I have a friend I've known for years and years, we used to be very close but we live in different cities right now and haven't talked much recently just because we've both been busy but I still consider(ed?) him a friend.
We went to high school together, and a some months ago he moved back and started going back to school and stuff.
I am also still friends with my ex from highschool. We chat on the internet frequently.
Maybe a month ago, my friend had been harrassing my ex's girlfriend. He was grabbing her and trying to touch her and when my ex saw her later that night she was very upset and crying about what had happened.
A little while after this another girl that we all know was chatting with my ex and told him that my friend had came over to her house and forced himself on her. Apparently this was the same night that he'd been harrassing my ex's girlfriend.
I know my ex isn't lying, and I really don't think the girl would make up something like this.
I only heard a second hand vague retelling of what happened, but from what I gathered my friend basically forced himself on this girl. He may not have physically hurt her but he wouldn't let up and take no for an answer until he finally got what he wanted. I know there has been debate on here before about this kind of thing, but he had sex with this girl without her consent and that is rape.
My big concern is that this friend is also the ex boyfriend of my best female friend. They met through me and dated for a few years, and though they are broken up now and my bestfriend has completely moved on, they are still friendly and he calls her and they talk on the phone.
My bestfriend has talked about hanging out with him to get lunch or do something friendly like that recently, and I'm wondering if I should mention this to her?
I don't want to upset her by talking about her ex boyfriend's sexual activity, especially since while they were dating he cheated on her with my ex's girlfriend (the girl he harrassed first) and I know she doesn't like hearing about that girl at all.
Part of me doesn't think he would do anything like that to my bestfriend, especially if it was just lunch or something, but I know he still has feelings for her and wants her and part of me wonders if maybe I just don't want to think he could do something like that.
So I don't know if I should say something or if that would just be stirring up trouble unnecessarily...
Sorry if this story is confusing. I tried to make it clear without using names.
I am feeling uncertain and just wanted some outside opinions as to what I should do. Sometimes it's easier to read a situation when you don't have so many of your own emotions involved.



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