FWIW she talked about you a lot on another private board. Nothing bad that I can remember. I remember her being very in love with you. She has been gone from there for a long time too.
FWIW she talked about you a lot on another private board. Nothing bad that I can remember. I remember her being very in love with you. She has been gone from there for a long time too.
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Oh I have no doubt she is reading all of this and loving it. Narcissists get wet knowing they are talked about.

So it's 745am right now, which is essentially the middle of the night for me. I don't get very solid sleep anymore, not that I ever have since I was 18. I fall asleep at 4am and begin waking up at 30 minute intervals around 8am until 10am. So maybe right now is that 'middle of the night' window of romantic idealism but I just want to say thank you for your questionable taste to everyone who has been so kind to my incoherent ramblings of a guy attempting to dust himself off by way of a message board he doesnt really even belong posting on in the first place. But hey, maybe I'll stick around for a bit and see if I find some of that comfort and support in the 'pink glow' of SW like my ex did so often. Maybe not so that I can remember her but so that I can learn to appreciate what she has taught me. So once again, thank you... even if your taste in men is suspect.![]()




You have a blog and write books about sex and dating, you confess in that blog to being a womanising asshole, your posts and avi present you as the guy women fantasize about (devoted, supportive, sensitive, tormented, creative etc), the theme of your recent blog posts is the old "I'm bad but I agonize about it (all you nice girls can help me reform)", which women also go for. And you are oblivious to the effect of all of this? You've been writing and speaking about this stuff too long not to know.
Not sure I can believe it's all about the ex.
It's called manipulation...




^ Funny that on a stripper forum I am the first to comment on it. Strippers must be used to all kinds of pick-up routines being played out on them. He may be genuine but I'd expect the dancers to be suspicious because of how it looks.





^^his posts on here sound rather genuine and not like he is out to pick up SW girls. i havent read his blog etc though.
anyway, to the OP, welcome to the board.
The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.





Women are meant to be loved, not to be understood.
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while i understand the reluctance some people may have here based upon those who came before me, it really is genuinely disappointing that i find myself having to defend myself on a thread that initially began as a simple thank you for an amazing memory.
i am well aware of what i have written. i also know that i have that link to everything i have written, be it in blogs or books, in my signature. im not a dumb dude. i am acutely aware of what i have written and how it can be interpreted. yes, i have written a book about dating. about everything from the manipulation it takes to kiss someone to the tactics men use to sleep with someone to the remorse, guilt and shame men feel when turning away from a good woman. but its honest. the writing, the books, the post. and if i come off as "devoted, supportive, sensitive, tormented, creative etc" or however you view this its because that is who i truly am. go ahead and read the years of blogs i have written. this isnt some intricate plan i have been devising for years so that one day i will be prepared to swoop down on the unsuspecting women of SW and "manipulate" them with a story about missing my ex-girlfriend.
but you know what, you are right. this isnt "all about the ex". its more about me. its more about my attempts to right the mast of my ship while attempting to keep my chin up and shoulders back. i spent an hour last night reading her blog and it killed me. i turned off the lights to my room and felt like i was melting inside. because unlike most of men, im not afraid of the admission. i know my honesty doesnt make me any less of a man and i know that there is strength in vulnerability. but i also know that discussing it here, where people can relate is a completely genuine way to help me get past a rough time in my life.
i never came here with any motives other than a sincere desire to thank a community in an attempt to help clear my head. you can choose to believe this or not, it really doesnt make much of a difference.
be leery, be cautious, mindful of the motives of the men on this board. i understand. hell, ill even back you up most of the time. but also, when you come pointing fingers at new members who are baring a white flag of honesty, you give off the impression of an elitist community of the hopelessly jaded.





On SW it's best to ignore what is off the mark about you and your post, especially so when it comes from only 1 or 2 posts.
You, sir, are an author.
I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.
Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.
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Apparently my last post to this thread never posted, so I'm writing it again.
I think the OP seems to be more trying to re-connect with happy memories, rather than trying to re-connect with the current version of the ex-girlfriend. I don't think there is manipulation at play here.
:waving the white flag:
Don't you ever sleep?
Not at night...that's when the stars have rather better things to do. They're coming out, shining, that sort of thing.
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So you write books about being a PUA? Is this for real? I haven't checked the links yet, and don't have the time now.
Apparently, whether it's intentional and planned or not, it's working very well here. All that crying seems to be quite effective.
I'll wait and see how this pans out I think.
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Free your mind, and your ass will follow.
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Hey, I don't begrudge the guy trying to pick up (if he is), although I think the manner he is trying to do it (if he is) is cheesy. We all like to pick up girls and all men and women each manipulate the other one way or another, to some extent. It's even expected by the opposite sex. We all want to pick up strippers we like, the same as with girls IRL. I just posted this because it ties in with what I said. My only point here is - how did it go unnoticed by the army of vigilant, suspicious and potentially hostile strippers at this site?
It's just interesting. It's ironic. How can I not comment about what I see?
PUA or not, it's a very sweet and well-written OP. Nothing wrong with that. I enjoyed it.
And anyway, PUA's never seem to realize that the people they pick up are willing victims.




Well it looks like a lot of people don't believe it's true anyway. I suspect I have just created more empathy for him if anything. If by "play out" and "unfold" you mean deadxstop succeeding in hooking up with strippers here, that would all happen in private by PM, not in threads where you can watch it.
Anyway it was like politely ignoring an elephant in somebody's living room. I was amazed all the strippers were going for it with no alarms going off (whether or not he is genuine). Strippers have been outspoken here about reading into things into posts which were a lot less obvious or even nothing.





It wouldn't be the first time, Hopper. We had two of our most popular male members a while back, who were having a little contest to see who could score more SW ass--all the while pretending to be the very models of compassionate, understanding, caring men.
Like the very best PUAs, they might actually have believed their own line of shit, I'll grant them that much and no more. Except they both scored a lot of SW ass.
Unlike those two, at least this guy can write. I'll grant him that.
You must have chaos within you to give birth to a dancing star.
Friedrich Nietzsche
Free your mind, and your ass will follow.
George Clinton
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When you post or blog claiming to make people think be prepared for them to tell you what they think.
That I believe.i am well aware of what i have written. i also know that i have that link to everything i have written, be it in blogs or books, in my signature. im not a dumb dude.
If it were a lie there would be nothing to be concerned about.i am acutely aware of what i have written and how it can be interpreted. yes, i have written a book about dating. about everything from the manipulation it takes to kiss someone to the tactics men use to sleep with someone to the remorse, guilt and shame men feel when turning away from a good woman. but its honest. the writing, the books, the post. and if i come off as "devoted, supportive, sensitive, tormented, creative etc" or however you view this its because that is who i truly am.
LOL, well no, I'm sure you have manipulated other women too, long before you found out about SW..go ahead and read the years of blogs i have written. this isnt some intricate plan i have been devising for years so that one day i will be prepared to swoop down on the unsuspecting women of SW and "manipulate" them with a story about missing my ex-girlfriend.
Well you are bound to get hung up on the occasional girl..but you know what, you are right. this isnt "all about the ex". its more about me. its more about my attempts to right the mast of my ship while attempting to keep my chin up and shoulders back. i spent an hour last night reading her blog and it killed me. i turned off the lights to my room and felt like i was melting inside. because unlike most of men, im not afraid of the admission. i know my honesty doesnt make me any less of a man and i know that there is strength in vulnerability. but i also know that discussing it here, where people can relate is a completely genuine way to help me get past a rough time in my life.
Not pointing fingers, just pointing out the obvious, though it may not be the truth. I can't tell whether you are honest - can't just take your word for that. Not being blind doesn't make me jaded.i never came here with any motives other than a sincere desire to thank a community in an attempt to help clear my head. you can choose to believe this or not, it really doesnt make much of a difference.
be leery, be cautious, mindful of the motives of the men on this board. i understand. hell, ill even back you up most of the time. but also, when you come pointing fingers at new members who are baring a white flag of honesty, you give off the impression of an elitist community of the hopelessly jaded.
I'm not against you. I'm just giving you what all of us get on any forum.




^^^
To be honest, I have to say I concur. I've been a bit busy but here's the duality I see:
Regardless of the level of eloquence with which the OP writes, it still doesn't change the fact that he is an ex-boyfriend who came onto SW to trash talk one of our former members (and publicly named her). She changed her name, left the site, and erased her posts for a reason. There could be several reasons why the OP is here. Could it be revenge in the guise of eloquent authorship?




^ Yes, maybe a bit too much personal information for a "thank you" to SW. Should have kept that to his blog. It wasn't immediately relevant to his reason for posting. He should not wish to tell the world those kinds of things about someone he cared about. Maybe he's just used to telling the world in his books and blogs. But people who read those don't know the girl.
deadxstop must be wondering if it's Judgment Day.





Don't kid yourself. He doesn't care what you think of him. The PUAs don't generally worry what guys think of them, especially. Not when they are getting female attention the way this guy is.
Could be the bottom line. The ones that fall for it are usually quite willing. Though I think the PUAs are usually aware of it. The techniques in the manuals and training literature are clearly predatory, even if they strive for voluntary co-operation.
You must have chaos within you to give birth to a dancing star.
Friedrich Nietzsche
Free your mind, and your ass will follow.
George Clinton
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