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    Default I tried dancing for the first time back in August....

    I tried dancing for about 2 weeks back in August. I love the money. Its good

    money compared to whole lot of salaried jobs. THEN I have a family

    emergency and had to completely stop dancing. Given my current family

    situation, I can not go back to dancing as long as I'm in my city. I dropped

    all my classes because of that family situation. I need some serious advices

    from you gurls!!!!.. Please help!! I'm so overwhelm and don't know what to

    do. What would you do if you were me?

    * Given my family financial problems, I won't be back in school til 2012. I need to work to cover for the family's mortgage and expenses for a year. I know I could do that with 2 regular jobs, but I don't want to drown myself with crazy long hours....while just getting by. I also can't let any of my family know that I dance if I do continue. So I can't stay in my city. Is it worth it for me to travel to different cities to work??..rather than taking 2 jobs to meet ends meet.

    I would say when I danced back in August, Im the hustling type. ..And I also love to travel and experience. I think that be really fun. Im not worrying about having to travel alone..since I don't know anyone else that dance.

    SORRY for the long post... but I'm just feeling so lost now.

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    Default Re: I tried dancing for the first time back in August....

    I'm so sorry that you're going through this, you're a very strong person.

    May I ask why you can't dance in your city? Did your family strictly ban it? (In which case, you'll have to come up with a cover story about why you're traveling yet still making so much money for them - I feel this would require a bigger lie than simply working in the city). Are you worried that you will get caught? (Because the odds of family coming in to the club are fairly slim, and you can always play around with wigs and make up to look almost unrecognizable in the club).

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    Default Re: I tried dancing for the first time back in August....

    Thank you. Yes, I'm trying to keep my head up right now and be strong as strong as I can.

    Yes, I come from a really traditional family..and everything is about reputation. If they ever know, they will disown me. It will also break their heart. My family is going through some really rough times right now. I need to be the positive one and try to make everything okay.

    Even though working at other cities, it might require a bigger lie. But at least they will never find out that I strip. I have a very good story in mind to tell already for traveling and work. (I did some paid internship with traveling to other cities and countries...so it be no problem).

    Yes, my family knows alot of people. I mean ALOT. Its like the whole city. Alot of relatives as well ..the young ones, do go to strip clubs. So there is no way for me to even dance in my city. (I had a friend, before I ever even though about stripping at the time, ..her uncle went into the strip club she was stripping at. She was all nude on a bright stage..........and it was not a beautiful scene.......)

    Anyways, do you encourage me to go for it and experience the world of stripping and making money...while traveling...??? Im not thinking of getting rich off of it...but I believe with some hard works, I might be able to save some money to help lower my family's mortgage. Im willing to go work how many ever days..and so on.

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    I think you should definitely *try* it. It may work for you, it may not. The situation you are describing with your family reminds me of mine, very traditional and conservative, however I'm lucky that my extended family is spread throughout the country and nowhere near me and my immediate family. I will tell you that dancing can be especially emotionally taxing on you when you feel you are doing something (stripping) that would "let down" your family and result in things like disownment, etc., or at least I have found it to be. That con is outweighed by the pros of dancing however, which is why it continues to be the right choice for me.

    If I were you, I would definitely dance outside of your city, you will not feel as though you need to watch your back so much when you are at work, and it will probably allow you to separate dancing from the rest of your life which will probably be better with your family situation? Sorry I'm making a lot of assumptions, feel free to correct me, just trying to give the best advice I can! If you have your life with your family (which seems really important to you) it would probably work best for you for dancing to be completely separate from anything related to your family and keep you from feeling too guilty about doing it.

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    Default Re: I tried dancing for the first time back in August....

    Given your situation, I think it is best to focus on one thing. The traveling idea sounds fun, but you say your objective is to pay down the mortgage. Perhaps finding a city not too far from your own where you can work would be a more efficient way of meeting your objective.

    Since you have only danced a total of two weeks I will suggest that you don't go on an all out tour at this time. As a newbie, the first taste of money can be exhilirating, but that money will not always be there, and there are all sorts of pitfalls and challenging situations that occur when travelling. Can you cover all your expenses if you don't make money at a club? Staying closer to home to start is a good idea, should you have to return home for some reason.

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    Default Re: I tried dancing for the first time back in August....

    Odette, you are totally describing how I feel at the moment. Great advice, as I do think the best for me is separate my dancer life far apart from my real life. I think if I dance elsewhere, I would totally give in 100% of my focus in making that money. Instead of having to worry if I be seen each shift in my city. Thank you!!!!. It cleared me up a bit.


    girlfromipanema, I will seriously take your advice in working at a club that is 2-3 hours aways first..versus flying to a farther city. If I do gain some experience, then I work toward farther cities. As this is going to be my first strip trip plus being a newbie. I do have a little money as backup if anything happen.

    Thank you so much ladies...for the support and encouragement. It really did meant alot to me.. I don't know who to talk to about this. As no one knows....

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    another question I have is.... do you gurls when traveling alone, so you just tell anyone from the club, you are local and you have alot of family there....for safety measures.???

    what type of story you tell to the club manager or the one hiring you?

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    Default Re: I tried dancing for the first time back in August....

    I wouldn't recommend travelling too much, it'll be easier for you to settle in to a club and make more money if you stick in one place. Give some thought to where you wanna be (I'd pick a city just far enough away that it would be inconvenient for family member to visit too much) tell them you've been offered a low level position with good prospects and head on over there. I'm sure the girls on here will help you pick a good club and settle in when you get there. Good luck, I hope you sort everything out

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    Default Re: I tried dancing for the first time back in August....

    Definitely start with short trips. The general things that tend to go wrong when traveling are multiplied when you're traveling to work, especially stripping, since it's a fairly unpredictable field as is.

    Perhaps you could do weekend/week-long trips to a nearby city and just work every day you're there. This way, you'll be focused on the money/dancing, and it'll make it a bit more worthwhile.

    Don't worry about having an elaborate lie for the manager. Just say you're in town for x amount of time and were hoping to dance.

    Do your research about the clubs you want to travel to, and call in advance to see if they take traveling girls. Most clubs do, but it's better to check than get all the way there and have them tell you they only go through agencies or straight-up don't expect traveling dancers. Good luck!

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    Default Re: I tried dancing for the first time back in August....

    I agree with everyone's advise to just pick a city & a club to dance at and work there for a while. If you settle down at one place you'll be able to learn the club style and improve your earnings while also learning the city and decreasing your housing and other miscellaneous costs. If you hop from city to city and club to club you'll most likely never have any consistency earning wise and will most likely over pay on housing and etc. simply because you don't know the area well.

    Also, I call BS on your family being ok with the younger members blowing money and visiting strip clubs (most likely guys), while disowning you for trying to help them out by working at one. How sexist is that?

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    Default Re: I tried dancing for the first time back in August....

    Don't let your family drag you down. You are your own person. Maybe you just need to move to a different state and start your own life. I had to cut ties with my family because they can't keep their lives together and are mentally unstable. You could always send them money to help with the bills if you still feel responsible to help them.
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    Default Re: I tried dancing for the first time back in August....

    Thank you everyone =).. I appreciate all the given advices on here. Gosh, thanks to this site..

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    Default Re: I tried dancing for the first time back in August....

    +1 on getting comfy at a club fairly close ( 2-3 hours ) to you ! I love these mini trips because you don't " lose " a day for travel. If you have 4 spare days let's say ... You can do 4 shifts no problem.

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