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    Default I feel like I need a sign that reads

    "Don't date the customers"

    This is more of a rant. If you have other examples feel free to post them.

    At one of my favourite out of state clubs (for the girls - not the money) a new waitress was recently hired. FYI, Tempest666 this is your old stomping grounds. Anyhow, I realize this girl is young & very naive. She came from a job in the religious sector, & she was also very shy. The girls at the club were giving her a hard time because she kept messing up the drink orders, & I was trying to be nice because I know the job was a lot different than what she was used to, & a lot more fast paced. Apparently this new waitress pretty much "settled in" between the first time I met her & the next time when I traveled back to the club. When I came in the last time she dashed into the dressing room freaked out & said to me:
    "I've been giving out my number a lot here, & I've been dating 6 of the customers... & 5 of them are in the club right now!" Okay, first, I am irritated that she's giving her number to customers & then dating them. I find it amusing that more than 1/2 of them showed up at the same time on the same night. However, my irritation level about sky rocketed when I discovered that she'd been going out with a few customers that I'd been getting large amounts of money from. So guess who wasn't making any money off of these former customers? Me. Ugh. I really am less than thrilled. I feel like it would serve her right to get caught by all of these guys & have them all dump her.

    Now I am at another club & had a similar situation last night. I met this guy the last time I was here who was super sweet, & we connected over his favourite author - Jared Diamond. He bought a number of dances from me the last time I was in town. He found me on Facebook, responds to my updates, & seemed excited that I was coming back to the club. Last night he comes in & I'm super excited to see him (gave him a big hug), but also really busy with other customers. When I get a chance to go talk to him I notice another dancer talking to him. I keep checking in & this dancer is over there a lot. I went on stage & made a lot of money, so I walk to the end of the bar to unfold & stack all of it. The customer comes over & starts talking to me, but at the same time it seems like he's putting me off. Then he tells me that he just started DATING the other dancer a few weeks ago. I excuse myself & tell him I need to get back to work. When I walk back over to the juke box to put my next set of songs in he comes over & starts talking to me. The conversation basically went:

    Him: Since I'm dating Lucy I'm not sure what the tipping procedures are to other dancers.

    Me: Well, you need to ask her that.

    Him: Can't you just tell me.

    Me: No, not if you two are an "item". Unless you aren't an "item" & you just think the two of you are an "item".

    Him: I *think* we are an item. She's been sleeping at my house a few days each week.

    Me: You just need to ask her.

    Him: Why?

    Me: Look, just be careful. I trust most dancers less than I trust an auto mechanic.
    (I really figured she was just stringing him along, probably for money. I don't want to talk to him because I don't want her mad at me. All I care about at this point is getting him to go away & not bother me.)

    He finally walks away. Then later on that night I realize which dancer it was that he was sitting with & dating. This girl is a veteran dancer, she's been drunk every night since I've been here, not very pretty & she's really heavy set. This guy could do so much better! He's a school teacher, doesn't drink, he's smart & funny. I don't get why he's with her other than she's obviously easy.

    So later on I go upstairs & notice that one of the other veteran dancers (in her early 40's) is upstairs with a migraine. This woman gets her money, but also hustles presents like Chanel sunglasses that she gives away as Christmas presents to her friends & family. She gets presents all through the year & just gives them away. We start talking, I give her something for her migraines which she's super thankful for... & then the dancer/girlfriend walks into the dorm room. Turns out that the dancer who I have a lot of respect for is best friends with the dancer/girlfriend. The dancer/gf is once again drunk & the customer is waiting to take her home with him. I'm totally disgusted with this dancer/gf. I mean she's not exactly a prize, but then she's also taking away an opportunity for me to make decent money off of this customer. I'm not amused at all. I'm even less amused that her new beau is still interested in talking to me. At this point I think I'd have more respect for this girl if she were actually charging this guy than going home with him drunk for free. Ugh... I'm guessing it's just been so long since she's had "any" that she doesn't care how she's effecting other dancers.

    The more annoying thing? The dancer/gf was screaming at two other dancers today because they showed up late, we are booked here so since they were late & we were down to 5 dancers we all had to do 4 song sets until they arrived. She told them it was really disrespectful to show up two hours late to a booking. I agree, but really, I think it's also pretty disrespectful to your co-workers to start taking potential money away from them by seeing customers OTC... especially for free! This girl is a veteran, she should know better! Apparently she never learned or she'd be making more money, not having her beau at work, & not so wasted that she can't work.

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    I think that in little areas ( I'm pretty sure I know roughly where you are talking about ) , this kind of stuff does happen . People run into each other outside the clubs too . BUT ..... but but but ... significant others should STAY OUTSIDE OF THE CLUB unless they are tipping and buying dances. I think it's been mentioned on here before, but I've also literally sat with someone a song or two BEFORE they tell me they are dating someone and can't get dances. Then I of course want to slap the girl for wasting my time because she should KNOW not to allow her guy ( or girl ) to be there if they are not spending. So yeah ... I've run into the same damn thing .

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    Uggh, that sounds horrible! Reminds me of one girl I used to work with who used the club like a dating site, she'd pick up a guy there and date him for 3-4 weeks then dump him and find another guy. Seriously it's girls like this that are the reason we have so many customers coming in thinking we're easy and they can just ask for our numbers.

    Worst thing was she was young and pretty and would've had no trouble picking up at a night club. She used to actually say things like "I hope some cute, young guys come in, I need a new bf." Though at least it wasn't taking money away from the other girls as she'd always end up taking home broke, uneducated, time wasters. Still drove me insane, everyone knew about it but nobody seemed to care.

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    Quote Originally Posted by carmen_b View Post
    I think that in little areas, this kind of stuff does happen . People run into each other outside the clubs too.
    The first story is from a rather big city, so it wasn't a case of she just ran into the guys OTC. The second situation the male customer specified to me that he'd met the dancer inside the club... which I believe since no one really leaves the dorms once they get here. I'm somewhat lucky that I'm staying in an apartment separate from the main dorms - keeps me out of the drama. I had another dancer come up to me & said something about the dancer who was dating my previous customer. It was all I could do to hold my tongue & just let her run her mouth.


    Quote Originally Posted by carmen_b View Post
    BUT ..... but but but ... significant others should STAY OUTSIDE OF THE CLUB unless they are tipping and buying dances. I think it's been mentioned on here before, but I've also literally sat with someone a song or two BEFORE they tell me they are dating someone and can't get dances. Then I of course want to slap the girl for wasting my time because she should KNOW not to allow her guy ( or girl ) to be there if they are not spending. So yeah ... I've run into the same damn thing .
    I think clubs should make significant others wear wrist bands so the rest of us know who not to talk to... unless the dancer has given the S.O. the "okay" to buy dances etc. Its becoming far too big of a problem & it wasn't like this when I first started.


    Quote Originally Posted by Amareth View Post
    Seriously it's girls like this that are the reason we have so many customers coming in thinking we're easy and they can just ask for our numbers.
    Yes! I give out my contact information/name for 1 reason... business. Examples:
    - If they want to know when I'm coming back to the club/area
    - If they travel a lot & prefer seeing dancers in the club that they already know.
    - If they are wanting to do a bachelor/private party
    - If they could somehow be useful to me & we discover that we know some of the same people. For example, I met a bachelorette the night before her wedding who knows & good friend of mine in the P.R. business. The bachelorette is a social networking consultant & agreed to give me a really good discount on her services.


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    Mine stays out of the club until 1:15 and then he picks me up. He doesn't need and pussy grinding on him unless I pick it out.
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    they will figure it out themselves why they shoouldnt do this when it becomes apparent the customer is only fucking them for the benefit of bragging to their friends he got to fuck a stripper for free. its only the matter of time.
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    Default Re: I feel like I need a sign that reads

    Kylea Ive always liked the clubs that had the no dating customers policies and didnt allow customers who dated dancers to come in.

    I dont need more drama than I create myself so I agree they need signs that tell girls not to date the customers.

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    Or in my case" Do not marry customers" My 3rd union (invalidated) was the result of me marrying the bisexual army boy. I met him at Foxy's in El Paso
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    I would never let my boyfriend come to the club. I told him straight out that even if he was just sitting at the bar, the girls would think he was a customer and would be on him like white on rice. he was like "well I'll just tell them no" and I'm like "no you don't UNDERSTAND. the girls don't like to take no for an answer. they'll try to twist your arm into going for a lap dance with them and then they'll get mad at you for wasting their time.

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    I worked at a club that had a huge sign in the dressing room sayng "NO boyfriends/pimps/guy friends allowed UNLESS they are buying dances"
    And they enforced that rule too. Wish more clubs did this. Great post/rant Kylea! Very very true. I made the mistake of dating one customer...and what a disaster that was. Never again!!

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    ^THAT would be great at my club. there are actually quite a few dancers whose boyfriends regularly come in and when I was new I would get so embarrassed because I would try to hustle them. one time the bartender had her boyfriend come in and I saw him talking to her and I didn't think that they were dating because the bartender talks to everyone a lot so I sat down next to him and he just looks at me and goes "uhhh..." and then looked at the bartender and she was like "oh he's here for me"

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    At my old club, we had a rule that boyfriends were NEVER allowed inside the club.

    Girls broke the rule all the time, especially if they were fucking the owner and could get away with it. But I never saw it turn out well. It sucks when you're trying to hustle and find out mid-dance that the guy you're dancing for is dating the dancer who is glaring daggers at you from across the room. It a very quick and easy way to make enemies. And it's total bullshit; that's not something we should be concerned about when we're trying to work.

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    I feel I need this sign too! We have a girl here who likes to poach another girl's customers (she's done it twice) and then start "dating" them. Our manager finally said "If you're dating a customer, he can't come in anymore" and she threw a fit about it, saying he (the manager) just cut off her money. In reality, she's making it harder on the rest of us to make money because we don't date customers.

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