
Originally Posted by
zombee
I have been dating a guy for a year and he is very understanding about my job, which is what I expect because he knew about it before we got serious. We live together now and things are going very well.
Last night a customer came in to see me and we spent a long time in the VIP. He is so far the only customer in 4 years I haven't had to fake a connection with, not that I am attracted to him at all. He seems like a generous man and wants to see me outside the club to take me shopping. We talked about it quite a bit in VIP, I said I have never spent OTC time with a customer and it's something I am not comfortable with. At that point, I was thinking about possibly doing it, because we were getting along so well, so I told him if it were to ever happen, I would never be anywhere alone with him, and I am not attracted to him so I would treat him like a friend, which means really no physical contact. He seemed genuinely okay with this; I realize he may turn out to try to pressure me for more, or make me feel uncomfortable, but if I were ever to see a customer outside the club, I intend to remain in a position where I could easily cut off all OTC contact; he would not have my personal cell number, he would not know what car I drive or what area of town I live in, and so on. I feel like I fulfilled my moral obligation to the customer by telling him honestly how things would play out if we met OTC, but that the chances of that happening are not so good.
I asked my boyfriend what he thinks about this and he thought about it for a day then told me he does not want me to do it. I think this customer could help me out a lot by buying me things I could use, and by occasionally meeting him outside the club, I could keep him as a customer for longer. My boyfriend doesn't like the idea because some other girls he works with told him that there will be an element of debt to my relationship with a customer and I understand that but I don't think it's an insurmountable obstacle. After all, people spend lots of money on me in the club and I don't think I owe them anything. However, this would be the first time I have met a customer outside the club and I know it might work out differently than I hope.
For girls with boyfriends, do your boyfriends care if you meet a customer OTC? If he did care, would you drop the matter and not do it, or should I wait awhile and try to discuss it again?
For girls who visit customers outside the club for things like lunch or shopping, has it gone well and do you think it is worth it? Do any of you feel like you have a genuine friend in a regular customer, and has this complicated the dancer-customer relationship? I am sorry this post turned out kind of long and I am sure it's a general topic that has been covered before but I was hoping for some tailored advice. Thanks in advance.
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