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    Default What made you decide to join an online dating site?

    well, what did it?

    I'm sick of not knowing anyone here where I live, an I am terrified at the prospect of not knowing anyone when I move away in a month. also, I was just browsing on OKC, and saw that there were totally a bunch of dudes my age on there.

    why did you? are you on more than one? what have you learned from your experiences?
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    Default Re: What made you decide to join an online dating site?

    I have only had one good relationship start in a bar. One.

    I browse POF, but don't write anyone. I am re-establishing myself and don't know where I am going yet.

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    Years ago I decided I wanted to meet a nice guy so I joined Match. At the time I met a few great guys but no one I felt I connected with. I was late 20's so there were guys galore where I am. Then a few years later I rejoined Match but not much luck. By then it seemed most of the good guys weren't on anymore. I met con artists, liars, married men, guys looking for sex, etc. I told myself never again. Now, I have several free online profiles but use them to lurk. If I do it again I might try a religious site because I am looking for a certain type of guy (never married, 35-45, childless, Catholic, etc).

    What did I learn? That so many bad people are online sites. However, I also learned that it doesn't matter how strict your requirements are you might find it. For instance while lurking on Match I put in never married, childless Catholic men 35-45 with average to slim bodytypes. If I put in 10 miles I get a few (I live in a rural area) but when I put in 40 miles the results are literally in the hundreds. I plan to move to the city in the next year or two and this is where the single men are. Granted half of these guys are probably married or jerks, but out of 200 or more guys I'm sure one would be a good match.

    Another thing I've learned is that people often tend to be picky when they shouldn't be. I've had people tell me my requirements are strict (and they are) but not unrealistic. I've seen obese men who are unemployed for example looking for hot women 18-25. I've seen so many dads state they want a childless woman (apparently forgetting they likely have drama too). I'm sure it's the opposite for men too, though I don't search for women. I have my strict requirements for many reasons, including that yes men with children have way too much drama for me, especially since I eventually want my own children.

    Honestly, I might consider it, but only if the guy I really want never comes around, the singles group I go to are bombs and I can't find anyone else.

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    I used them years ago. I think for me it was just that I never really got hit on in person, & even though I was naturally pretty flirtatious, I never realized what I was doing or really paid attention to details (like rings - whoops!). On top of that, I didn't like to go out by myself so I really didn't ever meet anyone & I worked so much that it was hard to find time to even go out with friends who might have known other singles. In a way, the dating sites allowed me to see who was "out there".
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    Default Re: What made you decide to join an online dating site?

    oh god this is too much fun, in 24 hours:

    i've had my ego stroked approximately 94 times, had a guy offer to sell me drugs, a man yell at me for listing myself as slightly shallow on my profile, and met some perfectly reasonable men that i hope aren't serial killers.

    this is so amusing.
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    ^^^ Haha - yes! That's the thing about those site. I'd get something like that with no photo, & if you attach a photo the responses increase by an insane amount.
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    Here is one of my profile pics.


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    Default Re: What made you decide to join an online dating site?

    That's cute Army. I'd actually respond to a profile like that.

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    oh god this is too much fun, in 24 hours:

    i've had my ego stroked approximately 94 times, had a guy offer to sell me drugs, a man yell at me for listing myself as slightly shallow on my profile, and met some perfectly reasonable men that i hope aren't serial killers.

    this is so amusing.
    When I post my photo I get so many "you're hot" comments. It makes me feel better if I am in a bad mood, but I wouldn't respond to those guys because they just liked my looks. A guy yelled at you? I had one awhile back yell at me because in my profile I stated no dads. He sent me a blistering message calling me names like bitch and child hater, then when I went to reply he blocked me!

    Why is it though that it seems like all of the guys I am interested in aren't interested in me. This frustrates me because I will see a guy who fits me perfectly, I'll message him, then find out he deleted my message. Then I'll have 100 messages from fat, hairy, burly bear guys, though they repulse me and I want a nerdy guy.

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    Default Re: What made you decide to join an online dating site?

    i joined one out of curiosity--i wanted to see what it was like and who was on there. Plus i rarely go out anymore and i thought that if i just happened to meet someone cool on there it'd be a pleasant surprise. And guess what...one of the only guys i bothered to meet in real life from the dating site turned out to be a strip club bouncer...geez.

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    Default Re: What made you decide to join an online dating site?

    Boredom.

    I DID meet my ex Noah of approximately two years on OKCupid, but the relationship was not a great one. It was one of those "open relationships" which meant he could sleep around, but I couldn't. It should have been a major clue when he continued to correspond and try to meet up with people on OKCupid after he'd started dating me.

    After Noah, though, I had absolutely zero luck with it. It seemed like towards the end, over half of my profile consisted of, "Do not message me if..." I'd say 95% of the guys contacting me either wanted to cyber or have a one night stand. Lots of requests for a "private party," as I was pretty up front about being a stripper. And I'd get the occasional beta guy doing his terrible "You're too good for stripping, I could take care of you like you deserve" routine, then get extremely aggressive and threatening when I rejected them. Sooo, after I got like 200 messages in a row that I found unappealing almost to the point of being offensive, I deleted my profile, and I don't think I'd actually thought about it till this thread. I really didn't miss it.

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