or ask him for dance right when he walks in??

or ask him for dance right when he walks in??





I use to wait.
Wait for him to get a drink and get settled in.
A lot of times, I'd wait to go on stage if there were only a few girls so I could see if he tipped me or not.
I hated door whores.
Then again, sometimes those door whores would walk that guy right to VIP before they ever got a chance to sit down. :/




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if he just walked in the door if there's NO ONE else to talk to I'll go talk to him, but I'll extend the conversation a little bit longer than normal. I'll let him buy me a drink and get into an in depth conversation. that's if there are NO other customers and I don't want another girl to jump on the guy before I get a chance to lol.
when I'm making the rounds I generally approach the men who tipped me the best on stage and the shy ones who have been sitting in the corner all night.




i used to wait for them to get a drink and settle in, but there are so many sharks in some clubs that there's no point in that. they'll either get him to a room right away or hunker down with him til he gives up, or he'll leave.
besides, i almost never ask a guy for a dance right away. i always talk a little first. and if he says he just got there, i definitely won't ask right away.
but a lot of men come in wanting to get dances and leave, and they like being asked immediately. and since i'm busy and not staring at the door, i can't tell if a custy is just starting his first drink or his second. i don't know if someone just got there, so i can't really factor that in to whether i talk to them or not.
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Most of the time I wait till he has a drink. Otherwise the guy usually says come back/im just gonna have a drink for now etc




Haha, I just thought of an exception to this. Sometimes the guy will come in, sit down, get fidgity, start looking around, get a forlorn expression on his face...
Then I go over to say hi and teach him how to throw things at the waitresses. I figure half an hour is long enough to make a guy wait, right? It has to be totally dead for me to even notice a customer fidgiting for that long, so I don't know what the waitresses' excuse is...
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Back in the day, I used to worry that I would not get approached at all in a club. Nowadays, sometimes I'm still walking towards a seat when a dancer will hit me up.
My how times change.




this can be really frustrating because if you work in a big club you have no idea how long those motherfuckers have been sitting there lol but they get all mad if you walk up to them and ask for a dance and they're like "I'm only on my first drink!" or you get the guys who are like "I was waiting for you to come talk to me I've been here for HOURS." and you're like wow really? you could have said something to me.
I agree with making a judgment call based on how approachable they look. I generally look at someone when I'm walking by until they make eye contact and gauge their reaction. if they look like they want my company, then I come talk to them, but it's hard sometimes. a guy can smile to be friendly but he might want a different dancer or doesn't want a dance at all.




I don't wait. I introduce myself, catch a vibe, if it's there I walk with them to table if not, I tell them" it was nice to meet you, I'll let you get settled in and comeback later". I don't ask for a dance before they have sat down though, that's just crazy. I do make mY presence known as soon as they are through the door in a nonpushy way.
I always hated mobbing them when they walked in the door. There was a girl at my last club who used to do that. If she saw a guy walk in, she would RUN across the club and start talking to him before he'd even sit down. Then she would latch on to him and wouldn't leave, even when the guys were obviously uncomfortable and not into her. They'd usually leave within like 15 minutes. I never quite understood why she kept doing it...she obviously wasn't making money. In fact, she was HURTING her money, as well as ours...there was no guarantee the guy wouldn't have bought a dance from her later, but with her clinginess and complete lack of personality, she totally shot herself in the foot every time.




I watch the door for guys I know who tip well and my regulars. If its someone new Ill try to make eye contact and then say hi to them once they sit down.
I work at a club with cheap dance prices and it gets busy pretty fast, so I don't wait very long. A guy doesn't need a lot of time to decide who's worth $10.
I always wait until they at least have a drink in front of them though.


This is the best thread I have seen on this topic. Goes to show that most dancers on this site put more thought into their craft than average.
My take: If I just walked in, feel free to approach me but keep it casual, chat me up & maybe have a drink but don't try too hard to close the deal immediately. I'll likely give you the "maybe later", because it's true: I normally don't want to have the high point of my night in the 1st hour in the club and then go home, even if you are the hottest girl I see.
After a while, if I want to get dances from you I'll be visiting you at your stage, or otherwise looking to chat you up. Or if you see me alone at the bar, walk right up and work your magic on me. You might be my 2nd choice, but I came to have some fun, so if you are eager to give a good private show, you might be the one I'm looking for the next time I come in.![]()
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