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    Hey! My name is Brandy. I am a young, fresh blond back into the scene. I have been having issues with guys wanting to talk (sometimes up to 30mins!) and not paying. How do I go about saying you need to pay or I'm on my way, without turning him off.
    I also need hints on getting a dance more frequently. People say just set goals, like 3 an hour. But I feel too forward jumping to every guy in sight for a dance. Should I just be more aggressive?
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    People knock the "wanna dance" approach, but it can honestly work. You never know what guy is sitting there, just waiting for a girl to come up and TELL him what to do. A lot of guys are like deer in the headlights when they walk into strip clubs.

    I wouldn't recommend going up to one guy after another and saying, "Hey, wannadance?" Chat for a few moments first. Always be upbeat. And don't ever be afraid to ask for the sale, because if you never ask, you'll never know. What's the worst that can happen? "No"? Not a big deal. And if a guy freaks out, like, "How dare you ask me for a dance, what do you take me for, I'm not that kind of guy, I don't have to pay for attention," and so on and so forth, then you've just unearthed a douchebag, and you KNOW you won't make any money off of him, so now you don't have to waste any more of your time.

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    getting 3 dances an hour is a perfectly good goal to have if you work in a packed club. I still follow this rule but for me I try to get my 3 dances from the same customer.

    don't be afraid to ask. if the guy says yes, don't be afraid to ask for MORE dances and don't be afraid to UPSELL once you've sold those dances.

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    what really works for me is something i learned from a very pretty russian girl i used to work with. she always asks "can we?" so i'll ask "could i give you a dance?", ""can we do another one?" "can we do onee moree?" usually that will get you one or two. usually i sell 2 and ill ask "can i take you upstairs?" somehow they think that i actually WANT to dance for them? hahhaha

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    Welcome around, Brandy!

    I have a general rule that I will sit with a customer for about 2 songs (sometimes 3 if I have a feeling that they're interested and just need a bit more time to build rapport) before asking if they would like a dance. I try and keep the conversation going in that direction so it doesn't pop out of nowhere, but if there is ever a lull in conversation, I'll just ask. This way, I can either a)sell a dance (and hopefully more) or b)find out that they're not interested and go on my way.

    If you get a customer who says he doesn't want a dance but would like your company, tell him that you'd love to stay and chat but have to get back to work, and to come find you when he's ready for a dance. Or, if you're comfortable (which it doesn't seem like you are), tell him he can pay for a session with you for x amount of money per x amount of time (even better if your club has a VIP/CR).

    I do think that at a certain point, you have to get a little aggressive though. Otherwise you're just waiting for customers to ask if you can dance for them, and there are too many cheap dudes who just want to chat with a stripper for free to make that a worthwhile approach.

    Good luck!

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    Thank you ladies! I will try out these approaches. I'm sure things will get easier as I get more experience.
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    Welcome to the game! The best advice I can give you is to not be concerned about walking away from someone if they aren't paying! Always be polite, but keep your focus on the sale, and if you've put your best moves on the guy and he's not biting, push it a little bit, and then walk away. I know its really hard to be pushy, so maybe get a couple "closer" lines (i.e. "less talk, more walk! And more BOOBIES!") in your mind, run over them in your head or out loud at home till you feel comfortable and then use them on everyone. It'll get you used to saying ridiculous and aggressive things...good luck!
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    Quote Originally Posted by ManyRoses View Post
    Welcome to the game! The best advice I can give you is to not be concerned about walking away from someone if they aren't paying! Always be polite, but keep your focus on the sale, and if you've put your best moves on the guy and he's not biting, push it a little bit, and then walk away. I know its really hard to be pushy, so maybe get a couple "closer" lines (i.e. "less talk, more walk! And more BOOBIES!") in your mind, run over them in your head or out loud at home till you feel comfortable and then use them on everyone. It'll get you used to saying ridiculous and aggressive things...good luck!
    THIS DEFINITELY. EVERY guy knows what time it is when they walk into the strip club. they know you're at work. they pretend like it's a regular bar so they can sap up all your time, but don't let them fool you. give a guy an inch, and he'll take a mile. if you ask him for a dance after 5 minutes of conversation and he says "I'll think about it" or "maybe later" MOVE ON. say "ok well it was nice talking to you. let me know if you change your mind, I have to get back to work now." and give him a hug and smile and go talk to somebody else. basically if he's not buying NOW don't sit with him. he'll try to talk your ear off all night and ask you a billion questions. sometimes I've asked guys for a dance and they tried to skirt around the question by asking me more personal questions and I have no problem just getting up and walking away while the guy is mid-sentence.

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    Quote Originally Posted by xGigi View Post
    THIS DEFINITELY. EVERY guy knows what time it is when they walk into the strip club. they know you're at work. they pretend like it's a regular bar so they can sap up all your time, but don't let them fool you. give a guy an inch, and he'll take a mile. if you ask him for a dance after 5 minutes of conversation and he says "I'll think about it" or "maybe later" MOVE ON. say "ok well it was nice talking to you. let me know if you change your mind, I have to get back to work now." and give him a hug and smile and go talk to somebody else. basically if he's not buying NOW don't sit with him. he'll try to talk your ear off all night and ask you a billion questions. sometimes I've asked guys for a dance and they tried to skirt around the question by asking me more personal questions and I have no problem just getting up and walking away while the guy is mid-sentence.
    Except if the guy gives a certain timeframe, I think. Like, "let me finish my beer/food first", "after I check my text messages/email to see if I have some time before I need to head back to the office" or "we'll go when they run the 2-for-1 special in a couple minutes" (if you're comfortable doing 2-for-1's. However, if the 2-for-1 special isn't coming up for another half-hour or something I'm not fucking sitting there all that time, that's ridiculous, no matter how slow the club is).

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    ^ apparently giving a timeframe is the new maybe later with a lot of these guys. at this point, i just walk away. i'll come back eventually. it's too slow these days not to. but they usually tell you "another drink" "check my email again" etc.

    it's slow as fuck, dude. i'm coming back. at this point, i'm doing it just to spite them.
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    Very true! I am going in tomorrow night. I have a game plan of no more than 2 songs w/o a dance. I love the closing line advice! Such a smart idea! If they don't pick up on that then I'll know they are not worth my time. I love this forum! Thank you ladies for great advice!
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    Let us know how it goes!

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    you get up at abput the 5 minute mark- why youre waiting 30 minutes is beyond me- and then walk away!

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    I have a 5 minute limit, then i just say " I want to dance for you " i don't say "do you want a dance" because thats asking a question and gives them a way to just say no, if you say I want to dance for you, it makes them feel more guilty saying no, so your more likely to get a better answer...

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    Many dancers have implemented a rule of only chatting with customers 10-15 minutes, or about 3 songs, & if your sales tactics aren't working by then move on.

    The time frame thing can be the new "maybe later" but it isn't always. Ask your club what the rule is about drinks in the lap dance area, most allow them, & if the guy mentions finishing his drink you can say "Don't worry about it, you can bring it back with you." (smile & bat the eyelashes).

    I can't believe no one has already mentioned this, but www.StripAndGrowRich.com is a really good sales training program. It uses techniques that teach customer/personality programming, to map you through a sales approach that is more personalized to the customers. While there are other programs out, this one has been around for more than a decade & is the trusted sales school in the industry.
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