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    So there are a lot of submissives and slaves on cam sites and I would love cater to this group (or any group that pays well) but I have no idea what to say to these guys... they are just like insult me- tell me what to do, but I think I sounded beyond stupid the one time I tried this. Any suggestions on how to talk/interact with submissives will be greatly appreciated!! Thanx yall!

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    How is it that all you vanilla girls get sub cam guys and I a frickin Dominatrix get all the fucking bossy ass ones????

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    Default Re: slaves and submissives- I have no clue...

    Ugh same here. I have no idea what to say to these dudes. I need a cheat sheet I can stick on the wall and read off.
    I've also noticed that many of the alleged "subs" are actually annoyingly bossy in their demands. Average Joe horny dudes are actually less work than "slaves." Meh, go figure.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Arialandre View Post
    How is it that all you vanilla girls get sub cam guys and I a frickin Dominatrix get all the fucking bossy ass ones????
    Girl I wish I knew! I feel really uncomfortable trying to act like a dominant woman, when in fact I am not. I didn't even know about all this till after I started camming, and I didn't start out being dominant, nor did I advertise it, and even turned guys down, and directed them to dom sections!!!! But they wouldn't stop bugging me. So I just kind of fell in it, and it still makes me really uncomfortable.

    Crazy thing is I have a few bdsm listings on niteflirt, I advertise it now, and make most of m money like this, and I still feel like an idiot, because I STILL don't really know what I am doing. No matter how much I read up on it, I still don't get it that much.

    Repeat long time customers keep asking me to be MORE dominant. I guess I am not mean enough for them. So why do they keep coming back? I don't get it, but hey, I'm getting money from it! So I guess I am doing something right. Odd huh?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lacy Luck View Post
    Ugh same here. I have no idea what to say to these dudes. I need a cheat sheet I can stick on the wall and read off.
    I've also noticed that many of the alleged "subs" are actually annoyingly bossy in their demands. Average Joe horny dudes are actually less work than "slaves." Meh, go figure.
    I have the same problem. My best "submissive" customers are the most annoying aggressive bossy men. I even avoid them sometimes or block them, but they always come back. They are a lot of work, and just simply get on my last nerve.

    I wish I had a cheat sheet too.

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    The worst is when I read what other girls write or hear what they say and it sounds hot coming from them, but I just don't think it would sound right coming from me... even just typing it- it just doesn't fit with the kind of personality I exhibit... I guess I'll have to keep practicing like I do everything else- not too sure how much that will help though

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    Quote Originally Posted by kendallj View Post
    So there are a lot of submissives and slaves on cam sites and I would love cater to this group (or any group that pays well) but I have no idea what to say to these guys... they are just like insult me- tell me what to do, but I think I sounded beyond stupid the one time I tried this. Any suggestions on how to talk/interact with submissives will be greatly appreciated!! Thanx yall!

    I've been an escort for way too long, and seriously, 95% of men like anal play on them. Have them stick a finger in their ass and they'll probably love the freedom of being "forced" to do it. Also being told to jerk off but don't cum cuz they don't deserve it or if they were with you you'd make them lick and suck your feet.

    I also do have a financial sub who gifts me amazon gift cards in exchange for random "do this, slave" texts and he also loves backdoor play. If I tell him to stick a hair brush up his ass (but don't over due it lol) he even tops - and we've never even met. This guy contacted me for a session, chickened out (he's married and has major guilt) and heck yeah, I wish I had 10 more like him.

    Another fave client of mine just wants to wear MY womens clothes and have me take pictures of him with his cell phone. Financial bliss lol.

    Men are strange.

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    Im way too sleepy to post much right now but read my Domme blog if you need a pep talk. I will be posting more "lessons" type posts there so maybe that will help you? check back again tomorrow afternoon and I'll try to have posted something more useful by then. http://www.mistressarialandre.blogspot.com

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    Default Re: slaves and submissives- I have no clue...

    this is a hard question to answer.

    I would say I am a naturally dominant female. I honestly do get off when i can control and manipulate someone.

    These fools will almost tell you what they want in the beggining, it takes listening skills and imagination.

    its not all about scream and yell, blah blah.
    its about catering to their fetish in a dominate way. You are never to be submissive to a submissive ...ever.

    I dont deal with slaves... I dont have time to keep tabs on little fools. But if you come around me, better be ready to have that ass ripped to shreads. ( figuaratively )

    My favorite sessions are : CBT ( cock and ball humiliation ), Ass Worship, Human astray.

    If i could get all of them in one session WHEW, id be one happy motherfucker.
    CBT is pretty intense though. my mind is so cruel! and as a Jaded Camgirl, this shit is too fucking funny.

    Some girls probably couldn't handle CBT ... and if you cant bring that sucker to me!

    Nothing is more satisfy to me than humiliating a man while getting paid to do so. *evil laugh*

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    Why the hell would you bring up CBT (which is cock and ball TORTURE, not "humiliation") to a group of novices, without going more in depth about it? It is so friggin dangerous if not done properly. And if you are doing it over webcam with THEM doing it to themselves its even MORE dangerous especially if the girl doesn't know what she is doing and the guy doesn't know what he is doing, this is a recipe for disaster.

    So here is where I'm stepping in and saying that My professional opinion as an experienced Dominatrix is that you new girls need to just forget about CBT for now. You guys don't even have the the basics yet. It's like you havn't learned to walk but you're trying to do Parkour.

    p.s. edited to say I hope this post isn't coming off as uber bitchy, I crawled out of bed literally 15 mins ago. It's not meant to be bitchy just a heads up. Love you all. I'll be back after I grab some juice, and wake up lol.

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    Arialandre, I don't think you're being bitchy. I get a few CBT guys and honestly don't know what I'm doing. This is all new to a lot of us, obviously lol, and any advise you give can help us all make more money. So bitch away!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Arialandre View Post
    Why the hell would you bring up CBT (which is cock and ball TORTURE, not "humiliation") to a group of novices, without going more in depth about it? It is so friggin dangerous if not done properly. And if you are doing it over webcam with THEM doing it to themselves its even MORE dangerous especially if the girl doesn't know what she is doing and the guy doesn't know what he is doing, this is a recipe for disaster.

    So here is where I'm stepping in and saying that My professional opinion as an experienced Dominatrix is that you new girls need to just forget about CBT for now. You guys don't even have the the basics yet. It's like you havn't learned to walk but you're trying to do Parkour.

    p.s. edited to say I hope this post isn't coming off as uber bitchy, I crawled out of bed literally 15 mins ago. It's not meant to be bitchy just a heads up. Love you all. I'll be back after I grab some juice, and wake up lol.

    Agree! I've had a couple clients show up with needles, electric prods, BARBED WIRE.... and I only get them because in rural WY there's not a lot of other escorts and there sure isn't any Dommes.... I always stick to hot wax and some tight squeezes because I'm NOT experienced and I don't want to seriously hurt someone.

    Choking is a no-no too and there's been a few men who've requested that. There will be no dead men in my incall lol.

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    Mmm! I can't imagine any of us are gonna go crazy (or instruct craziness) on a dude's genitals with no plan! Right? I seriously hope not. I'm going to start researching dominance kinks so I can be a better sex entertainer.... but CBT scares me shitless.

    I bet safe bets are in cock and ball binding.. and small weight stretching. I'd have a hard time instructing urethral insertion but I know that's one of the safer options. Just so easy to get a monster infection.

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    uhm..... I brought it up because....hmmm... I CAN?

    This is a sub and slave thread right?

    if they google it, they will know its not for beginners. Hell if they googled anything most likely this thread wouldn't exist.

    So im just speaking MY piece and everybody can read it or move around it, pretty simple.



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    But as far as me explaining it...uhm... no.

    this is the first time im gonna not explain something i said. This is one of the opics that DOES require extensive research, you can kill somebody if yor not safe, and im not willing to be the part of the blame.

    no sir...lol

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    i have a reg who ties his balls up. and has me look at them. one time he told me he was doing a show with a girl where he brought a knife out and she screamed and turned the cam off, but he has never done anything like this with me. i don't know if he was just making it up to get a reaction from me or freak me out, or what but it worked

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    Default Re: slaves and submissives- I have no clue...

    Quote Originally Posted by Arialandre View Post
    Why the hell would you bring up CBT (which is cock and ball TORTURE, not "humiliation") to a group of novices, without going more in depth about it? It is so friggin dangerous if not done properly. And if you are doing it over webcam with THEM doing it to themselves its even MORE dangerous especially if the girl doesn't know what she is doing and the guy doesn't know what he is doing, this is a recipe for disaster.

    So here is where I'm stepping in and saying that My professional opinion as an experienced Dominatrix is that you new girls need to just forget about CBT for now. You guys don't even have the the basics yet. It's like you havn't learned to walk but you're trying to do Parkour.

    p.s. edited to say I hope this post isn't coming off as uber bitchy, I crawled out of bed literally 15 mins ago. It's not meant to be bitchy just a heads up. Love you all. I'll be back after I grab some juice, and wake up lol.

    I worry about the hardcore guys sometimes, I am all for a little abuse ^_~ but I dont know a lot of the specifics and dont want to hurt anyone (cause these stories I hear keep getting crazier) But on the other hand I dont want to turn down good money due to inexperience either. Thankfully I haven't gotten anyone that into a fetish yet, but I need to do tons of research and see whats what to set some decent boundries. But your wisdom is much appreciated thanks.

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    Google is your friend. Use it. Seriously, there is sooo much info....which of course makes it hard to wade through I know. You can check out the forums on fetlife.com there is a lot of information there. You can google specific fetishes and bdsm activites. Like "verbal humiliation", "small penis humiliation", "sissification". Those are the ones that you are most likely to run into while camming.

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    Aria, what's your name on fetlife? PM me & I'll send you a friend request

    Nevermind...found you!
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    I learned a lot watching other Dommes work. I got to watch hands-on at a dungeon but there's always porn, forums and erotic stories to help you out. Hell, if you get an experienced sub whose willing on a chat board or forum you can learn a lot. It takes time, effort and you have to really like it.

    There's gotta be some aspect of your personality that works for Domme stuff. I don't like too much corporal punishment/bondage so I don't do it. I DO like taking their money/CBT/tease-and-denial/feet/stockings/humiliation so a lot of that feels natural for me (even though I identify as subbie outside of the industry).

    GL!

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    You have to somewhat have a naturally dominant personality. I remember when I first started phone sex I was a vanilla girl and would get ALOT of subby calls. My first couple of times I blew it hard because I was so nervous and shy I didn't know what to say (but that's what those bitches got trying to call a vanilla girl for cheap instead of a domme)

    Eventually I just relaxed and caught on. I don't know about cam because I was already experienced going into cam, but if you hang around the culture the guys will teach you. I decided I liked it and joined forums, read books, watched the porn just so I could help refine myself. Plus it helped tremendously that I was a member of Divas and that site had an overwhelming amount of information and resources, but unfortunately they have closed down.

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