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    Okay sorry but the current stereotype placed on dancers just irks me


    Stereotypes are for people who have NOT been in our shoes (literally ow! lol) and therefore making it impossible to completely know the business. Not ALL strippers enter drug addictions or prostitution. I have faith that most of us believe there is a solid thick line between the VIP and paid sex acts. That said, I hold no judgment toward escorting. I just think that it is best to keep it out of the clubs; separate from dancing. I believe a person can be strong enough to learn, know what they want, set their own boundaries and act accordingly to their own values.

    What infuriates me about this "nasty" negativity is the belief that all sex workers should be pitied...ashamed of what we do...etc. Because what we do reflects our being...that we lack self-control. I say for what I've seen (or read via stripperweb), we are not weak-minded. We are NOT sad. In fact, ALL of us are STRONG/STRONGER for what we have gone through/been through. What the fuck? I could go on about this more. I'm just fed up. Yes, I'm a bit insecure. Yes, I doubt myself sometimes. These are the reasons...because idiots like that feel they need to judge other people or change them. THEY are the ones that are lacking self-esteem issues! Just remember that. THEY are the ones that feel they need to change other people's lives or things because they lack control in theirs.

    K I am done. I just thank all you lovely ladies and gents here with your open-minds and big hearts. Corny but I literally don't know what I'd do without these forums (btw hope you all had a wonderful Thanksgiving!).

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    I know how you feel. My ex has been trying to keep me from considering stripping because he sees it as "degrading" and that women do it because they feel that they don't have any other options. I got rather mad, some women do it because they want to and ENJOY IT. I know I want to try it, hehe.

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    people can feel bad for me all they want because I feel great about my choice. I'm making more than twice as much as everyone I know without a degree, I gained total independence at 19 years old, and I don't do drugs or fuck for money. the only strippers I feel bad for are the ones who actually fit the stripper stereotype.

    it's sad that the majority of the outside world doesn't realize how many clean dancers there actually are. I would have no problem telling my family that I strip if it weren't for the fact that I KNOW they would assume the worst about me. I have to pick and choose who I tell and one of my friends got so upset that I had to actually bring her to the club with me to show her that it WASN'T bad! after she saw the place and talked to some of my dancer friends she was actually considering auditioning since she's 5k in the hole right now.

    people are always going to think that strippers are dirty disgusting drug addicts. there's nothing we can do but try to prove them wrong by continuing to lead clean healthy lifestyles.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Amykinz View Post
    I know how you feel. My ex has been trying to keep me from considering stripping because he sees it as "degrading" and that women do it because they feel that they don't have any other options. I got rather mad, some women do it because they want to and ENJOY IT. I know I want to try it, hehe.
    stripping is NOT degrading. I've never felt degraded a single second of my stripping career. I find it more empowering than anything. I can manipulate guys out of hundreds of dollars every single night. it would be degrading if I was running around butt naked on the stage with guys chucking dollars at me. I won't even show a guy my boobs for less than 3 or 4 dollars. I think it's more degrading for the men to have to PAY a woman to give him attention.

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    ^Haha true. At the very least the only people that find it degrading are people that have seen other [perhaps newer] dancers not realize they can put forth stronger boundaries. Mostly though I think these people just need to wake up...No need to worry, we are handsomely compensated $$$$

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    i hate the stereotypes, but what can you do. they can have their upsides. if i guy gives me money out of pity, i'm ok with that. if hot young girls don't want to strip because they think they'll have to have sex for a dollar, i'm ok with that. if someone i meet outs themselves as being a hateful, closed-minded ass because they tell me what they think of dancers, i'm ok with that. i only hate it when it gets in my way or pisses me off.

    the thing that pisses me off most about the stereotype is that when girls really so desperate for money that they start stripping, they buy into the stereotype and do so much more than they have to, without knowing how little they really have to do to make good money. they hurt the industry and themselves.

    and btw, i also hate the stereotype of custies as losers who can't see tits without paying. maybe that's true of some, but those guys are usually the cheapest ones. generous guys can usually get plenty of female attention elsewhere. they come to clubs because because it's not technically cheating, or because they're too busy to get into a relationship, or because they prefer the honest exchange in a club to dating games, or because it's just fun. i'll talk shit if that's what i have to do (some guys like humiliation) for money. but i don't think it's true.
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    Default Re: WARNING: Huge rant about the "stripper lifestyle"

    I have said it once and I will say it again... With all these stereotypes and negativity about stripping, it makes our job that much more taboo and keeps people coming in.. More money for us

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    I have really been impressed with how intelligent the ladies who post here are. At work everyone is a competitor and I think most girls have their shields up most of the time so you never really get to know or understand them. Here people are more open.

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    Quote Originally Posted by xGigi View Post
    stripping is NOT degrading. I've never felt degraded a single second of my stripping career.
    I work at a "neighborhood bar" and some of the guys (and coworkers) just make me feel dirty. Occasionally I will get dry heaves or throw up because of how my job makes me feel. I can't control it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kaiarose View Post
    I have said it once and I will say it again... With all these stereotypes and negativity about stripping, it makes our job that much more taboo and keeps people coming in.. More money for us
    ^^^^^^^^^^^I'm with you; I don't care about what other people think. As long as I know the truth about who I am & what I do, people can talk until they're blue in the face; I don't give a fuck, & I'll smile all the way to the bank.

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    Quote Originally Posted by xGigi View Post
    stripping is NOT degrading. I've never felt degraded a single second of my stripping career. I find it more empowering than anything. I can manipulate guys out of hundreds of dollars every single night. it would be degrading if I was running around butt naked on the stage with guys chucking dollars at me. I won't even show a guy my boobs for less than 3 or 4 dollars. I think it's more degrading for the men to have to PAY a woman to give him attention.

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    ^I understand danilella and I agree with all the other girls that you should be proud of whatever path in life you choose, but I digress when I think about an ex for some stupid reason. In sum, whoever has ever looked down upon me that I have ever cared about are the people I'd rather not find out about it.

    Everyone else...I don't care if they found out but like xGigi said, I think it's best to prove to them it's not as bad as it appears. My family however...I'd use it to spite them (heh horrible yeah but whatev, they most likely wouldn't give a rat-ass if they knew I was a dancer or not).

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    Aww. This!

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    Hate to disagree with the majority, but stereotypes exist for a reason. Because over half the time there is a basis in reality. Not saying any of you are like that, because I'd guess the percentage of dancers who post here is so relatively minute that it is quite possible most don't fit the stereotype. But to be forewarned, don't let it anger you and also don't dismiss it. Addicition and other issues can arise AFTER being a well-intentioned dancer, so it's good to be alert if bad habits are ensuing. Sorry I am projecting too much. The point is don't let the ignorance anger you, expect it! It is ignorance, not cruelty, which would validate a much more rabid outburst.
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    I agree that I don't feel that it is degrading at all. I've never felt so beautiful in my life, and have gained a newfound confidence. Guys look up to me and worship me and it's very empowering. I love stripping and I enjoy the attention. Even if I get a real job one day for whatever reason, I will have to still strip once in a while just for kicks! If they think it's degrading let them think that, they have no clue how much money we take home.

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    Quote Originally Posted by femmefatale88 View Post
    I agree that I don't feel that it is degrading at all. I've never felt so beautiful in my life, and have gained a newfound confidence. Guys look up to me and worship me and it's very empowering. I love stripping and I enjoy the attention.
    Out of curiosity how do you feel guys "look up to you"? Name one way they do so that is of any lasting value. Also when you feel "beautiful" is this a mere physical beauty. This isn't exactly classical ballet....LOL !
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    for sure dude. stereotypes are for suckers. i'm not a drug addict, or a prostitute, never was before i started dancing, and exposure to all the rotten elements of the industry did not make me go that direction. nobody believes that though.

    "i swear, i'm just a dancer! i shake my booty, they throw dollars, end of story."
    "yeah right, ALL STRIPPERS smoke crack and give $15 blowjobs, admit it."

    *eyeroll*

    girls that give extras inside the club suck, and ruin it for everyone, but i don't care if they trick somewhere else. everybody has their things that they deal with, and their own priorities, and phases in their life. there are a lot of people out there who can do dope just for fun and not get strung out. same with a girl who can turn a few tricks but not be a life-long hooker being beaten regularly by a pimp. i never judge. i believe prositution should be legal, and so should drugs it's just not for me! it'd bum me out forever, i know it, that's why i just never went there. i don't look down on hookers/druggies...i just AM NOT ONE OF THEM. impossible though, once you cross the line and become an exotic dancer you automatically get categorized as an exploited, drug addled sex worker forever.

    oh well all that dough is worth a little ignorance being passed on from hypocrites (people such as my father who spent years in strip clubs trying to tell me i "didn't belong in those places") WHAAAT!?! i don't belong somewhere a bunch of cute, young, fresh army dudes who just got back from the middle east going to walk in, see me on stage, ssay WOOOHOOOO HOT GIRL and immediately run over and drop $1000 on the small of my back for a couple minutes of booty-bouncing? and then another $1000 on lapdances for the rest of the night? ON WHAT FUCKING PLANET DO I NOT BELONG IN THAT SITUATION!?!? nothing degrading about that. i'm happy, the army dudes are happy, nobody touches my boobs or my butt except ben franklin, what's the problem here _EXACTLY_ dad???

    it's all good. they can think the worst of me. i know the truth, god knows the truth. and my true peoples know that it ain't me - like girls know who have invited me to gigs that would be a little wild and crazy, and had me respectfully decline. i don't think they're any less for going and getting paper that way, it was just never my cuppa.

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    Quote Originally Posted by daniella_maria View Post
    ^^^^^^^^^^^I'm with you; I don't care about what other people think. As long as I know the truth about who I am & what I do, people can talk until they're blue in the face; I don't give a fuck, & I'll smile all the way to the bank.
    That's what keeps me going when I gotta deal with dumb bitches like his brother's girlfriend. Bitch, I make more money in one hour than you make in and entire week.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Prisoner201181 View Post
    Hate to disagree with the majority, but stereotypes exist for a reason. Because over half the time there is a basis in reality. Not saying any of you are like that, because I'd guess the percentage of dancers who post here is so relatively minute that it is quite possible most don't fit the stereotype. But to be forewarned, don't let it anger you and also don't dismiss it. Addicition and other issues can arise AFTER being a well-intentioned dancer, so it's good to be alert if bad habits are ensuing. Sorry I am projecting too much. The point is don't let the ignorance anger you, expect it! It is ignorance, not cruelty, which would validate a much more rabid outburst.
    Agreed. While I don't fit the stereotype AT ALL and neither do 90% of those who post here, I've seen girls get messed up by stripping. I've seen countless get into drugs or prostitution. Years after I quit a club I found out most of the dancers there were hooking through the owner (apparently he ran an escort service which I didn't know about).

    I think in general there are three kinds of stripper here: the retired ones, the ones who made it a career and took control (the feature dancers mostly) or those doing it to better themselves. These types are the ones that tend to escape unscathed mostly.

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    I think the stereotyping placed on strippers is a load of crap for the most part but unfortunatley there are some girls who do fit it. I think people just talk crap because they are jealous or they've tried to date a stripper and failed at doing so.

    I'm constantly telling people if anything strippers are some of the cleanest people I know....me and my friends are CONSTANTLY using hand sanitizer just for the hell of it, baby wipes, clorox wipes, trying to stay in shape and eat healthy, making sure our nails are neat and polished, shave and bath regulary (well ANYONE should do that rather they are a stripper or not) lol
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    To be honest... I am glad there is "that" stereo-type about strippers... and I want it to last forever. You know yourself better than others, so dont give a shit what they say about sex workers. People always talk, and they sure love to talk about many shits they dont know and just "assume" whether its on TV, a friend mentioned it, they heard it, they "saw" it by being with a sex worker.

    That stereo-type keeps the money rolling in, it keeps the cliente interested, it makes people wonder about sex workers. If they knew we were just like an average female professional, that would get boring pretty fast wouldn't it?

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    Whatever. I just smile as I look at my happy bank account, recall my extensive travel experience and enjoy my personal freedom and lack of stress!

    Generally, people who judge us so harshly are miserable fucks who've imprisoned themselves in jobs and lives they hate because it's what they think they're supposed to do. They just can't stand that we have more than them without all the bullshit. Let them wallow in their misery. Not my problem.

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    Quote Originally Posted by rock_n_roll_dream View Post
    I think the stereotyping placed on strippers is a load of crap for the most part but unfortunatley there are some girls who do fit it. I think people just talk crap because they are jealous or they've tried to date a stripper and failed at doing so.
    These days, stripping is my secondary job; I have a steady "day" job, but I still take off most of my clothes because is a great workout and keeps me in a happy mood. I work less hours than when stripping was my first source of income, but the money is still good, and I use it to save for a house and for retirement.





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    What's annoying as hell is that the stigma against stripping is so strong, yet mainstream culture is obviously fascinated by the industry. There are so many tiresome movies about strippers coming out year after year, and prudish women get all excited about pole-dance excercise. So lame.

    I believe the stereotype exists for good reason and there really is often a whole lot of truth to it. BUT:
    I am very glad it is stereotyped and taboo. So many girls aren't willing to "go there", and that's why the money is SO good stripping.

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    to be honest...while i find the stereotype annoying, i also have to say that AT LEAST 85% of the girls I worked with, fit it in at least one way.

    -drugs
    -hooking
    -serious bad relationships
    -massive psychological issues
    -making a shitload of money a night and still having trouble paying rent/mortgage
    -alcoholic

    So, while i get being pissed about it, I also recognize that a fair number of strippers do fit it.

    The girls here are even a mix of it. Though WAY more are the stable types. but can everyone here really say we have not seen the stereotypical girl have her little meltdown on here?

    not being mean, i love this site, but i am just speaking from my experiences.

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