I can honestly say that I give a fucking amazing lap-dance, and I'm always praised (and more importantly, PAID) for it. Hahaa it's a combination of moves, words, and eye contact. I work at Rhino in Vegas, so they're cool with dances that are not entirely "air" dances...
Before I even start a dance with a guy, I take my shoes off. Some girls find this gross, because "omg the carpet is soo dirty omg omg"... But I just wear tall socks or stockings to keep my bare feet off it. Taking your shoes off gives you the benefit of more comfort, more balance when standing up, and the ability to kinda grind into a guy a little harder.
Then, I'll face him and ask gently, "How do you like your dances? Do you like 'em kinda slow and sensual, or do you like it a little more rough and raunchy?" This is important, because it will ENSURE you give the guy the kind of dance he wants, and he's more likely to keep paying you to do what you're doing!
So let's say he likes 'em slow and sensual... if I'm straddling him I'll grind gently and hold eye contact, maybe biting my lip and making soft moaning sounds (doesn't have to sound fake, just make it sexy)... I'll hold his face with my hands, play with his hair, gently squeeze his shoulders, nuzzle my face into his neck... basically making it seem really intimate. Granted, I have to actually like the guy a little if I'm doing this method, otherwise I just get annoyed and grossed out by the false intimacy.
If the dude likes it rough, I'm gonna give him exactly that: lots of bouncing, harder grinding, squeezing his thighs and dragging my fingernails up and down his pants... I actually love it kinda rough too, so if I like him enough and he's spending good money, I'll let him spank me a little and get a nice grab of my ass... Maybe make more exaggerated, porno noises and heavy breathing. Mind you, this method can work up quite a sweat! But it's worth doing if the guy loves it, cause ultimately its more fun and he will keep spending money on you if you're doing it right.
With either method, I try to get the guy to really watch my face. Men are usually way more turned on when they feel like they're turning you on, so start small and make little facial expressions that imply pleasure or desire: opening your mouth slightly, furrowing your brow, sighing/exhaling, slight moaning... I'm not saying "FAKE AN ORGASM" hahaa... but exaggerating a teeeeny little bit will work wonders. Not to mention, it's fun to do
Lastly, with any guy and no matter the dance, I'll always find some little compliment to dish out while I'm dancing for him. It can be anything, AS LONG AS IT'S GENUINE. Example: "You've got pretty eyes." or "Wow, your arms are so tight! Do you work out?" or "I love this shirt, you have good taste." And smile while you're saying it. Here he is fawning all over you, but it means so much more to him if he believes you've got something to fawn over as well. But don't do anything stupid, like telling an obviously fat guy he's "trim", or telling an obviously ugly guy that he's "sexy". It's disingenuous, and even if he wants to beleive you're telling him the truth, he knows you aren't, and he'll resent you for it.
There you go. I admit it's a lot to read, but it makes me money and that's what matters

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