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    Thumbs up Coming Out of Retirement...

    So, it's been very difficult for me to find a "normal" job in my area. I was a salesman at a car dealership for awhile, and I hated it more intensely than I've ever hated any other job. And when I look around trying to find a respectable part-time job, it's so hard to accept that I'd be working twice the hours than if I was dancing, and making a quarter of the money.

    I've also decided to go back to school full-time (I'm part-time and non-matriculated currently). I want to teach History, and I need an MA for that. So, time to buckle down and get my degrees.

    I also have GOT to move out of my parents' house. My fiancee and I both live here, albeit temporarily. We have plans to get our own place by March. And I decided long ago that I was NEVER going to live in a shitty apartment with shitty things ever again.

    So, following this chain of reasoning, since I need a job that can pay my rent, tuition, and living expenses, I have made the decision to come out of "retirement" and start dancing again!

    I am very, very excited, and extremely nervous. I've gained 10 or 15 pounds since I stopped dancing last spring, and I'm very critical of my appearance. So I've been going to the gym very regularly and watching what I eat. I know that I'll slim up real quick once I'm actually dancing again, but I'd still like to be able to look at myself in the mirror without wincing. This is the biggest I've ever been; I'm 5'5", and I weigh 130. And a good 15 pounds of that was gained over muscle, which looks odd and unattractive.

    I'm not going back to my old club, even though the manager there has been begging me to come back. I have my pride, and I'm not working for an owner who fired me because I wouldn't fuck him. It's gone way downhill and extras are now par for the course. I'm actually going to be starting at lol1337a's club, probably some time in December.

    So, I guess I'm just looking for encouragement and advice. Thanks, ladies!

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    Aw, good luck sweetie! Use your motivation to never be a car saleswoman again to push you through the rough times at the club!

    If you want to get rid of fat without gaining muscle, then cardio is your friend! Preferably an Eliptical (no impact, 100% cardio).

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    Yeah, I've been doing basically 15 minutes on the elliptical and then 15 on the bike. Plus lots of yoga, and stretching; I've always wanted to be able to do the splits, so now I'm actively focusing on getting that flexible.

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    Welcome back!!!

    You KNOW what to do (I use your testimonial in my marketing materials now)...you just have to get in the ZONE and DO it!

    ...and if it makes ya feel better I've gained 15 lbs since March also...I think I'm the only person who has a goal to lean out during the Christmas holiday! LOL!
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    Hi Firemaiden,
    After moving back to AZ for my clothed (although not quite "normal") job and watching it disappear, it looks like I get to come out of retirement too. I think I'm more annoyed than scared or worried, but the time off gave me a lot of perspective on many things. I spent most of my 9 years dancing freaking out because I didn't think I was thin enough or pretty enough, meanwhile watching girls I normally wouldn't take a second glance at rolling in the dough. Your mental state, and your confidence is going to make you money. Walk into work like you own the place. And someone send me a hug, because while I'm looking forward to going back to work, I could use a little support too. How long until we get a 30+ forum on here?

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    Also for flexibility, try Bikram's yoga. Google it for a class finder. Its a little hellish, but it is cleansing, relaxing, a super challenging workout, and awesome for flexibility.

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    I hope you enjoy your new club and make some $$$$$$$.
    xoxo

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    ^ *hug* Good luck with going back! I'm excited too, but I'm also very nervous. I expected as much. It'll go away after the first shift or two.

    I'm counting down the days till I return to dancing...I'm aiming for before the end of this month. It's been a little hectic with making arrangements for school, because the advisement and administration at my college SUCKS ASS, but I've been fairly good about working out regularly. Except I missed like three days this week cause I got snowed in, but I still have my yoga.

    I've already noticeably lost fat, though I've gained weight because of muscle. I'm very optimistic

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    I'm sure you're beautiful, good luck to you! I haven't worked up the balls to go back yet-I went back to school this week so it was a few 12 hour days, and then I got an offer from my old job in Oregon so had to withdraw, return books, and then I had surprise dressed work today and tomorrow. I think I might just wait until I get backto Oregon-no offense to ANYONE but the guys there seem to be ok with me when I'm not crazy skinny, Oregon guys seem to appreciate women with curves (and I'm not talking rolls, I wear a size 4). Arizona, in my experience is a little different. (Not in a bad way, there are tons of gorgeous girls here). I love being fit and working out, but I'm so over starving myself to try and be the same weight as the girls that like to party a lot. I love the look, but I also like being able to function without fainting.

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    You know what, I think girls always get harder on and psyche themselves out when going back to dancing even more than when they first start dancing. Like they want to make sure they measure up to their own standards, but don't realize their still hot as fawk. The stripclub effect ya know?

    I did the same thing when I took a break too. It's funny, because when I first started, I didn't care as much. I was just in awe of everything. Maybe try role playing that in your head. Like this whole thing is brand new. No analysis. Good luck girl :-)
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    I'd have to have a "4 simease twin strippers gave me head and then lite themselves on fire" story to blow anybody's mind here.

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    So I had decided to start dancing next week, using my target club's amateur night to kick it off, and then what happens? Yesterday I fucking tripped over a laundry basket, and my middle toe on my right foot got caught in one of the little slats on it, and it ripped all the skin off the bottom of my toe.

    Soooo, yeah. Not going to be able to start until this heals. I can't even walk without limping, and I'm not even going to try to dance while I still have to have a bandaid on it, cause A) it looks gross, and B) I know from experience that you can NEVER keep a bandaid on your feet when you wear those plastic shoes, because it'll come off within minutes.

    I swear to fucking god. It's just one thing after another. I really just want to work my initial couple of days to make enough money to get my hair cut and highlighted, and replenish my stripper makeup and skincare. Then I'll pretty much be in my groove and almost immediately 100% confident in dancing again. But this sure ain't happening next week now...

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    ^Sending lots of healing vibes! Get well soon!
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    UGH! MY BF of 5+ years, who I adore and cherish got very, very sick this week. We spend winters in AZ and summers in Oregon, as the productivity of both our jobs (his only and my preferred) are dictated by the weather; however, this year my winter job turned out to be non-existant. I truly feel that I am too old to go back to dancing, particularly in AZ (where even when I was young and skinny I felt old and fat). Thankfully, I was called in to my day job to fill in for the college kid (who was trying to find his car), and he was also willing to give up shifts tomorrow and next weekend. Unfortunately, with my partner in the hospital, I've really got to come out of "retirement" soon. I am so very thankful that he is going to be ok, but am also so very scared to go back to dancing. I was always the tall, skinny but hard body chick who spent 20 hours a week working out but was too scared to talk to anyone and now I've got to not only deal with being 135 pounds and older, but also BROKE and needy. I don't need a partner to work with exactly, but I could use some kind words and gentle advice, especially from the ladies who've been in the industry a while and are a bit closer to my age.
    I love all dancers, regardless of age-color-size (although I do prefer the ones who like girls). This is a unique career choice for us all. I need a hug, please.

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    ^

    It's always tough coming out of retirement...you're your own worst critic. Just stay positive, and you'll do fine. Good luck!

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