I am not a newbie on here but made up a new account because I am fully aware of how pathetic I sound.
Background:
I have a really good guy that is just a friend who I just re-connected with after not speaking/seeing him in 6 years. The reason we lost contact is because we had started trying to date and had even kissed and then he stopped saying that he wasn't ready to be a boyfriend and he would rather it stopped there, so we could remain friends. We had a great friendship and we truely could talk about anything and laugh and just go do stuff etc.. so after he told me this I felt hurt and rejected and decided to stop talking to him and coincidently moved away. He tried to contact me almost every year I was away and one time reaching me by phone saying he regretted not trying the dating thing.
Flash to this year, I moved back to the city I lived in back then and we rekindle our friendship and we make time for each other at least once a wk. He is single. We go out to a party and a girl is sorta flirty with him, I tell him to go for it and he does; get her number etc.. Later he asks me why I encouraged him and I shrug it off..I guess I just wanted him to think I didn't still want him. Truth is I am still attracted to him, maybe more now. That night we watch a movie and he tells me to lay with him on the sofa with a pillow propped on his chest for me to lay on as he tousles my hair.
Flash to last night: He asked me to come to a work x-mas party (as his date) I buy the hottest dress I can find and go. He is full of compliments and is all gushy...we go to dinner and he intros me by name to people, his friend "thanks me" for coming with him bcs he's been lonely.. thing is I know he told most of his co-workers I'm just his friend bcs I hear from a distance them saying stuff like "she's so pretty,hot THOUGH..." as if he said to them "no we're just friends" also at this party there is a really hot guy, who I did talk to and he asks me "do you want me to hook you guys up?" and I ask "how"During the dinner he wants to talk about us losing touch and he says" I never want that to happen again, promise me it won't" and I tell him that I can't do that & I don't know what the future holds. He asks me point blank why did you stop talking to me was it because of us not dating, did you think I was leading you on? and I said YES exactly. He goes on to tell me that he's never had a friend that was as pretty as me but he TREASURES our friendship more than just having sex with me like any other girl and that I was silly to like him anyways I could get a much more successful, better looking guy than him, we drop it at that. Here's the important part: we go out dancing afterwards by ourselves and at first we are dancing together not touching and then I feel him finally put his hands on me and we didn't let go the whole night. At one point he says "damn you look so good tonight" We go back to his place and he starts commenting on my outfit and touching my legs and then says "you should hang out with that guy from the party, I went out with that girl you told me to hang out with" and I said "really, already?" and he tells me they have chemistry and they kissed. He's telling me all of this while he's touching my legs, then he says I can spend the night if I don't feel like driving, thats when I decide to leave because I am feeling like he's sending me all these mixed messages when he knows that I felt that he lead me on before and that was the DOWNFALL of our whole friendship!. So what do you guys think this guy wants? He says one thing but does another. Fyi: this guy is a regular guy next door picture a young Jeff Goldblum.



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Sorry, what were you saying? I almost choked on my drool

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