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    How do you properly pick up a Dancer in a venue like this? How should one go about it? Sometimes it seems impossible, but these Dancers are like any other woman just more facinating with their views and ambitions which I'm drawn to. Yes they are beautiful but beauty is common. So, is it possible in that environment? I don't normally date Dancers but I found that they can be fun and lovely individuals so I'm reconsidering my position. Lately, I've meet some very intelligent Dancers that I would be interested in. What should I do? Please advise.

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    #1 - Don't meet her in the club.

    #2 - Treat her spectacularly well.


    Places to meet dancers: grocery shopping at 3am/4am when we just got off work (Wal-mart, Safeway, Publix), Waffle House or IHop at 3am/4am when we are having breakfast, 4pm-7pm the closest place to the club that serves good food to go, the bank on Monday around 11am - 3pm, sell burritos outside the club (if you can get a business license to do so, get a job at a firm that offers financial advice or investing services, any nice restaurants that attract business men with major money on a Monday/Tuesday/Wednesday for lunch, online dating/sugardaddy/social networking websites.

    Treat her well: Don't ever question where she's been, who she's been hanging out with, why she got home late, or what she does for work. Take her out for nice meals, shopping, concerts, vacations. Send flowers/gifts/sweets for her to the club. STAY OUT OF HER CLUB. Cook her something to eat for when she gets off work, & maybe run her a hot bath/shower or warm up the bed. Just know that if you don't treat her well, she will leave & find someone better.
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    You're going to have to spend money inside the club on the dancer you're interested in when you first meet. Anytime I have ever read on SW about a dancer going out with a customer OTC it is because he bought lots of dances from her and she had a good time with him.

    Guys who think they can go into the strip club and pick up a dancer without spending any money on her are delusional and will not succeed in getting a date. It's like if you went to lunch alone and took a liking to your waitress, then asked her out after not leaving a tip for a her. (Point I'm trying to make is to be respectful of her work place....I'd personally never go out with a guy I met at work who didn't spend $$ on me, no matter how good-looking or nice he was, based on that principle)

    Be friendly, polite, smell good, and perhaps you and a dancer will take a liking to each other

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    ^ That was for inside the club because it's what he asked for, but Kylea's advice is better and more realistic. If you get lucky and bump into the right girl

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    I don't ever suggest that dancers go out with customers, because it takes away from their income source, often puts them in a dangerous situation, & in general makes life harder for the couple during the relationship. Most dancers who do see customers OTC either see the customer as: becoming a private customer for escorting/OTC dancing, sugardaddy, or an actual boyfriend. If you do manage to pick up a dancer in the club, you are also probably 50-75% more likely to lose her to another customers of the club who fancies becoming her new beaux.
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    Be white, tatted with a dick like Tommy Lee's, a bank account like Donald Trumps, speak at least 3 languages, have a face like Christian bale for starters.
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    Quote Originally Posted by tempest666 View Post
    Be white, tatted with a dick like Tommy Lee's, a bank account like Donald Trumps, speak at least 3 languages, have a face like Christian bale for starters.

    LOL< if he had all that...he certainly wouldnt need a dancer?

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    Quote Originally Posted by tempest666 View Post
    Be white, tatted with a dick like Tommy Lee's, a bank account like Donald Trumps, speak at least 3 languages, have a face like Christian bale for starters.
    Not my style... well, unless of course he wants to just hand me over access to his bank account, AMEX & Visa.

    I've never met a guy who looked like that who had much in common with me, & generally they do have so many women around them that most have an ego... another turn off.

    Quote Originally Posted by BIGJosh View Post
    LOL< if he had all that...he certainly wouldnt need a dancer?
    Word.
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    My ex had a horse dick, long black hair hazel eyes and a nice aristocratic pedigree..unfortunately he loved the bottle more than me
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    A giant stash of really good drugs will work wonders on some dancers.
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    That's easy, just follow one of these methods:
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7aoy8cWcZGs
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wg5RzHyB4mg
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e_OKCA_IdA8
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MMqjxJN-5U0
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BKc65JFvRsM

    Or, you can start a nostalgic/melancholy thread on SW about your stripper ex-GF who you loved profoundly and tried to help with her issues, but who stabbed your heart violently, leaving you emotionally crippled - and hope that a few SW dancers PM you with empathic messages - then, take it from there:
    http://forum.stripperweb.com/showthread.php?t=146618

    Or, you can start a thread on SW about how you've dated so many dancers, and you must be some kind of dancer-magnet, and can't help it.
    http://forum.stripperweb.com/showthr...ight=scoundrel

    Or, you can kiss a lot of ass on this site, always side with the ladies and attack the other men on SW for being honest, and hope that the ass-kissing pays off eventually. (I won't name names.)
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kylea2 View Post
    Treat her well: Don't ever question where she's been, who she's been hanging out with, why she got home late, or what she does for work. Take her out for nice meals, shopping, concerts, vacations. Send flowers/gifts/sweets for her to the club. STAY OUT OF HER CLUB. Cook her something to eat for when she gets off work, & maybe run her a hot bath/shower or warm up the bed. Just know that if you don't treat her well, she will leave & find someone better.
    He should also clean and vaccuum the house and scrub the toilets. And, most importantly, he must earn at least a six-digit income and he must hand over half of his income to her so she can shop for clothes and beauty products, to look beautiful for him.
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    ^ This is excellent advice.

    The way my ex got to date a dancer was by picking me up in a coffee shop. I was just " me " then I told him after a few weeks I did little trips out of our area on the down low to dance. You just never know !
    Keep in mind our days off are usually Sun / Mon / Tues.

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    Just hang around for a while, and don't be a jackass. It's been said before, but you have a better chance of picking up a dancer on SW than you do in a club.

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    I find it funny that this question is asked so much...They are like any other woman, be yourself & have something going on in life besides hanging out at strip clubs.

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    Most people have a better chance of picking up a head cold than a dancer at a SC.

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    ^^^ Much higher chance!

    Quote Originally Posted by jack0177057 View Post
    He should also clean and vaccuum the house and scrub the toilets. And, most importantly, he must earn at least a six-digit income and he must hand over half of his income to her so she can shop for clothes and beauty products, to look beautiful for him.
    I hope that wasn't said in sarcasm. While I would never expect what you said NOR what I said, the fact is that with many women who are dancers... those things do help, & if the guy has a nice bank account the chances are he also has a weekly maid service - which is relatively common even among busy middle class families.
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    Quote Originally Posted by lopaw View Post
    Most people have a better chance of picking up a head cold than a dancer at a SC.
    Very true!

    Quote Originally Posted by fast tan77 View Post
    A giant stash of really good drugs will work wonders on some dancers.
    Also very true!

    Quote Originally Posted by jack0177057 View Post
    Or, you can start a nostalgic/melancholy thread on SW about your stripper ex-GF who you loved profoundly and tried to help with her issues, but who stabbed your heart violently, leaving you emotionally crippled...



    From what I've seen working the clubs, watching which rare customers do pick up in them (usually the same ones all the time), and what the dancers seem to go for in a customer they might actually be attracted to--the worst thing you can do is buy dances. I have seen maybe two guys in ten years buying dances who were able to pick up. The vast majority of them never get dances--though some of them do spend money for convo, bought drinks, etc.

    Sadly, the kind of bullshit tactics the PUAs recommend work very well on a lot of dancers, from what I've seen. Especially the stupid ones.

    The smart ones hardly ever play around with customers, and are instantly suspicious when the fucking douchebag PUAs start in with their sexual manipulation games.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Djoser View Post
    the worst thing you can do is buy dances. I have seen maybe two guys in ten years buying dances who were able to pick up. The vast majority of them never get dances--though some of them do spend money for convo, bought drinks, etc.
    Not paying for dances (or anything really) is something that many of the stripper PUA claim to be the biggest step. Personally, it's also the number one reason I would not waste my time talking to one of them. I'm at work, which isn't a place to "hook-up", therefore I don't appreciate the PUAs who want to waste my time... which is what they do since I don't intend to date them & they don't intend to be a customer.


    Quote Originally Posted by Djoser View Post
    Sadly, the kind of bullshit tactics the PUAs recommend work very well on a lot of dancers, from what I've seen. Especially the stupid ones.
    *1
    Thank you for saying that so I didn't have to! I worded my first post very carefully to avoid posting pretty much those exact words.

    OP, the girls you pick up in the club are likely the same girls who aren't professional, tend to "party", date other customers (or just get physical with them) - which means you'll probably lose her to another customer, & are often the same ones complaining about how they can't make money. Personally, I don't think of those dancers as being any special prize.... or even like winners. There the same girls I wouldn't even bestow my enemies to date.


    Quote Originally Posted by Djoser View Post
    The smart ones hardly ever play around with customers, and are instantly suspicious when the fucking douchebag PUAs start in with their sexual manipulation games.
    +1
    Not even suspicious - we see right through it & will walk off leaving you in the dust with the losers.
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    Don't try. I've never seen a guy come in looking to pick up ACTUALLY pick up. I do know of a few dancer/customer relationships that have worked out though not many. In every case the dancer made the moves.

    This is my nice answer. There are plenty of threads on here discussing the dancer's views of guys who come in looking to get a date. I suggest you read some and desist your endeavour.

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    i've gone out with a couple guys who've spent money if i really clicked with them. however, i don't anymore because either they assume i'm a whore and will fuck them immediately (as opposed to understanding that i want to get to know them first, like most normal girls), or the spark disappears outside the club. they want me to be the fantasy girl i was in the club and can't handle that i'm not normally so fun and loud. oh, and there were a couple guys who i gave my number to but didn't go out with because they freaked out at me for not immediately answering them and started ranting (via text or voicemail) about how a was a typical stripper bitch who must've given them a fake number. yeah, way to be a crazy person. not to mention the ones who don't call at all, who just got the number to get it. i didn't do anything sexual with any of these guys, at all. got a lot of nice, free meals out of it though.

    there was one i went out with who didn't spend money. we met when it was really slow. i saw him and hit on him. he was gorgeous and younger than me and sweet. most physically affectionate guy i've ever met. unfortunately, his enthusiasm didn't make up for his mediocre skill or small dick. a real shame. he was the only one i ever had sex with. few of the others even got a kiss. also, i wasn't new anymore when i met him. i was just horny as fuck, and when i say he was gorgeous, i mean it. also bear in mind that i hit on him. he didn't try to pick me up at all.

    most girls don't date customers. even if we like you. even if we're attracted to you. any dancer who's been around a while knows how badly it can go, either from personal experience or other girls.

    the pua shit can work, but not on professional strippers. just on the newbies doing it to feel badass, ones who don't have their priorities straight. girls like this used to be a lot more common when the money was better. now they give up pretty fast, so you're less likely to find them. though, i have talked to pua types if it's slow and i'm bored. but cockblocking puas is a hobby of mine otc too.

    i've met a lot of guys at starbucks and the library. lol. you're more likely to land a stripper if you aren't looking for one.

    and acting all high and mighty and claiming to "not date strippers, but you'll reconsider" doesn't help. most of us don't have the patience to jump through hoops. our job is to impress guys. it's what we get paid for. you won't find many willing to do it for free. and if you do, they're new. that cocky shit doesn't work with us.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kylea2 View Post
    I hope that wasn't said in sarcasm. While I would never expect what you said NOR what I said, the fact is that with many women who are dancers... those things do help, & if the guy has a nice bank account the chances are he also has a weekly maid service - which is relatively common even among busy middle class families.
    But, it means so much more if he does it himself. Anyway, some men might like doing that stuff for sexy dominating woman - I've seen it on TV - its some kind of submission fetish. It must be really lucky for a girl to meet a dude like this, that gets aroused vaccuming your house and scrubbing your toilet.

    I wasn't being sarcastic,... I have my wish list of the perfect GF/wife, too: she worships me, looks hot and smells nice all the time, cooks and cleans like a traditional housewife, but also acts like a dirty stripper - giving me "dirty" lap dances all the time and dances on the pole better than any stripper, she lets me set up my very own SC in our living room and indulges me in every sexual fantasy I can imagine - yet, in public - she look very classy/conservative and acts like a virgin... Meeting a woman who scores just 50% of this is pretty amazing.
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    Or, you can start a nostalgic/melancholy thread on SW about your stripper ex-GF who you loved profoundly and tried to help with her issues, but who stabbed your heart violently, leaving you emotionally crippled - and hope that a few SW dancers PM you with empathic messages - then, take it from there:



    wow. really. still?

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    To the OP: Hang out outside of a pole-dancing or strip-aerobics studio. The instructor is probably a stripper or former stripper. The students are probably wannabe strippers. Hit on them both. A hot wannabe stripper is probably just as good as a certified stripper.

    Also, visit some nightclubs in big cities like NYC, Miami, LA, etc. - you'll find girls that dress, look and dance so raunchy, that it would make a stripper blush.

    Dude, you probably just have a hard-on for strippers after getting your first few lap dances. Find a "dirty" one, pay to play,... and then check to see if you're still romatically fixated on dancers.

    (No offense to dancers, just saying... sometimes, its not easy for a guy to tell the difference between love and lust.)
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    Quote Originally Posted by jack0177057 View Post
    Also, visit some nightclubs in big cities like NYC, Miami, LA, etc. - you'll find girls that dress, look and dance so raunchy, that it would make a stripper blush.
    Yup, even here in bum-fuck WV the nightclubs downtown (college town) are filled with half dressed, drunk ass, want-a-be's. If you just want layed go to club looking decent, buy drinks/bottles and you should have no problem.
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