how do you stay out of the drama, bad talking, sour attitudes in the strip club?
how do you stay out of the drama, bad talking, sour attitudes in the strip club?
Sometimes its unavoidable if there is a lot of "mean" girls. But generally I find if you keep to yourself but are on friendly terms with the rest of the dancers and the staff (smiling if eye contact is made, only speaking when spoken to until you get to know people) works pretty well for preventing drama. Some clubs are just drama havens though. Just avoiding those is best!
I don't make friends with other dancers, & I stay out of the dressing room.





I don't know how people manage to get in with the drama at the club. I'm pretty naturally reserved around other women, so it's never been an issue with me. If someone does start randomly venting to me, bitching about other girls, I just listen and give noncommittal gunts or shrugs. I think the other girls have gotten by now that I have no interest in club politics and leave me out of it. It seems to be like a flood gate - once you start letting the bitchy dramaness in, theres no stopping it. Best to stay on neutral grounds from the get-go.
um, stay out of it.





I be da baddest beeotch around![]()
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THIS.
All the drama always starts brewing in the dressing room. Even if it's supposedly about something that happened on the floor...it gets talked about and built up and blown out of context in the dressing room. And it's probably not a coincidence that in my experience, the girls who cause the most drama are the ones who spend the most time sitting on their asses in the dressing room smoking and texting, and talking to the OTHER girls sitting on their asses, instead of working the floor. Cause, you know. It's not like they're there to make money or anything.




I usually start the drama! LOL




if a girl starts talking shit to me about another girl I just kind of look at her and say "ok? why don't you tell her that?"
I'm friends with a lot of the dancers but they know I'm not gonna trash talk anyone except customers and extras girls.
I'll insult a girl to her face. I'll call her out if she does something fucked up. I don't yell or fight, but if I have something to say I'll say it.
"drama" usually equates to backstabbing and two-faced attitudes. by being real with everyone, you tend to steer clear of that high school bullshit.


The dressing room is where all the drama goes down, the girls can get so crazy in there that I literally start laughing my ass off. Best way to avoid it is already be ready for work and then run in there and get changed and run out of there like a bat out of hell!! Oh and NEVER let any of the other girls know details about your personal life, that's your own business and some will spill the beans to other girls or even customers and create drama for you. And last but no least don't talk bad about other girls even if you can't stand them because you never know who is friends with who and it will more than likely come back to bite you in the ass!
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I dont like club drama. I like to stick to myself, but will talk to the nicer girls who dont cause problems. If something does come up and its a negative comment or remark over anything, I keep it netural with no opinon over it and usually say "oh?, or, I see" or try to revirse it into a postive remark. Usually sticking to yourself, keeping a netural level (postive is always good too) level under everyone, girls, staff and customers will keep you out. Stay out of the bathrooms, changerooms for long periods and most people will get an idea.




Avoid shit and when bad people contact you directly call them out and be done with it.
If they don't leave you alone after you have told them off, inform the manager that you have an issue with such-and-such a dancer.





Make friends with the biggest, craziest and meanest bitch therejust like prison!!! or whoop their ass!!!!!
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It's called doing your own thing! Avoid other dancers like the plague and thats what they are when you hang with them as far as your income goes.
I'm kinda bias, I got lucky and work with girls I was in diapers with) so we kinda formed a pack and everyone is to scared to bitch because were the owners favorites and if we don't like someone there ass is grass. Ahhh life is good.
@ asslin that stament how you are happy you and your "crew" intimidating people give you self satisfaction says a lot about your character....you know?...like how you wouldn't be shit without your crew. Girls who really have senority laugh at your type. Just sayin.
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No matter what you do, if people feel that you are competition, they will find a way to pull you into their drama. The best thing you can do to avoid a good 90% of it is just be pretty quiet, try to operate quickly, avoid the dressing room as much as possible, & don't let people know how good you are doing at your work.
Don't you ever sleep?
Not at night...that's when the stars have rather better things to do. They're coming out, shining, that sort of thing.
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Yet some how the world keeps turning...how strange!? My self satisfaction stems from the fact that we will tolerate drama and if a girl is starting drama they can think twice about disturbing the atmosphere. Its calm we would like to keep it that way, so by all means keep "laughing" at whatever context you took my statement in. As for "real senority laugh at my type", let me cry myself a river oh great senior stripper for thou is laughing at me, my life shall never be the same!
On a more elementary level: trick why didn't you just look at the paragraph and continue with the whole laughing thingy? Some how in the grand scheme of things I found you amazingly entertaining for the moment ahh internet drama in a drama thread! Got to love the irony.




Staying out of the dressing room except to frshen up, not bitching about other girls, being uber nice. I dont care what they think of me for the most part anyway but i dont want drama around me. The only drama ive ever had was speculation as to why id left a club AFTER id left the club so it didnt affect me, and as i moved about 200miles away and never intend to dance there again (and am still on good terms with the girls) it doesnt bother me.
I had one close firend in the club while i worked and still trust her implicitly. Id be worried about the ''pack mentality'' myself cause having seen it in the club (from other girls who did this) when the ''back up'' isnt there then the non-pack girls can get vicious, also, ive seen the tightest circles break, girls who have known each other and worked together and been best friends for years fall out and then it becomes a dog-eat-dog or rather stripper-bitching-stripper atmosphere and it wasnt nice for anyone. Just my personal experience
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Arghhhh I have a headache. 2 friends that I both like got into it. It was over something petty and stupid.
"Fake tits are like Kevlar. They don't guarantee your chances of survival but they sure as hell improve it."
Tempest
I keep to myself, for the most part. I stay generally friendly with the girls, but there is only one I hang out with outside of the club regularly (who began working there after she and I met). I keep out of the dressing room as much as possible. Oh and headphones and your ipod/smart phone help loads.
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