
Originally Posted by
red_lolita
I personally think you overreacted.
Sure, he should have paid you the second you told him the money wasn't there, but if you look at it in the long run, you KNOW if you just act cool and eat the costs of it this one time, he'll come back, and spend more at a later date, many times over. However, if you make a stink (like you did), you'll alienate him and make him feel uncomfortable and thus loose a huge source of income--all of it, including all the money he WOULD have spent on you in the future, had you not made a big fuss about this one situation.
And it's not even like he's trying to be a dick about it--he probably DID put the money in your Avon things, but maybe someone took it? Maybe it fell out? At least he responded to you! Now, he's not offering to repay you (which he should, considering you make it out to sound like he's really rich and wouldn't be hurting if he did), but I think that stems more from the distrust issues arising as they invariably do when a girl tells a customer he hasn't already paid her, when he thinks he has. You have to look at it from his point of view--you're a dancer, and in his mind, he DOES know you're only hanging out with him for the money. So making a big fuss about this money and telling him it's gone is going to stoke his deepest fears--that you're out to "use him". Granted, of course you are, but he has to THINK that it's a fair exchange, he doesn't want to feel like he's being taken to the cleaners, as it were. And by you sending such a tart email, now I'm sure he does, AND he is thinking to himself "Ok, so yeah, all she does care about is money".
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