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    Default low on money forced to make choices

    ive made some bad financial decision, stupid and irresponsible really.
    so i have a few options.

    1) i work at a club im not so comfortable in. Ive worked there before and put up with it. Its high contact. it stresses me out. I can earn a high amount here.

    2) i can web cam. i run the risk of it following me if i get recorded.

    3) i can escort. I have tried this before and it ended with me crying. I dont know if things would be different now. Ive been accepted into the bunny ranch and i also know a customer i can call that would be a regular client if i decide to o this route.


    im afraid with choices one and two will put me in a bad place, and might be the reason why i wanted to get rid of my money in the first place.

    i keep going back to option 1. because i know its high amount of money. I also dont want you to underestimate the amount of stress it put me through and probably has helped turn my dancing career in a bad direction

    idk im planning on all of these options to be temporary. my lines have been blurred =(


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    Default Re: low on money forced to make choices

    Uggghhhh, this is to YOU and every other sex industry worker on the PLANET!!

    It is so FRUSTRATING when I read about how some of you guys let the industry run YOU...the beauty of this industry is YOU ARE IN CONTROL!! All you have to do is put your foot down and set your ground rules and men usually respect that- not only do they respect that you make waaayy more money because the men become your puppies as soon as they gain respect for you- why does this have to be so traumatizing?? For example, You don't have to be fingered in VIP at a club- some do and some are fine with that, if you're not, then you're not! Why would you let these customers take control of you????

    This industry is so much fun because you get paid for being yourself! Well, actually yourself in a creative way...

    1. I'm pretty sure there's more than one club in your town. If it's that bad, why can't you quit?

    2. You're right, you do run the risk of being recorded while camming. Most of the recordings take place in public chat, so what I do is dance and be entertaining HAVE FUN, I do get nude which I don't mind if someone records me then, I just don't like being recorded showing my pink and masturbating and if someone wants me to masturbate or sticks toys in me, I only do that if they take me private.

    3. I've never had the occupation of an escort but I had customers from strip clubs pay me thousands to have dinner, go clubbing or whatever it is. So technically, I've escorted. Escorting is like any other date- you have fun, be a great hostess or great company- I personally never had sex and not saying I wouldn't but some do, which is fine but you don't have to do ANYTHING you're uncomfortable with. Escorting is not equivalent to street hooker so don't let men MAKE YOU CRY!

    You're cute, sell some pictures, make that regular guy you can call a source of income, maybe travel for work, whatever it is, TAKE CONTROL! Don't let anyone make you uncomfortable or do something you don't wanna do- leave that to the ones with 9 to 5 jobs- this job is about freedom.

    At least for me. And I bank having fun and playing by MY rules.

    Maybe this just isn't for you.

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    Default Re: low on money forced to make choices

    not all of what you say applies to my situation(as far as extras or anything). However i agree with what you say and i understand. I have made mistakes. Thank you.


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    Default Re: low on money forced to make choices

    is having a customer from a strip club take you out on dates considered an extra? does it give you an unfair advantage? just curious


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    Default Re: low on money forced to make choices

    You will make more money in a strip club when you set boundaries and stick to them. High spenders gravitate towards girls with confidence.

    Having a customer take you on dates is your business. It doesn't matter if it's an extra or not. Make sure you are always meeting him in a public place and have pepper spray or something else to defend yourself with. He has to pay for the dates otherwise he will think you want to be his girlfriend.
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    Default Re: low on money forced to make choices

    It sounds like you wouldn't be too happy following any of these options. I second the idea of finding a different club to dance at, especially with lower contact. If that's not possible, can you work outside the sex industry?

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    You will make more money in a strip club when you set boundaries and stick to them. High spenders gravitate towards girls with confidence.
    Indeed; the perception of weakness and/or desperation attracts the worst kind of clientle in the industry.
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    Default Re: low on money forced to make choices

    i do love working in a regular club. I feel great and confident. the think the east coast (or certain clubs in general) higher contact levels are the norm. Everyone else in the club accepts this and has no disagreements its just normal.

    the reason i was uncomfortable with the paid dinner thing was because a girl got fired because our manager caught her (the laws here are that way i guess)

    I have been to other clubs where it is lower contact and i loved it. Im planning to fly out of state and work for a little while to do this. There are only a few clubs in my area and all are high contact (one company owns them all)


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    Default Re: low on money forced to make choices

    i believe the law of attraction and that there are no shortcuts. Its much better to be in an environment that you are happy in and can sustain.


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    Default Re: low on money forced to make choices

    Don't forget other options, like phone sex operator instead of camming if you're worried about recordings.

    I don't like the clubs in my state, the house fees are outrageous. I work bachelor parties and it's nice to have a little extra $$ from time to time.

    You said you've made bad financial decisions. Maybe you should reexamine this so you don't do it again and think you need to escort, and then continue making bad decisions because you can afford it. You defininitely don't want to make the same mistakes over again.

    Good luck! Remember, things always work out, even if it seems hopeless or hectic right now.
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