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    Default He's just not that into you... Stripclub version

    Get the hint and move on. Not only is the customer NOT buying a dance he is also doing any number of these things-

    *Refusing to make eye contact and giving you one word answers.
    * The whole group sits down and gets comfortable with the dancers, your guy remains standing. And looking around curiously
    * He orders drinks for the table and doesn't include you ( not even an offer of a water or soft drink)
    * He excuses himself to go to the restroom and 10 minutes pass and he's not back.( But you keep waiting there like an idiot)
    * His body language is CLEARLY saying he is not interested( but you try to take his hand and put on your thigh or rub his chest)


    Last night was slow, it's a week before Thanksgiving but damn have some pride about yourself.

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    Default Re: He's just not that into you... Stripclub version

    By all means hustle them--sometimes these guys are just socially awkward rather than disinterested. But if you keep getting no's after a couple of songs, go away!

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    Default Re: He's just not that into you... Stripclub version

    Great post and I agree. I don't believe in the whole "he's just not into you" scam (the book was written by an alcoholic comedian) but what you posted is completely true. Guys in the club interested in a particular dancer let it be known.

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    Default Re: He's just not that into you... Stripclub version

    i hate this shit. if you're sitting there and both of you are staring into space for a good 10+ mins you need to move your ass and quit camping out.
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    Default Re: He's just not that into you... Stripclub version

    lol. This stuff never happens to me. I'm pretty up front about the whole "is this gonna work, you got any money?" and I'm not going to waste more than a couple songs on someone who isn't going to pay. That and there's always a pair of eyes beckoning me over like lost puppies.
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    Default Re: He's just not that into you... Stripclub version

    Ugh, I remember being oblivious to some of these things when I was new. It's important for a girl to pick up on mens' signals, but seriously, can't guys be man enough to be straightforward?

    Lately I've been really upfront with guys who seem wishy-washy when I approach them. If they seem uninterested, I walk away. Not worth the effort, when there are tons of other guys to hustle.

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    Default Re: He's just not that into you... Stripclub version

    if a guy starts acting that way I'll just ask him for a dance once and walk away. I've had times where a guy won't make eye contact and was looking at other girls around the room the entire time I was sitting with him and when I asked him for a dance he said ok. some guys are just awkward.

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    Default Re: He's just not that into you... Stripclub version

    totally agree.

    usually there's a difference between a guy who's just nervous or awkward vs one who isn't into you.

    i'm oversensitive though. i'll give up on guys who are interested, or not talk to them in the first place if they aren't giving me the signals. but i can be very shy and awkward myself when i'm into somebody, so i've been working on this. i'll listen to how the guy makes me feel. if he makes me feel nervous, it's likely he's just nervous too. if he makes me feel like walking away, that's probably what i should do.

    i actually find it way more important to keep an eye out for the guys who are "interested" but who aren't gonna spend money. they give all the right signals and then some.

    then there are the guys who aren't interested at all, but who act interested out of pity or compulsion or habit or something.
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    Default Re: He's just not that into you... Stripclub version

    customers who act TOO interested can be bad too. ever get the guy who wants to talk your ear off all night but won't buy a dance and you can't pull yourself away?

    the first guy I talked to last night, not sure if he had some sort of mental disorder, but anyway, he called out to me as I was walking by, bought 2 rounds of shots for him, me, and the bartender, literally told me this like 20 minute story about his job (which is way more time than I'll even spend with a customer, but I didn't want to be rude and it seemed like he might spend some money on me if he had a few more drinks), asked me a hundred questions about myself, and then when they finally called me over on stage he kept talking to me even when the DJ kept saying "GIGI to the stage WHERE is Gigi? Gigi to the stage please". I got up on stage and the guy didn't even tip me. he didn't even get up from his seat. I went over to him after my set and figured hey since I wasted like 45 minutes with this guy maybe he's ready for a dance. nope. he said "sorry I don't get lap dances". did he try to keep talking my ear off though? you bet he did. it was like some sort of sick joke. finally I just said "you know I'm not getting paid by the hour to stand here half naked talking to you" and he got the hint.

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    Default Re: He's just not that into you... Stripclub version

    Quote Originally Posted by xGigi View Post
    I went over to him after my set and figured hey since I wasted like 45 minutes with this guy maybe he's ready for a dance. nope. he said "sorry I don't get lap dances". did he try to keep talking my ear off though? you bet he did. it was like some sort of sick joke. finally I just said "you know I'm not getting paid by the hour to stand here half naked talking to you" and he got the hint.
    Honestly I DO think it's a sick joke with guys like this. They know what the deal is. Just as you wouldn't sit in a diner drinking water for an hour and never ordering he knows he's stealing your time, your most precious commodity. Anybody who wasn't a rude,entitled prick would sense you trying to pull away and would allow you to. In the future DO NOT hesitate to pop the question after 2-3 songs. If he doesn't say yes or at least perk up and look like he's considering a dance, abort mission--get outta there!!! Otherwise its a long passive aggrssive night of him sitting back and watching your discomfort and getting off on that!
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    Default Re: He's just not that into you... Stripclub version

    ^ yeah, there are guys that do that. after a while, you'll figure out how to spot them within the first minute.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Optimist View Post
    Honestly I DO think it's a sick joke with guys like this. They know what the deal is. Just as you wouldn't sit in a diner drinking water for an hour and never ordering he knows he's stealing your time, your most precious commodity. Anybody who wasn't a rude,entitled prick would sense you trying to pull away and would allow you to. In the future DO NOT hesitate to pop the question after 2-3 songs. If he doesn't say yes or at least perk up and look like he's considering a dance, abort mission--get outta there!!! Otherwise its a long passive aggrssive night of him sitting back and watching your discomfort and getting off on that!
    I tried pulling away from this guy, but I wanted to at least ask for a lap dance first. my rule is to always ask no matter HOW bad the conversation goes. a guy could literally insult me to my face and I would still ask him for a dance. I mean, if the guy had said yes it wouldn't have been a TOTAL waste of time, right? I mean, the guy was an asshole, but hopefully you get what I mean lol

    the only problem was this guy was just talking and talking and talking I could not get a word in AT all. I would have had to interrupt him mid-sentence which would have been rude and made it a definite no. I considered walking away mid-sentence, but I didn't want to blow the chance that he could have been a big spender. He was sure spending a lot at the bar.

    Normally I don't spend more than 5-10 minutes with a customer. My favorite hustling style is to introduce myself and hit him with a quick one liner and off we go into the lap dance room. BELIEVE me I hate to waste time. I just didn't want to ruin a potential customer. It's really a tough job sometimes haha

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    ^ bust out laughing about how he's blathering on about non-sexy things in a stripclub. that'll shut him up long enough to ask. and you can actually do this without being a bitch. just act stupid and like you think it's just the funniest thing that he's talking to you like you don't have your tits hanging out.

    he'll still probably say no, because he's not there to get dances. but it'll certainly interrupt him.

    they don't care about what they're saying. that's the part you have to realize. they aren't trying to communicate with you. they're just giving their monologue. or really, it's like a filibuster. so don't feel guilty interrupting them.
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    Default Re: He's just not that into you... Stripclub version

    He starts speaking to you in another language.

    He excuses himself to the bathroom and you see him sitting down elsewhere 30 sec later

    He grabs another girl who walks past and pulls her onto his lap
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    Quote Originally Posted by xGigi View Post
    I got up on stage and the guy didn't even tip me. he didn't even get up from his seat. I went over to him after my set and figured hey since I wasted like 45 minutes with this guy maybe he's ready for a dance. nope. he said "sorry I don't get lap dances". did he try to keep talking my ear off though? you bet he did. it was like some sort of sick joke. finally I just said "you know I'm not getting paid by the hour to stand here half naked talking to you" and he got the hint.
    I had something like that happen to me once (except for the lap dance scenario, since where I dance, is stage only with no VIP and no LD). There was this guy seated on stage for my whole entire set, not tipping a single dollar, and after i was done, he kept talking to me. I had to tell him after I was done with one set that if he's not gonna tip, he can leave the stage because I only work for tips. He left, but came back next week with plenty of money.





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    Default Re: He's just not that into you... Stripclub version

    I rarely ask a customer to dance. Yup not often do I get upfront and say "want a dance?"

    I approach them with a polite hello and smile. I strike up a conversation and if the offer does not come within 5 minutes or I sense this is not going to work (ie one worded answers, guy looking away) I move on. It works really well and gives the impression that you are busy. Sometimes guys that don't take the bait and get a dance see you talking to other dudes and they change their mind.

    I often get guys approaching me because I am so social and can be seen talking to almost everyone in the club.



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    Default Re: He's just not that into you... Stripclub version

    I know women who have no personalities and successfully hustle this way.

    They make it SO awkward that guys buy dances just because they can't stand the awkwardness anymore. Which only further encourages the girls to hustle this way. If only all guys stood up to girls who do this...they might be a dying breed.

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    Default Re: He's just not that into you... Stripclub version

    Sometimes those customers throw me off. On Wednesday I approached someone who didn't seem that interested in me (one word answers, not touchy, seemly not interested) introducing myself and promptly asking for a dance (because I'm already there, why not try?) He said yes and ended up going in VIP for an hour.

    I tend to only spend about 30-60 seconds on each customer so I never waste my time. It seems to me that the customers that I don't think will go in VIP usually end up going with me.

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    Default Re: He's just not that into you... Stripclub version

    ^ Yes! I've had that happen too! Some people are just very socially awkward.

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