Recently , my cousin and his wife have been taking advantage of the kindness of my family and HERS. They were actually kicked out of his wives grandmothers place for taking advantage of her charity, only to rant about it on facebook and call her unsupportive, heartless, etc. Meanwhile all they did while staying there was party for months and not pay for anything.
My mother has given them numerous presents over the years even when she can barely afford to pay her bills. She felt it was the right thing to do because they have three small children. Not once did they EVER say thank you to anyone. Or even aknowledge any of it from anyone. Only to complain about it later on about how its not enough(in the case of my cousin helping them out) I realize the point of a gift isnt to get acknowledgment and thanks in return, but they are truly cold about every gift, and when they do NOT receive help or presents they become angry.
There are numerous stories that are exactly the same in regards to people helping them and they only complain afterwards.
This morning I wrote to them calling them on how they are treating everyone, saying how I felt. Making sure to not drag anyone else into the feud I might add. Only to be contacted by one of my cousins who said they agreed with me but now everyone is seemingly cut off from their facebook. I never mentioned any incident other than what happened between them, my mother and I. I do NOT like that they take advantage of those I care about and am not afraid to say so.
My point to this rant: how the heck was I supposed to deal with this? I suppose pretending they werent taking advantage of everyone would have been a peaceful way....but its hard to sit back and watch people being hurt by them. Especially people I care about, including myself. I am a little confused at the moment. Im very frustrated. I know what I did caused more drama, but pretending everything was fine when it clearly is not just seems wrong to me.
Was I wrong to say anything? Would you have said something if you were in that situation?
NO If the others were so bothered they should speak up or it only makes you look like a uhm Bit**.
Has anyone been in a similar situation with friends or family that could shed some light?
Yes.
I shouldnt let it get to me so much, but it bothers me that they are hurting people around me.

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