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    Cell Phone Help Please!!!

    OK, so I've been doing pretty well with dancing at the club. My husband got me a phone so I could inform custy's when I'm working. Last night I had 3 excellent guys who spent pretty well on me with 2 taking VIP. The other didn't do dances, just handed me $100 and had the massage girl massage me for 15 minutes. He bought me a drink, we chatted then I was requested to the VIP. I gave each of them the number of the phone my husband gave me and had them call me while at the club so I could lock in their number.

    This morning I wake up to 2 out of the three having sent me text messages. Very flattering but somewhat suggestive and asking me to "hang out" with them. I never told them I was married as they never asked. I text them back thanking them and letting them know I'm working Tuesday.

    I don't want to lose them as regulars and they are pretty nice guys. I'm new at this and very confused. How should I handle this? Do I tell them I'm married? Do I cut them lose? Ughhh this is very frustrating.
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    It depends whether or not you want to be the type of girl that has regulars or not. I personally prefer regulars but if you are new to dancing it will take time to figure out what you like. Regulars take a lot of work but I find they also provide much more money and more of a reliable and regular income. Never ever tell a customer you are married. Only a few of mine know I am married but these are ones Ive known for a long time. Some of them even know my husband. I know some girls tell but in my opinion its a big mistake.

    My husband is fine with me texting customers but I try to be pretty specific when I give my number as to the "rules" around using it. First of all, when you do give it out act like you are hesitant because "you dont normally do that". Also make it clear that you are not wanting to "meet up" because you dont know them. You are just giving it to them in case they are coming in and want to know if you are working. I use the story that I am extremely busy because I go to school, volunteer and work which is true and I dont have time to answer too many phone calls, but if they need to text me go ahead as long as its before 10pm because I go to bed early if Im not working. I usually say its fine to text fri or sat night because I will always be at work those nights. If someone sends me something inappropriate or gross (which is not often because Im usually selective of who Im giving the number to) then I simply do not reply and ignore any other txts after that. They will think you gave a fake number and move on. I personally wouldnt be giving out my number to someone who spends less than $500 at one time or at least $500 consistently weekly.

    Just remember you are the one in control here. You cant worry too much about being nice. They want you... not the other way around so make sure you dont get caught up in the flattery and making them like you too much. Im really bad at explaining techniques so maybe take a look at strip and grow rich or read hustle hut... there are some similar threads Im sure.

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    I wouldn't be talking to custies outside of work. Especially if you just met them.





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    Quote Originally Posted by pixierocksonthepole View Post
    I wouldn't be talking to custies outside of work. Especially if you just met them.

    A lot of girls communicate with their regulars via phone or text. I don't see anything wrong with this.

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    I don't like the idea of phone calls/texts with customers because I've been felt comfortable enough giving out such information and the information that could be found through having it. I like to get their/offer my email address and contact that way. Maybe as a customer becomes a true regular and some sort of trust has been established, I would then move in to texting/calling. Emails are good because you can ignore them, take your time in replying, and if you get a lot (especially crazy ones), you know to not give them your phone number!

    That being said, keep all OTC contact with them strictly about the club. If they ask to hang out, tell them when you're working next and that you'd love if they stopped by. Don't feel bad about ignoring anything else, and if they pester you about it at the club, tell them you're a busy person and don't have unlimited texting/minutes. If you find that the amount of contact they expect OTC is taking a toll on you, kindly ask them to tone it down since you do have a busy life. If they don't respect that, then maybe it's time to cut them off. It's all a matter of your comfort level and how much its worth.

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    OK, so I am hearing what you are saying and have learned a valuable lesson. The one guy I did text back after asking me to "hang out" I told him when I would be working at the club. He then says, well how much will it cost to have you "hang" with me the entire night. I responded, well I will be at the club between 8PM and 3AM so 7 hours including my average LD's and VIP would be "X" amount. I suggested he "hang" together from 11 - 3AM with two hours in VIP. He give me the "I don't want to give the club money, I just want to give it to you." I advised "that's how it works...and...just so we are clear I'm a clean dancer, there is no sex in the CR." This is when he turns into a complete ass and says, "is there such a thing as a clean dancer?" Then goes on to say, I'm friends with the owner so I will work it out with him so there is more CR money for you! That's when I texted Good Night.

    I figure, if he's trying to chisel down the CR room price, he doesn't really have $'s and ultimately he's looking for Extras! Do you agree or do you have any more advice?

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    I think that was a great approach. You tried to keep him as a club customer and not go OTC, and that's clearly not what he was looking for. There's not much you can do to get money out of customers like that, so it's best to just cut your losses and cut off contact.

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    I think so too! I really thought he had $'s and I was hoping he wasn't a pig. He was so complimentary and I feel for his b/s...and...he wasn't even good looking. He seemed really nice and gave me $100 for just chatting with him at the bar! Ughhh! I guess my judgement sucks.

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    I would try not to be as negative in your text. Just stay positive about everything. Next time this thing happens make sure you sound SO EXCITED about hanging out with them in the VIP. And then SO disappointed that they only want you outside the club. Customers usually want to make you happy.

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    ^ It's his loss. Im sure if he wants to see you, he'll msg you and can go through the routine again with "see me at the club". Seemed like he was seeking OTC and more to his clean dancer comment. Well all I can say is, if he wants to spend money on you, he will come back (unless he becomes an ex-crazy reg) who tries to get you jealous and waste your time.

    I also recommend getting a MSG block and phone block onto your phone. When my 2nd phone broke, I had to use my regular phone with the "clients" and some went crazy calling me at 3am and crap so I had to get blockers.

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    I have a phone that I keep for customers, it's a shitty prepaid cell that I put minutes on once and awhile. Only 2 of my very very very good customers have my primary cell and they are from wayyyyyyyy back in the day.
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    First of all......you have a massage girl at your club!!??!?!?!?! I am so jealous! That would be awesome, I can't believe I've never heard of that!!

    As for the "work phone" I'm fixing to get a work phone as well because it seems to be working really well on building regulars for the other girls I work with. Though I don't have a phone I do get the "we should hangout soemtime" or "what are you doing after this??" problem that you said you are getting and I found what works for me is to just make myself sound really busy and plus they just think you are a very active person. It's not always going to work because if someone is just in there to try and date a stripper they will very quickly move on but most will understand and still be interested.
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    personally, i like to say something along the lines of "you can have my number so i can let you know when im at the club", which usually makes it clear that this is a business relationship. the one time i didn't specify, the guy kept assuming i wanted to see him otc, so make sure it's clear to him what the number is for.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sunnyskys View Post
    A lot of girls communicate with their regulars via phone or text. I don't see anything wrong with this.
    Yes, I know that, but that doesn't really make it a great idea lol





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