I guess I am another of those incurable romantics...
Part one, Me: been a regular with a dancer for a couple of months now (I've even done the full 8 hour shift! Talk about dedicated!). I'm single, middle aged, working too hard at the moment, new job, new location and until I met her didn't really feel in the mood to go looking for a girlfriend but the more time I spend with her the more I feel like I want to get back into a relationship.
Part two, Her: she's joked about “when are we getting married”. Gave me a hicky one time when she was buzzed. Told me about things she did while working in clubs in the past that were hmmm... interesting. Gave me a picture of herself when I asked, talks about her daughter a lot. It really doesn't feel like previous experiences in a club.
Part Three, Recent situation: I was sad. She asked why. I told her I was beginning to wish I had a girlfriend and was sad that we couldn't hang out outside the club – (I'd read a few posts here how basically I had a snow balls chance in hell of converting her into a real girlfriend). So I was really surprised when she said she didn't mind meeting me outside the club. We agreed to meet for a coffee before she went to work. Not very romantic but pretty safe and low key.
Of course she phones and canceled on me! As expected I guess.
Questions for you ladies: So ladies if you did actually like a customer you wouldn't have a problem just telling him would you? Or do you still expect to be persuaded/chased? A faint heart never won a fair lady etc.
As far as being honest with each other - I've tried “no seriously,... no no seriously , I mean seriously really? Really really truly? You don't mind?” I've already had that conversation last week – I don't really have the energy to do it again. To pursue and risk being an asshole, or not to pursue and risk losing an opportunity, that is the question.
She isn't the shy type – guess I'll leave it up to her to make the next move if she wants something more right? Or every customer pushes for more and if I don't it means I've not that interested?
When I head over from work I'm tired I just want to have fun and now it has become complicated! Complain moan whine whine.


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