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    Default On the other hand: How to Reject Someone?

    My brother just left town, and his best friend/roommate came over to my apartment earlier tonight to drop some stuff off at my place.

    We hang out together sometimes, usually always with my bro, but on rare occasions, alone. I think he's pretty attractive but sometimes the way he talks just annoys me, or I just feel like we don't click.

    For example, I kind of wanted him to leave, but he didn't seem to get the message. I ordered some food for myself, but ended up sharing with him. At the end of the night, I told him I was going to bed, and said "I'll see you later," where he finally got the idea to go home and leave me alone.

    Honestly, I just had no idea he wanted to sleep with me until it got pretty late into the night. I thought he was just my brother's friend, who doesn't seem very sharp sometimes. And being nice to him felt like I was returning favors to my brother.


    Ok, he is pretty cute. You know, when you image your hierarchy of attractive qualities in people, and some people are just... unreal, because they're so hot? Yeah, he's like that.

    But I just can't stand the way he talks! He just... drones! Ugh!

    I just always space out, and wish I were doing something else!


    So, I dunno. Is it probably a bad idea to see what it's like to sleep with him? For life experiences' sake? I mean, he's pretty hot. But also, seriously, I will probably not last long with that... and he would still be my brother's best friend/ roommate.

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    Default Re: On the other hand: How to Reject Someone?

    This screams "BAD IDEA".

    Seriously? Why do you even need us to tell you this? Obviously you are asking, which means you are questioning... because you think it's not a good idea. I hope you don't seriously expect the majority of us to feed more into your desires than what is good for you.

    Sleeping with him will change the dynamics between he, your brother, & yourself. Regardless of how "secret" you might think you can keep it, eventually it will come out. Plus, this guy already annoys you, so its doubtful you'd want to take him on as a serious relationship & your feelings are not the only ones that need to be considered. What about this guy's feelings? What if he wants something serious? What about your brother & how he would feel?

    There's a small chance this guy is nervous around you & can't stop talking nor picks up when he needs to leave as a result. If that is the case then things might be different & you might be more interested in him beyond just his body. However, if this is true it's more likely that he likes you for more than just your body... otherwise talking to you wouldn't make him nervous.

    Here's what I'd do if you really do have an intense interest in him:

    1.) Confirm that he's attracted to you from him, & find out if it's just physical or if its also emotional.

    2.) Talk to your brother about this, because if things go bad it could get weird for him. Ask him if he's okay with you getting involved with his friend & on what level. I.e. would he prefer that this just be a one time thing to get it out of your systems, or would he be okay with long term.

    3.) Decide what is in the best interest of all parties involved & move ahead with your plan by letting the other two know.


    Also, don't feel awkward talking to your brother about this. Chance are that his friend probably does act different around you, so if the friend hasn't mentioned it, I would still bet he already knows.

    Last, just keep in mind that if you choose to pursue this it could go really bad & explode in your face - ruining this guy's relationship with both you & your brother, or just your relationship with your brother.

    Risky business in my opinion.
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    Default Re: On the other hand: How to Reject Someone?

    Yeah, you're right, I did know alot of that already... I think I just needed to remind myself and see the reasoning again. Was blinded by those good looks, hahaha.

    I should ask my brother if he knows what's going on, maybe there'll be some eye-opening info there too.

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    Dont do it.. He's hot so what? There are many hot guys of there. Mainly the reason to no is, your bother and him are roomates/friends.. that could ruin their relationship or cause tension. Even if that doesn't your relationship with that guy and even your bother finding out could change things. The way you all 3 hang out would change overall.

    If you want to reject this guy.. when he does not understand to leave or such say things along; I am going to bed SOON, I am getting tired, I need to get up early, I really need to finish my (work, laundry etc) now.. and end all those with " Sorry, I\ll see you later!" or something along the lines while walking to the door leading the way out. Guys are dumb like that..

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    Default Re: On the other hand: How to Reject Someone?

    Haha. Sounds like my ex roomate / make out buddy from be beginning of the year. He was cute and fun , but he talks like he's gay ! It's amazing how a voice can be a deal breaker isn't it ? We had a couple weeks of fun right before we were both moving and then he wants to get together still ( I did once a month ago .... oops .... I was lonely in my defense not there is much of a defense ) . I just can't actually date him because of the voice ( and a couple other things , but mainly that ). He's big built and smells amazing too , but I just can't !

    If someone is at your house and you want to go to bed , you just go to bed! I did this last week. Throw a pillow / blanket at them and offer them your couch if they are too buzzed to drive , but it's your space, so if they don't respond to hints ( " I'm tired "ect. ) , you have to just make it clear.

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    Default Re: On the other hand: How to Reject Someone?

    I've had this happen before, too many times. I don't like sleeping with other people in my house unless they're my boyfriend, or a friend who's a girl. Even though I have some really legitimate guy friends. It has hurt feelings before, but it's my safe place, not their crash pad.

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    pepper spray is hard to dispute.

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    Default Re: On the other hand: How to Reject Someone?

    put a ball gag in his mouth, duct tape him to the bed and fuck him. then toss him out sans vestments and put it on youtube.

    As for getting a guy out of the house: "Get the fuck out of my house. this is my house, my sanctuary. I'm going to sleep ALONE". I've never had a problem telling people to fuck off or exactly what I think of them.
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    Default Re: On the other hand: How to Reject Someone?

    Quote Originally Posted by ArmySGT. View Post
    pepper spray is hard to dispute.
    hahahaha THANKS

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