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    Default Re: how do you make your lap dances "exciting"?

    Quote Originally Posted by crystalize View Post
    well... those are definitely great tips but it's kinda hard to put in action in miami cause anything goes here and they sure as hell won't get a repeat if I keep my clothes on.. most clubs I dance at have dances in the open and a lot of customers don't like that. Which is also why I know exactly what other girls do. They're like crazy energetic hardcore dry humping and it works but I just don't wanna do that.. I think talking dirty is a good idea, that might make them curious for the CR too..
    When I danced in FL, I was a big fan of "pre-screening" customers before even hitting them up for a dance. Try to get a feel of what they're looking for before you even take them back. Some good questions to ask, "So, are u from around this area?" "When is the last time you had a lapdance?" or "So, who all have you had dance for you so far tonight?" If he answers with any of the wild, grind happy girls, just move on, b/c he will be expecting the same type of dances from you.
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    Default Re: how do you make your lap dances "exciting"?

    I learned this from stripperweb back in 03/04, idk from who, but the hair curtain is awesome. When straddling them, lean really close to them, like going in for a kiss, but like forehead to forehead almost. When you lean your hair naturally falls in the face. Swing your head around so your hair comes down over their head. Your hair makes a little curtain around you two and its like you are alone with the guy. I never had one guy say they didn't like it. I've had plenty tell me it felt so intimate. While that close look into his eyes and keep moving your hips slowly. Then after a bit, toss your head back. The look in the guys eyes. All of a sudden, bam back in the club crazy music other people. Makes em wanna get more dances cause you made them feel like nothing existed but the two of you and doesn't every man wanna feel like you are all his even for 3mins at $10 a min. Good for the end of dance. My club is a no touch club so I make sure to rub their arms, rub their neck lightly or nuzzle close so it feels more personal. I mean dude is already stretched out in an unnatural position with his arms out that damn far on the couch. I try to compensate for that. It's a good idea sometimes to ask a guy what kind of dances he likes. Old guys don't usually like it rough, and will tell you. Some young guys wanna you grinding like you're fucking. You never know til you ask.
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    Default Re: how do you make your lap dances "exciting"?

    one of my dance routines go something like this: it varies depending on the customer.

    to give customer a full view I stand about 2 ft away from him when the song begins
    dance slowly and seductively using my hands to touch my body with rhythmic motions. subtle smile and lots of eye contact.
    play with my breasts, squeezing them together, pulling my top down enough to expose my nipples
    then let my top naturally go back into place.
    play with my bottoms and lift it up slowly to expose my gstring. let it fall back down

    turn around to give him a back view
    use my hands to touch my thighs, then move them slowly upward and lift up my bottom to show him my ass.

    then I go back to facing him again this time I'm much closer, play with my breasts again and take off my top. play with my breasts again.
    take off my bottoms. move closer towards him, touch his arm, hair while dancing. whisper in his eyes " you smell so nice".

    turn around w my back towards, wiggle around some more, move closer. eye contacts, play w my hair.

    repeat, switching it up and getting closer each time. i get really close towards the end and keep moving a little into the next song while asking for another dance.

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    Default Re: how do you make your lap dances "exciting"?

    I've always been a top earner and I am neither energetic nor crazy. My dances are slow and sensual and lots of eye contact but very little body contact.

    Quote Originally Posted by Surprise View Post
    don't do this. instead, after every song, say something like, "i want to keep going", or "we can do this song too, i love this song" or whatever. some guys don't realize the next song is starting, and get pissy, even if they only spend an extra $20.
    I disagree with this... I think asking a guy if he wants to keep going in between every song really kills the fantasy for a lot of customers. No one wants to be reminded constantly that they're paying you for something while they're trying to get into it.
    After establishing that they want you to keep going... I check in every $100-200 dollars... and I've never had a customer get mad at me over how much they spent.
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    i am losing my fucking mind and i really just want this chloroform dream because i think that would just get me right with jesus.

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    Default Re: how do you make your lap dances "exciting"?

    ok here's a question...so the club i work at a lot of girls come in with their men...and for the most part they are pretty cool with everything, but I am still new...How do I make the lap dance interesting without making the guy bored or the girlfriend mad??

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nuclear Martini View Post
    How do you tell the customer this before hand? Do you say "Okay, every four songs I will ask if you want to keep going and its $100 per 4 songs".

    I like your theory a lot, but I'm trying to think of a way to put it into practice.
    If I'm just doing dances on the couch I make sure customers know the price is xx amount PER SONG.
    I ask after the first song something clear like "Do you want me to keep going?" when they say yes I say "Perfect... tell me when you want me to stop or if there's a number we should stop at."
    Normally if there's a specific amount they want to stop at and it's above $200 I just try to sell them a CR/VIP so they have to pay up front.
    OTHERWISE: Typically... when you check in after a few songs, the customer will ask what $$$ amount you're at if it matters to them or they're on a budget.

    Honestly... I sell sets of 5-10 dances a LOT more often than only 1-2. And like I said... I've NEVER had a customer upset or confused about the amount he spent.
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    i am losing my fucking mind and i really just want this chloroform dream because i think that would just get me right with jesus.

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    Default Re: how do you make your lap dances "exciting"?

    I noticed a girl at my club who gets a lot of repeat dances keeps her face SO close to the customer's that it looks like she just might kiss him. she keeps it like that when she grinds on him and just smiles really big and touches his face

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    Default Re: how do you make your lap dances "exciting"?

    ^^I do that.

    I absolutely do NOT recommend it unless you are really REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY good at dodging customers. Because some of them WILL try to kiss and/or lick you.
    Quote Originally Posted by camille27 View Post
    i am losing my fucking mind and i really just want this chloroform dream because i think that would just get me right with jesus.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DesuvsDeath View Post
    ^^I do that.

    I absolutely do NOT recommend it unless you are really REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY good at dodging customers. Because some of them WILL try to kiss and/or lick you.
    LOL. props to you for that one. I can't do it. I'm a love being a cock tease, but I wouldn't put my mouth anywhere near a customer's mouth.

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    Default Re: how do you make your lap dances "exciting"?

    ^ x2. But I do a lot of really intimate eye contact and face touching like that and guys LOVE it. It's really a matter of feeling out the customer and definitely being able to dodge them. I find that touching foreheads is good for keeping kissers at bay since I can just lightly push their head back if they start to go for the kiss. Another good avoidance move is to to slide down their chest and then flip your head up over their crotch while shooting them a coy look. The key is to make it seem like these are all moves that are part of the dance, not that you're trying to avoid them. Unless they're really pushy about it, then I put a finger to their lips and tell them to be a good boy so I can be a bad girl.

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    Default Re: how do you make your lap dances "exciting"?

    ^That's what I meant. I consider foreheads touching 'having my face very close to theirs'

    Avoiding/dodging customers more subtly can work well with some customers... I think that actually hearing "no" turns them off... and it's the reason they'll stop buying dances from one girl... and then buy a bunch of dances from another girl who isn't any dirtier but is, perhaps, better at asking not to be touched.

    Personally I find that it seems like a lot of the time... you can just grab their hand and move it away and it's fine... you can leap off their lap if they try to grab something and it's fine... you can demand $20 because they tried to grab your ass and it's fine... but if you actually say "You can't do that" it kills their mood and they stop buying dances from you.
    Quote Originally Posted by camille27 View Post
    i am losing my fucking mind and i really just want this chloroform dream because i think that would just get me right with jesus.

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    I can honestly say that I give a fucking amazing lap-dance, and I'm always praised (and more importantly, PAID) for it. Hahaa it's a combination of moves, words, and eye contact. I work at Rhino in Vegas, so they're cool with dances that are not entirely "air" dances...

    Before I even start a dance with a guy, I take my shoes off. Some girls find this gross, because "omg the carpet is soo dirty omg omg"... But I just wear tall socks or stockings to keep my bare feet off it. Taking your shoes off gives you the benefit of more comfort, more balance when standing up, and the ability to kinda grind into a guy a little harder.

    Then, I'll face him and ask gently, "How do you like your dances? Do you like 'em kinda slow and sensual, or do you like it a little more rough and raunchy?" This is important, because it will ENSURE you give the guy the kind of dance he wants, and he's more likely to keep paying you to do what you're doing!

    So let's say he likes 'em slow and sensual... if I'm straddling him I'll grind gently and hold eye contact, maybe biting my lip and making soft moaning sounds (doesn't have to sound fake, just make it sexy)... I'll hold his face with my hands, play with his hair, gently squeeze his shoulders, nuzzle my face into his neck... basically making it seem really intimate. Granted, I have to actually like the guy a little if I'm doing this method, otherwise I just get annoyed and grossed out by the false intimacy.

    If the dude likes it rough, I'm gonna give him exactly that: lots of bouncing, harder grinding, squeezing his thighs and dragging my fingernails up and down his pants... I actually love it kinda rough too, so if I like him enough and he's spending good money, I'll let him spank me a little and get a nice grab of my ass... Maybe make more exaggerated, porno noises and heavy breathing. Mind you, this method can work up quite a sweat! But it's worth doing if the guy loves it, cause ultimately its more fun and he will keep spending money on you if you're doing it right.

    With either method, I try to get the guy to really watch my face. Men are usually way more turned on when they feel like they're turning you on, so start small and make little facial expressions that imply pleasure or desire: opening your mouth slightly, furrowing your brow, sighing/exhaling, slight moaning... I'm not saying "FAKE AN ORGASM" hahaa... but exaggerating a teeeeny little bit will work wonders. Not to mention, it's fun to do

    Lastly, with any guy and no matter the dance, I'll always find some little compliment to dish out while I'm dancing for him. It can be anything, AS LONG AS IT'S GENUINE. Example: "You've got pretty eyes." or "Wow, your arms are so tight! Do you work out?" or "I love this shirt, you have good taste." And smile while you're saying it. Here he is fawning all over you, but it means so much more to him if he believes you've got something to fawn over as well. But don't do anything stupid, like telling an obviously fat guy he's "trim", or telling an obviously ugly guy that he's "sexy". It's disingenuous, and even if he wants to beleive you're telling him the truth, he knows you aren't, and he'll resent you for it.

    There you go. I admit it's a lot to read, but it makes me money and that's what matters

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    Default Re: how do you make your lap dances "exciting"?

    ^that's a REALLY good tip. I ask guys if they like ass or tits so I know what moves to focus on during the dance, but I never thought about asking the guy what kind of dance he wants! wow that's really good!

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    Quote Originally Posted by anesthesiac View Post
    I can honestly say that I give a fucking amazing lap-dance, and I'm always praised (and more importantly, PAID) for it. Hahaa it's a combination of moves, words, and eye contact. I work at Rhino in Vegas, so they're cool with dances that are not entirely "air" dances...

    Before I even start a dance with a guy, I take my shoes off. Some girls find this gross, because "omg the carpet is soo dirty omg omg"... But I just wear tall socks or stockings to keep my bare feet off it. Taking your shoes off gives you the benefit of more comfort, more balance when standing up, and the ability to kinda grind into a guy a little harder.

    Then, I'll face him and ask gently, "How do you like your dances? Do you like 'em kinda slow and sensual, or do you like it a little more rough and raunchy?" This is important, because it will ENSURE you give the guy the kind of dance he wants, and he's more likely to keep paying you to do what you're doing!

    So let's say he likes 'em slow and sensual... if I'm straddling him I'll grind gently and hold eye contact, maybe biting my lip and making soft moaning sounds (doesn't have to sound fake, just make it sexy)... I'll hold his face with my hands, play with his hair, gently squeeze his shoulders, nuzzle my face into his neck... basically making it seem really intimate. Granted, I have to actually like the guy a little if I'm doing this method, otherwise I just get annoyed and grossed out by the false intimacy.

    If the dude likes it rough, I'm gonna give him exactly that: lots of bouncing, harder grinding, squeezing his thighs and dragging my fingernails up and down his pants... I actually love it kinda rough too, so if I like him enough and he's spending good money, I'll let him spank me a little and get a nice grab of my ass... Maybe make more exaggerated, porno noises and heavy breathing. Mind you, this method can work up quite a sweat! But it's worth doing if the guy loves it, cause ultimately its more fun and he will keep spending money on you if you're doing it right.

    With either method, I try to get the guy to really watch my face. Men are usually way more turned on when they feel like they're turning you on, so start small and make little facial expressions that imply pleasure or desire: opening your mouth slightly, furrowing your brow, sighing/exhaling, slight moaning... I'm not saying "FAKE AN ORGASM" hahaa... but exaggerating a teeeeny little bit will work wonders. Not to mention, it's fun to do

    Lastly, with any guy and no matter the dance, I'll always find some little compliment to dish out while I'm dancing for him. It can be anything, AS LONG AS IT'S GENUINE. Example: "You've got pretty eyes." or "Wow, your arms are so tight! Do you work out?" or "I love this shirt, you have good taste." And smile while you're saying it. Here he is fawning all over you, but it means so much more to him if he believes you've got something to fawn over as well. But don't do anything stupid, like telling an obviously fat guy he's "trim", or telling an obviously ugly guy that he's "sexy". It's disingenuous, and even if he wants to beleive you're telling him the truth, he knows you aren't, and he'll resent you for it.

    There you go. I admit it's a lot to read, but it makes me money and that's what matters

    Great advice! totally going to use some of this
    "Strippers are like pet tigers. They are nice to look at but they are not for everyone."

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