I'm sorry to hear this, Charlie. I always found the feeling of losing someone or being shut out hurts the most.
It happened to me plenty of times. It's always when you don't expect it, isn't it?
Years, years ago, I was in a LDR with this guy. We were friends first and he developed feelings for me after a while, but I refused all his attempts at romance, trying to be level headed and think about all the things I don't wanna deal with: the distance, him being several years younger than me (not an issue in itself, he was just very young then) and so on. I budged after a few months in which he did some wonderful things and I let someone in for the first time ever. In the time we spent together, I grew immense love and trust for him. A year and a half into our relationship, he called me one day to tell me he has some problems with his dad about me and he won't be able to call me for a little while. It was a minute convo after which he hung up and didn't call me again. For 5 months. Nor did he answer my phone calls or respond to my heartbroken voicemails where I was crying and begging him to just explain to me what was going on.
Back then, I had no idea what happened. I was a zombie during the first months. If he had broken up with me, I would've at least known a reason and I would know it's over. The not knowing combined with shock and a sense of loss intensify everything and bring it to a much worse point, so I understand why are you so bewildered now. You feel everything is going great and all of a sudden WHAM, smack in the face.
Sounds incredible, but I'm with that guy now, years later. And don't think he didn't repent it and worked hard to make it up to me. He still feels guilty, I wish he'd just get over it, I mean, I did, dammit.
In hindsight, I can see some causes for that big breakdown. He was young, we got very serious (not on my insisting), I was far away, his parents disliked me very much and talked (and still talk) shit about me, they are very controlling and pushy, he was a young horndog and saw me only on rare occasions, girls everywhere...and instead of telling me how he felt, he did the worst possible thing and bailed on me, leaving me completely broken.
People sometimes don't know how to express what's bugging them. Instead they keep it to themselves and often expect you to pick up hints from a raised eyebrow or a shrug when you have no freaking idea anything is going on.
I don't know you personally, but on the board you seem like a very sweet, honest and level headed person. I imagine you would know if you did something. That's why I laid out my whole story: I'm trying to explain it
often happens that you didn't do absolutely anything wrong and people push you away for whatever reasons, for something that's going on in their separate universe.
I've seen that you wrote somewhere else that you tend to forget social contact (not hang out with your friends for a long time and not notice the amount of time that elapsed) and you say for yourself you're very calm. Sometimes people mistake calm for cold, and if you haven't been seeing your sisters often, is it possible they took that as a lack of interest and the deterioration of your relationship that your sister is talking about?
As for feeling unsafe...I have no idea what to make of it.
Maybe it all got blown out of proportion by talking behind your back. You know, in the same sense as when people start discussing someone and if they're in the element "shy" easily turns into "socially incompetent" and "weird" and "sociopatic". People exaggerate.
When two people discuss your behavior without your input it's a perfect opportunity for that.
If it happened to me, I would most likely insist on an explanation, and if my efforts were in vain, I would tell them to contact me when they are ready to talk about it.
But trust me, I know, not knowing is venomous, so if they're decisive not to give you a reason, do your best to focus on other things in your life and not obsess over it. I am sure you will find out what happened eventually, these things always tend to emerge on the surface. Hopefully you'll patch things up with your sisters, too.


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