality switched over to "party mode" off of "work mode". Drinking a little definitely does come with the job, especially at nighttime, it might be better for you to start in the daytime: there's no pressure to drink, and everyone will be much mroe relaxed. The bar will be quieter and it might be easier for you to approach people!

    Good luck, keep us updated

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    You could try getting a prescription to loosen you up. I didn't realize I had an anxiety disorder until I got a low dose of prozac for post partum and my life completely changed. I realized being shy about approaching people was part of my anxiety. Just a suggestion, especially since you mentioned a few drinks help.
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    All sorts of personality types dance.
    I know a ton of SUPER shy girls. Being shy doesn't seem to negatively effect their money much.
    May as well give it a try.
    Just make sure those couple drinks to loosen you up don't become a necessary thing to work.
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    I work perfectly sober, I'm a bitch. I still make money because I am obscenely cute with my big eyes and button nose.

    As I have consistently observed the 2 F's in this business have better personalities.

    I'm feeling really narcissistic right now. I look so cute in my new penguin PJ's.
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    i always been really introverted, never could strike up conversation with strangers or make a ton of drunk friends.
    the short answer is yes, you can be a dancer and do well it will just take you longer to achieve better results than those who are naturally outgoing.
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    You sound a lot like me. When I was 19 I got a job waitressing at a SC in Miami, and didn't like it cuz I was super super shy, and quit after a month.

    Then a year and a half ago (when I was 24) I started stripping, and was still really shy. Since then I've opened up a LOT, like more than I ever thought possible. Really, if you stick with it you won't believe how much it'll bring you outta your shell. I now like, actually have social skills, & can carry on convos while stone-sober, with sober OR drunk people.

    I think also the years inbetween waitressing and dancing gave me time to grow up a bit more and become more confident.

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    I started when I was 15, running with an older crowd. I've never been shy at ALL. I was a bit promiscuous as well. (A slut by modern American bourgoise standards)

    I had my own apartment by 16, under the name "Betty Page". The landlord didn't give a shit that an obviously underaged girl was living there, seeing as I paid my rent months in advance. However, once in awhile the cops would haul me back to my mom's house. (Or rather who happened to be her boyfriend at the time house). I would promptly run back to my apartment an hour later.
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    Quote Originally Posted by tempest666 View Post
    I started when I was 15, running with an older crowd. I've never been shy at ALL. I was a bit promiscuous as well. (A slut by modern American bourgoise standards)

    I had my own apartment by 16, under the name "Betty Page". The landlord didn't give a shit that an obviously underaged girl was living there, seeing as I paid my rent months in advance. However, once in awhile the cops would haul me back to my mom's house. (Or rather who happened to be her boyfriend at the time house). I would promptly run back to my apartment an hour later.
    Wow here all this time I thought Tempest was a shy little thing.

    Seriously though, JessDoll I am somewhat shy and am very different in real life versus club. What I did was create a persona and let go of my shyness at the club. In real life I would never approach anyone in public.

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    I was a very shy person and still sometimes feel weird socialing with new people. But anyway Im usually quiet, and more to myself in my normal life. When I started working in the SC through-out time I noticed it made me more talkive (to strangers, store ppl, restaurants) when I usually had trouble speaking with them.

    Anyway, even if you;re shy, all it takes is a smile and "hi whats your name?" from there a conversation leads on, you dont just t be jumping or shaking your ass in front of the guy, just be flirty even if its mild and it will come out naturally. When I had a few drinks at work it loosened me up and I acted like I could talk to anyone and feel more "cozy" but I wouldnt get drunk, just so I didnt have the akward feeling, but dont reply on drinking, since you will notice your shyness going away within time even if your not outgoing.

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    I was also shy when I started dancing. Like the other girls have said, dancing can really bring you out of your shell and make you more outgoing at work and outside of work. A lot of the time getting over shyness just takes practice, so when you're forced to be social, you naturally become less shy. What helps me is when I feel shy and don't know what to say, I ask people questions about themselves. People usually love to talk about themselves.

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    Just think about your ultimate goal for wanting to doing this. I am shy person and I am usually pretty quiet. But this way will never make you money. I had to be loud and actually be more stupid. I have a masters in biochem. Most guys want the airhead dumb duhhhh girls. I find if I have an intelligent conversation, they spent far less if I act like dumb idiot. I don't know why this works but I spent three hours the other night in the vip room twirling my hair. In real world, my hair is the last thing I would twirl.

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    I am not so much shy as much as I just don't like most people. Dancing was a struggle for me, but you can do it; everyone can do it, but some people will find it easier than others. If you are shy, or not personable, you will have to learn to play the game and put on an act. It may be more challenging for you to achieve the right mindset but you can get there and you can do well. It will take time. Don't be hard on yourself after an awkward exchange with a customer, just ask yourself what you can learn for next time.

    I hope someone has said this already, but if you are the type of shy person who finds themselves getting pushed around by people with stronger wills, don't drink. It's hard enough to deal with people constantly and rudely testing your boundaries when you are sober.

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    I used to be completely shy when I started dancing-wouldnt approach guys unless the came up to me, sat by myself at the bar nursing my drink. It took a couple of weeks, but once I forced myself to go up and talked to some of the customers, I found out that a lot werent that bad. I started off going up to guys that came in alone, or regulars that came in that everyone knew, just to build up my confidence. Some guys like the shy girl thing. I know it is terrifying but for me, once I did it enough times, it became no big deal. Usually the worst that happens is someone turns me down for a dance-but the next guy may not. Ive learned not to take it personal. ever guy has their type.

    What if you tried working during some of the slower shifts to get your confidence up? Monday day shift will probably be less hectic than saturday night shift.

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    There is a certain personality type that is more suited to being a dancer. In the same manner of speaking a certain personality type is more likely to excel at being a computer programmer, scientist, author, waitress, law enforcement officer, etc. That is obvious. What you want to know is how to cater your natural persona to that of a dancer.

    Well you can't change your intrisic personality, but you can alter it some. Your ultimate goal from dancing is a great basepoint to keep in mind as a previous poster noted. That can motivate you to act outside your natural persona. Since credit card debt seems to be a motivator, remember how much better you'll feel when you are free and clear. Write small goals before work to keep you motivated.

    DO NOT I repeat DO NOT rely on alcohol. Because once you do, there is NO turning back. Personal experience has taught me this. Even on haitus for 8 months once I started I needed a certain "cocktail" of alcohol/meds during certain intervals of work, because it became habit. A bad habit, which really can't be unlearned, so don't learn it.

    Since you have a pole at home, why not be a cam girl who specializes doing pole tricks. That could be a new spin (no pun intended) on webcam and dancing. Combine both and eliminate the stressors of large crowds, etc.
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    You have to be a chameleon and CHANGE your personality type to gain rapport with the customer. If he is a Red, use the Hot buttons that appeal to Reds. If he is a Blue, then you are too.
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