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    Default So pissed off... dont even know why I bother helping people out anymore.

    This is going to be kind of long so i understand if you don't really want to read it...

    So I started stripping in June with a girl I had just met. I'll call her AA. I didn't know her very well when I first met her but my boyfriend wanted me to start of stripping with someone I knew first in case I got in a dangerous situation, I would know somebody. Well this person had alcohol problems and wasn't very trustworthy. A week before we started stripping together she got kicked out of her house by her crazy parents, and all of my crap was in their house (the dancer stuff I bought, we were trying stuff on in her room). She ended up meeting a guy and then moving in with him after 5 days. At that point I had about $500 to my name and spent about $200 of that trying to get her life in order cuz I felt really bad about the situation she was in and felt like I couldn't just walk away and know what was happening. So we start working for our private party company and she gets really competitive and we end up fighting a lot. Long story short, I don't trust her any more, and she pretends to be my friend but I know she would do anything to make me look bad or throw me under the bus. She even purposely kicked me in the face with her 6" heel one time at a show cuz a guy wanted a dance from me and not her. I never retaliated, I have always just tried to be the bigger person, but its so hard when she doesn't get in trouble for the bullshit she pulls. Long story short, I was pissed off at myself for trying to help someone who in the end was just in it for themselves and backstabbed me like that. and if it wasn't for me, they wouldn't even have a job because she was such an alcoholic. she even went to rehab a month after working and they wanted to fire her for all the drama she had caused but I told them not to because I was trying to have her back.



    So I got another friend a job about a month and a half ago, let's call her BB. She said that she couldn't pay her rent and couldn't even buy groceries. how do i not help out a friend in need like that? so i taught her all the dance moves, taught her all the hair and makeup, we went out and got spraytans, and i got her the job. now she is going around saying how much better she is than me and how shes gonna get me fired and shes gonna take my top spot and blah blah blah. and i'm like, really? who are you to say all that when apparently you couldn't pay your rent or buy groceries, your family cut you off, and i helped you get out of that terrible situation? how could she even do something like that?

    So AA finds out that BB is going to work for our company now, and AA is pissed. shes like why the fuck did you bring BB into this, she is a backstabbing whore, will take our money, is fat and ugly, and I can't believe you are doing this to me because I thought we were friends, blah blah blah. So now AA hates BB with a passion.

    she also started talking shit about AA, and even though i'm pissed at AA, BB had no right to say what she did. we were looking at AA's pics and i said "she has such a great body, i wish i had her abs" and then BB said "well, you know the reason why she is so skinny is because she is bulimic, right?" i couldn't believe she said that! BB was obviously just jealous of AA. so i told AA what BB friend said since they might be working together that night and i wanted to warn her not to trust this bitch. so AA confronts BB and BB blames it on me and says that i said it!! so AA is crying and is mad at me, blah blah blah. long story short, i confront BB friend, she calls me psychotic and says that nobody within 100 miles has anything good to say about me, shes gonna get me fired, blah blah. i should have said well if im such a bad person then get your own fucking job and go back to not having any food in the fridge and basically being homeless. but im a better person than that so I just didn't write back to whatever she said.


    about a week later after this big blowup I got my breast augmentation and I was out of work for 3 weeks. during these 3 weeks AA and BB are all of a sudden best friends. like, INSEPARABLE. and now their favorite thing to do is talk shit about me and try to get me fired (which isn't going to happen because all I do is do a good job, make a lot of money, and make a lot of money for the company, and mind my own business unless I call someone out on their shit). And i'm like, wow, that's really funny because before my surgery AA and BB hated each other with a passion. AND, NEITHER of them would have jobs if it wasn't for me.


    So basically idk what to do.. . I'm very pissed off.. and I'm very upset that after I went out of my way to help both of these girls and get them jobs, they turn around and stab me in the back like this. I try to be a good person and it always fucks me over. I don't see why I try to do the right thing. I do good things for people and it never comes back around.

    I'm not letting AA and BB bother me because I know that I'm not gonna help them anymore or rally for them anymore to keep their jobs cuz they dont deserve it... they will get themselves fired eventually by themselves cuz these are the kinds of people that always fuck up... they've both been arrested before and its not their fault, one of them has been pregnant and it's not their fault, one of them failed out of school and its not their fault, and the list goes on and on and on. they think nothing is their fault and their shit dont stink and they always fuck shit up. i'm sure they will do the same with this job.


    What should I do??

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    Default Re: So pissed off... dont even know why I bother helping people out anymore.

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    Default Re: So pissed off... dont even know why I bother helping people out anymore.

    That's tough, and I'm sorry that you trying to help others out blew up in your face like that. Do you have to work with them for private shows? If so, can you ask the company to pair you with other girls? I wouldn't go into your reasoning and start shit talking, but maybe say something along the lines of how you two just aren't a good fit and you think you'd both put on better shows with other partners.

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    Default Re: So pissed off... dont even know why I bother helping people out anymore.

    well i would but i'd rather work with them than to not have work at all... my boss knows whats going on and as long as they are professional during shows i don't care who i work with...

    the thing is, i also go to school with them. so even if i don't work with them they will still be annoying and try to put 2 brain cells together to think of something to try to piss me off or make me look bad.

    they have both fucked up their lives in a lot of ways and i have done a lot of good things in my life and have gone very far and maybe they are jealous of that and want to take me down.

    i just wish i never got them involved, i should have never helped them.... :/

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    Default Re: So pissed off... dont even know why I bother helping people out anymore.

    Wow thats harsh. You did a nice thing, the person just didnt take it nicely. Its hard to see that. Can you work or partner with another girl with this company? If its a private party, could you talk to the manager and see whether they could work something out for, as in getting another girl? I would ignore them both, you do a good job at work, and dont need their drama. You did a good deed, and you're a good person, they dont see that and let them be that way.. you dont need their negative aspect in yout private life nor work. Just move on with life and think nothing of it.. they could be jealous, they may be on drugs as one is fighting with AA. See whether you can partner with another girl, if you dont want to see A or B.

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    Default Re: So pissed off... dont even know why I bother helping people out anymore.

    what kisca said and i also wanted to add-NEVER lend money to people that you barely know! EVER! 90% of the time that people loan money to friends it does not get paid back so to expect a stranger to pay it back...pffft....sorry that this happened to you but this is a sad reality especially with the way the economy is and you mentioned that these bitches were already broke so yeah. they sound malicious. you might want to try to switch classes, get a new # etc. as these chicks still sound like they're in high school.

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    Default Re: So pissed off... dont even know why I bother helping people out anymore.

    ^ i second. no money, or small money returned immediately after they got jobs. damn girl, its bad, sounds like me almost. it really sucks, going out of your way to help others coz its not setting you back and why not help, and then they try and knock you off your spot and take you back down.
    try to not be around them. i know, easily said, avoid all contact unless necessary, work with other girls and dont get too emotionally attached to their problems. i became quite the heartless bitch now coz i only look out for me, but you are youre number one person.
    also people like that strive on weakness so dont do or say anything they could jump on, like crying, looking pissed off or bothered.
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    Default Re: So pissed off... dont even know why I bother helping people out anymore.

    I don't know about you, but I believe in karma. Helping people out in need has brought me good karma.

    In the past I have let people borrow money, and never got paid back. Right now there are about a dozen people I have known in my life that owe me money. Add it all up and it is a significant amount. Some people have owed me this money for 6 years or more. Some people I haven't seen or heard from in 3 or 4 years. I don't sweat the situation and let it cause me stress. I don't talk bad about these people, or harass them to pay me back. (although if I do happen to run into them they usually tell me they're gonna pay me eventually but times have been tough, for the past however many years)

    Since I started helping others out, I have noticed an uptick in my luck. Whenever I think I could use some cash, somehow it ends up in my hands. Just yesterday, I was thinking I could use a little extra money for something I'd like to do this weekend. When I got home, there was a check for me in the mail from something I had done over the summer. In all honesty in was a couple of months late getting to me, but in my mind showed up just in time, and guaranteed me the opportunity to have a fun weekend.

    Now I recognize this just could be dumb luck, and I certainly haven't won millions of dollars in the lottery. All I really need to have, though, is what I can live on, put some away for a rainy day, and of course have some disposable cash for a night out in a club once in a while.

    Keep positive about the whole situation and it will all come back to you in a good way.
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    Default Re: So pissed off... dont even know why I bother helping people out anymore.

    Quote Originally Posted by miss1dancypants View Post
    the thing is, i also go to school with them. so even if i don't work with them they will still be annoying and try to put 2 brain cells together to think of something to try to piss me off or make me look bad.

    damn this whole thing sucks im sorry your dealing with such drama! I dont have much advice...all I can say is KARMA. Bitches will get theres

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    Default Re: So pissed off... dont even know why I bother helping people out anymore.

    yeah, both of these girls suck.. i just wish i never brought them into the company... i put a lot on the line for them... i love my job and it's so important to me and im so upset over it i just hope they eventually fuck up their position in the company like they fuck up everything else in their lives and get fired.

    i guess i'm the dumb one for trying to help people who can't be helped...

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