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    I suppose this is the best place for this thread.

    Hello, loves. I've been lurking stripper web for years on end due to my incredible fascination with dancing naked for people (and, let's be honest, for being the center of attention). I am now a budding young adult, with dreams of joining Cirque as their first not-vastly-overweight female clown. I haven't hit drinking age, I've poured entirely too much money into my "acting" education (I recently quit that for good) and I'm doing all this on my own. The way I move is my art, the way I treat my body is an art, and dancing is yet another outlet for physical creativity.

    That being said, holy HELL I want to strip. OH MY GOD.
    But there are so many things keeping me from it, and here's where I need advice. It seems like nothing is TMI here, so I'll be honest. I have looked through many threads, including all the stickies, and I haven't really found the answers needed.

    1) Hair, There. I have rather pale skin and a dark Russian mane of goodness, both on my head and elsewhere. I've been getting skimpy bikini waxes for a while, but it grows back fast ad ingrowns are around, no matter how much I exfoliate. I'm willing to go as hairless as I need to, but I seriously need to maintain it in between? What's the best way to do this? Do I shave it in between? Shaving in general down there is a WAYYYYYY no-no, but perhaps with some tend skin it could work?

    2) The age. I suppose I have to call the different clubs, but dancing under the drinking age must be hard. Can I dance around alcohol, or do I need to work a fully nude club where there is none?

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    4) The hair, up there. Loo at the photo below. My hair is a long, HUGE curly mass of awesome. Walking down the street, it turns heads. But what works on the street mat not work in the club. I look terribly with it straightened, so I have two options-- keep it natural or get a wig. What do you think?

    5) The skin. Do you all think I can play the exotic European card and keep my skin pale?

    6) The period. It's heavy as hell, and there's no way I can work during it, not even with a tampon. Anyone else like this?

    Things I've got: An hourglass body, sexy confidence, an outrageous wit, and a love of performance.

    I'm new with an account here, but with all my lurking, I've just gotta say--- you all are an AWESOME bunch of people, my goodness.

    If you will, give me your advice and let's get me on that stage!
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    Let me first say that in each forum in the upper right hand corner there is a search feature. I would reccomend maybe searching in Body Business for shaving tips or Life Support for advice on the boyfriend issue. I'll give you some brief advice here, but for more opinions and some great info that may have been posted a while ago the search feature can be your best friend.

    1) Hair, There. I have rather pale skin and a dark Russian mane of goodness, both on my head and elsewhere. I've been getting skimpy bikini waxes for a while, but it grows back fast ad ingrowns are around, no matter how much I exfoliate. I'm willing to go as hairless as I need to, but I seriously need to maintain it in between? What's the best way to do this? Do I shave it in between? Shaving in general down there is a WAYYYYYY no-no, but perhaps with some tend skin it could work?

    I recommend shaving with Neosporin mixed with shaving gel, and applying deoderant afterwards to minimize inflamation. I'm not sure as to why you have ruled out shaving the kitty, and would need more info.

    2) The age. I suppose I have to call the different clubs, but dancing under the drinking age must be hard. Can I dance around alcohol, or do I need to work a fully nude club where there is none?

    I have only encountered 1 club that required you to be 21 in order to dance around alcohol, keep in mind though that I dance in Pennsylvania and other states could have other rules.

    3)The BF. He will not know: case closed. We are very honest in our relationship, but as we've danced around this subject he has mad it very clear that he doesn't like the idea of me getting sexual with men in a skanky club. Wait, WHAT? Oh, BF. I'm so sex-positive, and he's so conservative. He's a bit older, he's got his ideas, and he's a bit too afraid to actually check out what he's saying. I know that I must be a clean dancer, I want to be a clean dancer, but there's no telling him that every dancer doesn't turn tricks for coke in VIP. I love this man so incredibly much, and want to be with him, but DAMN. I'm going to have to lure him into the world. But not now.

    You think that once you are stripping you will change his mind? I must say that is VERY unlikely. If you wait and then tell him most likely he will flip out, realize that you are shady and leave you. I know that's harsh but it is normal, no one wants their girlfriend lying and sneaking around behind their back. Either keep it secret, deal with the guilt, and hope you don't get busted, or try to explain and hope you don't lose him.

    4) The hair, up there. Loo at the photo below. My hair is a long, HUGE curly mass of awesome. Walking down the street, it turns heads. But what works on the street mat not work in the club. I look terribly with it straightened, so I have two options-- keep it natural or get a wig. What do you think?

    Keep it natural.

    5) The skin. Do you all think I can play the exotic European card and keep my skin pale?

    Yes, yes.

    6) The period. It's heavy as hell, and there's no way I can work during it, not even with a tampon. Anyone else like this?

    I can not relate I can just tell you to hustle the rest of the month and then take the week off.

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    Welcome around! I basically second everything Kat w said, particularly about shaving (I find that my skin got less irritated once I started shaving regularly, so don't knock it!) and your boyfriend.

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    Kat, thank you kindly for pointing out the search option (my half blind eyes must have missed it!) and for the neosporin tip! As this grow out, I'm going to try it.

    As for the BF, I agree. When I said I'd lure him in, I meant that I'd lure him into the world of exploring fastasy and sex. But I needed to hear that, thanks.

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    I have curly hair just like the one from that picture; the best thing to do with curly hair is to use lots of mousse and haispray to make it stay in place. Biig hair is what's in these days! You can also accentuate it with bangs.

    Body hair? I'm very hairy too, but I keep my pubic hair in place by using guy razors (in case you decide to shave it down there). They're better at cutting that thick pubic hair than female razors. Plus is cheaper and safer than waxing. That neosporin ointment mentioned above is very effective. For the rest of the body? shaving works wonders, but waxing and hair removal creams are better for the face and the back (in case you feel like shaving your back as well). But you can also save some for a laser removal. Don't feel like removing your pubic hair? you can always trim it with scissors if you preffer.

    Your skin? it seems you have a light hue of olive skin (according to your picture), and that's a perfect shade. You will not need a tan.

    Hope this helps!





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    1) Hair, There. I have rather pale skin and a dark Russian mane of goodness, both on my head and elsewhere. I've been getting skimpy bikini waxes for a while, but it grows back fast ad ingrowns are around, no matter how much I exfoliate. I'm willing to go as hairless as I need to, but I seriously need to maintain it in between? What's the best way to do this? Do I shave it in between? Shaving in general down there is a WAYYYYYY no-no, but perhaps with some tend skin it could work?

    I have a pretty bad problem with ingrowns, too. But I typically only get them when I shave with a regular razor. I highly recommend getting an electric one. I have the Philips Norelco Bodygroom. It's actually a guy's razor, but it works incredibly well for the bikini line. It shaves your hair down almost all the way, but not quite--it won't be totally baby-smooth, you'll be able to feel a tad bit of the hair, but you won't be able to see it. I think I've maybe gotten three ingrowns since I started using it over two years ago. You can find it here: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00...ance&n=3760901
    Or at a Wal-Mart or Target, or someplace local. I've never seen it sold for more than $40.

    2) The age. I suppose I have to call the different clubs, but dancing under the drinking age must be hard. Can I dance around alcohol, or do I need to work a fully nude club where there is none?

    I started dancing at a 21-and-up club that sold alcohol when I was 20. Lots of clubs will let you; they just won't let you drink until you're of age. They tend to be extremely strict about this, as they can lose their liquor license if they get caught.

    3)The BF. He will not know: case closed. We are very honest in our relationship, but as we've danced around this subject he has mad it very clear that he doesn't like the idea of me getting sexual with men in a skanky club. Wait, WHAT? Oh, BF. I'm so sex-positive, and he's so conservative. He's a bit older, he's got his ideas, and he's a bit too afraid to actually check out what he's saying. I know that I must be a clean dancer, I want to be a clean dancer, but there's no telling him that every dancer doesn't turn tricks for coke in VIP. I love this man so incredibly much, and want to be with him, but DAMN. I'm going to have to lure him into the world. But not now.

    I don't recommend lying to him about this. I guarantee you that whereas he may freak out if you're up front, it will be ten times worse if you hide it from him and he eventually finds out. Plus, that will only enforce his already negative views about stripping; in his mind, you lying about it will PROVE that you're doing bad, bad things and that you KNOW they're bad. If he truly believes that you being interested in exotic dancing means you are a whore and a bad person, maybe you really should reexamine the relationship.

    4) The hair, up there. Loo at the photo below. My hair is a long, HUGE curly mass of awesome. Walking down the street, it turns heads. But what works on the street mat not work in the club. I look terribly with it straightened, so I have two options-- keep it natural or get a wig. What do you think?

    Natural is probably good. Your hair is an excellent color and long enough to be glamorous, and guys tend to like a bit of a messy curl as opposed to very rigid ones.

    5) The skin. Do you all think I can play the exotic European card and keep my skin pale?

    Sure; lots of guys like the pale look. Some people look better with a tan and some don't; if you want to get a temporary tan and see if you like it, I recommend getting a spray tan, either custom or in one of those Mystic Tan booths that some tanning salons have. It wears off within the week, so you'll have time to see if you like it.

    6) The period. It's heavy as hell, and there's no way I can work during it, not even with a tampon. Anyone else like this?

    My period is usually pretty heavy. I always kept like six tampons in my work purse, and I would change my tampon every hour on the hour, whether I needed it or not. No accidents yet And don't wear light colors or white when on your period, that's just asking for it.

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    1) Hair, There. I have rather pale skin and a dark Russian mane of goodness, both on my head and elsewhere. I've been getting skimpy bikini waxes for a while, but it grows back fast ad ingrowns are around, no matter how much I exfoliate. I'm willing to go as hairless as I need to, but I seriously need to maintain it in between? What's the best way to do this? Do I shave it in between? Shaving in general down there is a WAYYYYYY no-no, but perhaps with some tend skin it could work?
    Barbasol and men's razors make my pussy look like I'm not a day over 18. I'm so fucking hot I would go down on myself if I could.
    2) The age. I suppose I have to call the different clubs, but dancing under the drinking age must be hard. Can I dance around alcohol, or do I need to work a fully nude club where there is none? depends on where you are -_-
    3)The BF. He will not know: case closed. We are very honest in our relationship, but as we've danced around this subject he has mad it very clear that he doesn't like the idea of me getting sexual with men in a skanky club. Wait, WHAT? Oh, BF. I'm so sex-positive, and he's so conservative. He's a bit older, he's got his ideas, and he's a bit too afraid to actually check out what he's saying. I know that I must be a clean dancer, I want to be a clean dancer, but there's no telling him that every dancer doesn't turn tricks for coke in VIP. I love this man so incredibly much, and want to be with him, but DAMN. I'm going to have to lure him into the world. But not now. If you love this man so incredibly much why the fuck are you deceiving him? If you love someone you don't lie to them. Either don't strip or be honest, grow some balls and tell him instead of sneaking around behind his back like a coward. Sex positive? Whatever helps you sleep at night. If you were sex positive you wouldn't need to resort to deception on your part. Worst case scenario, he finds out through someone that sees you there, feels he can't trust you and drops you like a pair of skank's panties in VIP.
    4) The hair, up there. Loo at the photo below. My hair is a long, HUGE curly mass of awesome. Walking down the street, it turns heads. But what works on the street mat not work in the club. I look terribly with it straightened, so I have two options-- keep it natural or get a wig. What do you think? Invest in grammar first. "I look terribly?" Better get a wig if you want to remain incognito from your boyfriend that you love so much.
    5) The skin. Do you all think I can play the exotic European card and keep my skin pale? Well at least you're not a total bust -_-
    6) The period. It's heavy as hell, and there's no way I can work during it, not even with a tampon. Anyone else like this?
    Hmmm common sense! you know you can't work... let's see what do we do? *crickets chirping* Stay home!!!!
    Things I've got: An hourglass body, sexy confidence, an outrageous wit, and a love of performance.
    Things Tempest666 has: low tolerance for bullshit, a tongue that will cut you to shreds, a big ass, a hot goth boy that she doesn't lie to about anything cause she is gonna marry him and a sense of integrity.



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    1) Hair, There. I have rather pale skin and a dark Russian mane of goodness, both on my head and elsewhere. I've been getting skimpy bikini waxes for a while, but it grows back fast ad ingrowns are around, no matter how much I exfoliate. I'm willing to go as hairless as I need to, but I seriously need to maintain it in between? What's the best way to do this? Do I shave it in between? Shaving in general down there is a WAYYYYYY no-no, but perhaps with some tend skin it could work?

    Try shaving with a good razor.. preferably with 3-4 blades.. make sure its sharp. shaving with moisturizer or conditioner seems to be in my favour. Waxes also causes more ingrowns. Put deodorant on the area after shaving (gel kind) to help with bumps and ingrowns. You dont have shave everyday.. you can have some hair there, or go natural as each girl is different. I would also advise to shave in the bath not while showering. Sit in the tub for 5-15 mins in warm/hot water so the pores open and go with the hair flow not against.


    2) The age. I suppose I have to call the different clubs, but dancing under the drinking age must be hard. Can I dance around alcohol, or do I need to work a fully nude club where there is none?
    No idea on this since Im not in the US. A club let me work here before I was at the drinking age.. they were very wary of it and I had to wear a braclet until I turned the drinking age, so the bar staff knew. Im sure you can dance around alcohol depending on the club.

    3)The BF. He will not know: case closed. We are very honest in our relationship, but as we've danced around this subject he has mad it very clear that he doesn't like the idea of me getting sexual with men in a skanky club. Wait, WHAT? Oh, BF. I'm so sex-positive, and he's so conservative. He's a bit older, he's got his ideas, and he's a bit too afraid to actually check out what he's saying. I know that I must be a clean dancer, I want to be a clean dancer, but there's no telling him that every dancer doesn't turn tricks for coke in VIP. I love this man so incredibly much, and want to be with him, but DAMN. I'm going to have to lure him into the world. But not now.

    I think its best to be honest with him... If you truely love him, have a strong talk with him about it. I went behind my boyfriends back and started stripping, he did not take it well at all, now we're broken up and he had to deal with major jealousy and trust issues over this job... A common male cannot take the stress.. if takes a hell of man, with both parties having good communication and trust. I had to tell my bf then that I love him and kiss him before I left for work, as I can tell he would go jelous with so many questions and blah blah blah.. Im sure you'll be explaing everything to yours within time to ruin his stripclub fantasy that he used to have. So do tell him... Its better to deal with him knowing than behind his back, that I do regret from my exp, the job I do not.

    4) The hair, up there. Loo at the photo below. My hair is a long, HUGE curly mass of awesome. Walking down the street, it turns heads. But what works on the street mat not work in the club. I look terribly with it straightened, so I have two options-- keep it natural or get a wig. What do you think?

    I think it looks great on you.. You can pull off the "sexy bed hair".. A cute loose bun would look cute on you too. You have great hair and dont need to enhance it.

    5) The skin. Do you all think I can play the exotic European card and keep my skin pale?

    I think you look good with pale skin though.

    6) The period. It's heavy as hell, and there's no way I can work during it, not even with a tampon. Anyone else like this?

    I worked on my period.. You can always take a day(s) off... If you truely want to work,, change change change every 30 mins if you need to!
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    Quote Originally Posted by tempest666 View Post
    Barbasol and men's razors make my pussy look like I'm not a day over 18. I'm so fucking hot I would go down on myself if I could.
    LOL, you crack me up

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    ^^ Is very true; guy razors and shaving cream does wonders down there.





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    [quote=Jay12;2031417]I have curly hair just like the one from that picture; the best thing to do with curly hair is to use lots of mousse and haispray to make it stay in place. Biig hair is what's in these days! You can also accentuate it with bangs.

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    Mousse doesn't work for me, I need a heavy cream applied liberally to wet hair that has been wide-tooth combed in the shower- i put it in a loose bun till I get to work then take it out and spray sea salt spray through it (you can homemake a recipe for Sea salt spray).

    Bangs would make my curls frizz out- I have long layers starting from my chin with a dry cut.

    Look up Tampon alternative online- diva cups, moon cups that sort of thing- They would stay in for your entire shift so less risk of bacteria transfer from changing tampon frequently.
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    Quote Originally Posted by The Contessa View Post
    When I said I'd lure him in, I meant that I'd lure him into the world of exploring fastasy and sex.
    I'm not sure I understand this. Do you want to strip because it's a sexual fantasy of yours? Or do you want to do it because it is a job where you can make good money?

    Stripping is a job. It is not a "world" or a lifestyle unless YOU make it one. You don't have to start acting differently or doing crazy kinky sex acts just because you start stripping.

    It's also not the best way to "lure" someone into something to lie and deceive them. That's like if I said "I want to have an open marriage, but my husband doesn't like the idea, so I'll just cheat on him with a bunch of dudes and chicks to get him used to the idea".
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