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    So yesterday at the club I did a lap dance for a guy who seemed really normal, jersey shore type of look. After doing a couple lap dances he asked me to do some more, then he started talking about how he like sto strangle an be strangle during sex. He also likes when women have sex with him, with a sharp knife to his neck, Freaked me the hell out, but i played cool cause i didn't know if he would go crazy on me. After the dances he wanted more, but i told him i had to go on stage cause we only had a few girls.

    So this got me thinking because,. I've really been considering escorting, How would you have handles this situation. I mean even with screening, how can keep safe from these types of guys, How would you get out of a situation like this at a hotel?

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    This is one reason I always check references. Most escorts will let U know if hes psycho, if they write back.
    Otherwise, I let it be known in my profile on escorts.com or website, that Im not into this type of thing.....
    Ive not run into anybody like this yet.
    Good luck,

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    It sounds like he likes to be abused. I talk to customers about their freaky fetishes all the time. I'll even fantasize our entire night after the club closes where we have sex and so all sorts of weird stuff with him while I am dancing. It's a good way to keep them hooked. You have to remember that everything that happens in the club is just pretend. Oh and never actually say yes you are going to fuck them for money while you are doing dances. Just in case it's a cop, lol. You can talk about all the freaky stuff both of you will do just shy away from the money part. And when it comes time for him to pay (for the dances) say something like "I can't say yes I'll have sex with you before you give me money because that would be prostitution", then take the money and HAHAH YOU WON! >

    As for escorting, you might look into something like the Bunny Ranch where it's all legal and on site and safe.
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    Escorting scenario:
    You simply tell him you don't participate in those types of activites and not with weapons of any kind for your own personal safety..You're the boss.. You call the shots.
    You could then suggest to provide him with light to medium choking.
    You could actually charge more for this type of service..
    I don't think there is anything to be afraid of.. he was just talking.. telling you one of his fantasies (and odd one yes.. but gets him off) .. in hopes you would persue it..
    You are a sex worker..thats why hes telling you this bizarre fantasy of his.. the majority of square women wouldn't be accepting of this fetish.. you know what I'm getting at here?
    especially as an escort you have to be prepared to hear all these odd fantasies..
    nothing to be frightened of..

    Also.. in my escorting world I don't take men under 35 too seriously $$.. especially if hes a jersey shore type.. what a joke. *puke* .. probably not much money there.

    Most guys don't argue and arent pushy towards escorts.. there afraid you have a pimp that will come beat them up.

    If he is a creep he would be blacklisted by other escorts anyways.
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    ^^Exotic is right, sweetie. That was nothing to be afraid of, he was just describing to you and sharing one of his fantasies. As much as it may have creeped you out, it was harmless. Actually, it could be seen as a compliment. He trusted you enough to share his desires with you, something I'm sure he doesn't feel comfortable sharing with many.

    As far as escorting, not many men talk about stuff like that, at least not with me. Sometimes things come up, but not often. It's really nothing to be afraid of, I promise

    If you would like to know how I handle my clients, such as what I do to prepare, how I greet them when they come into my room, and how I basically operate, how I handle myself, or to discuss any situations that may arise (pun intended!) feel free to PM me anytime.

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    Quote Originally Posted by natyempress View Post
    So yesterday at the club I did a lap dance for a guy who seemed really normal, jersey shore type of look. After doing a couple lap dances he asked me to do some more, then he started talking about how he like sto strangle an be strangle during sex. He also likes when women have sex with him, with a sharp knife to his neck, Freaked me the hell out, but i played cool cause i didn't know if he would go crazy on me. After the dances he wanted more, but i told him i had to go on stage cause we only had a few girls.

    So this got me thinking because,. I've really been considering escorting, How would you have handles this situation. I mean even with screening, how can keep safe from these types of guys, How would you get out of a situation like this at a hotel?
    how was he abusive? he told you what he likes to do. he didn't actually try to do it. there's no abuse there. as for escorting, if a client starts talking about doing any of this kind of thing, makesure they know it's off the table. you can also put a discaimer on your website,"no violent fetishes allowed." plus, you can stick to seeing only clients with multiple references. still not 100% safe, but safer.

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    Quote Originally Posted by exotic0690 View Post
    Escorting scenario:
    You simply tell him you don't participate in those types of activites and not with weapons of any kind for your own personal safety..You're the boss.. You call the shots.
    You could then suggest to provide him with light to medium choking.
    You could actually charge more for this type of service..
    I don't think there is anything to be afraid of.. he was just talking.. telling you one of his fantasies (and odd one yes.. but gets him off) .. in hopes you would persue it..
    You are a sex worker..thats why hes telling you this bizarre fantasy of his.. the majority of square women wouldn't be accepting of this fetish.. you know what I'm getting at here?
    especially as an escort you have to be prepared to hear all these odd fantasies..
    nothing to be frightened of..

    Also.. in my escorting world I don't take men under 35 too seriously $$.. especially if hes a jersey shore type.. what a joke. *puke* .. probably not much money there.

    Most guys don't argue and arent pushy towards escorts.. there afraid you have a pimp that will come beat them up.

    If he is a creep he would be blacklisted by other escorts anyways.
    I think the idea of him choking me as well, is what scared me. He said he likes it both ways. Yeah i heard way more wierd shit as a cam girl than being a dancer.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Gary McPenis View Post
    how was he abusive? he told you what he likes to do. he didn't actually try to do it. there's no abuse there. as for escorting, if a client starts talking about doing any of this kind of thing, makesure they know it's off the table. you can also put a discaimer on your website,"no violent fetishes allowed." plus, you can stick to seeing only clients with multiple references. still not 100% safe, but safer.
    No he was not abusive towards me, maybe that was not the right wording. Choking till the point of blacking out , just freaked me out i guess
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    Like I said, just tell a client with these fantisies your limits...if you are willing to engage.
    It seems you feel threatened by this type of scenario..
    Trust your instict if that type of play isn't for you then don't engage.
    You should never do anything with a john that makes you feel uncomfortable.

    Did he mention choking you until you blackout aswell?
    I didn't catch that in your original post.. thats too much!

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    Quote Originally Posted by exotic0690 View Post
    Like I said, just tell a client with these fantisies your limits...if you are willing to engage.
    It seems you feel threatened by this type of scenario..
    Trust your instict if that type of play isn't for you then don't engage.
    You should never do anything with a john that makes you feel uncomfortable.

    Did he mention choking you until you blackout aswell?
    I didn't catch that in your original post.. thats too much!
    s,

    Yeah , he said he liked it both ways, and had I ever experienced it. Yes i think that type of fantasy doesnt quite sit well with me. How much detail can you go into on your website? I thought you were not supposed to really say what you do and don't. I've been looking for escort forums, but the only one i found was for escorts in england and client forums.

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    I also don't see how this client was abusive. I agree with Audrina and Exotic.

    You were at a club. You did not screen this guy. Escort screen. That is how we avoid these kind of people. There are different levels of escorting and everyone works their own way. Like an above poster mentioned, Some ladies don't see men under 35. I too would NEVER see a guy that reminded me of any of the jersey shore guys. I do not see young men in this profession. It makes my job easier.

    Once again... most guys will usually tell an escort what they are into before meeting without being explicit. He also sounds like someone that likes to be abused and I am not into that. My work as an escort is about acting like a lover to my clients. I don't want to hurt them. I have never had a bad experience through this work and I'm sure a lot of ladies can say the same.

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    I missed the part where you wrote that he likes for it to go both ways too. I didn't miss it really, I guess it just didn't sink in.

    That is something called "breath play", and no that is not safe for lovers, let alone an escort client. It is not safe for you to do it on the receiving end with anybody, let alone a client! I know that's what creeped you out, and I know that you are not a willing participant...I want to make that clear to anybody considering escorting.

    As far as doing that TO a client on the giving end...steer clear! It is a very dangerous practice and if anything should happen or go wrong, you would be in a HEAP of trouble. I've never come across a client asking me to do anything like that. Your best way to avoid that sort of thing would be to advertise as GFE. I'm sure even somebody who advertised "fetish friendly" or even an experienced Domme wouldn't touch a request like that. Dude needs a girlfriend! LoL

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