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    I feel like I've been on a downward spiral and I've hit rock bottom. I gained 15 lbs, haven't been working and I just spent my last couple dollars on xmas presents. I feel so pathetic and I know being this broke should motivate me to work but instead I feel like an anxious, depressed fat, ugly mess. I get all prettied up and then I psych myself out of getting on cam because I tell myself I won't make any money. How the hell do I snap out of this??!!!!!! I was hoping to move at the end of January so I wanted to have some money saved up but right now it's just adding to my anxiety. Is that even a realistic goal at this point? How do I get myself back on track?

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    I feel ya! Winter blahs hit me too.

    What cam sites are you on? Do they allow you to sell videos and pics as opposed to live cam? If not, it would be a good idea to get signed up on one of those sites. It is so much less energy zapping to record some shows and sell them over and over than it is to muster up all your sex-goddess energy each time for live shows. On days when you don't feel like live camming, your work is to promote and push your vid sales.

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    Quote Originally Posted by XOXO.Katie View Post
    I feel like I've been on a downward spiral and I've hit rock bottom. I gained 15 lbs, haven't been working and I just spent my last couple dollars on xmas presents. I feel so pathetic and I know being this broke should motivate me to work but instead I feel like an anxious, depressed fat, ugly mess. I get all prettied up and then I psych myself out of getting on cam because I tell myself I won't make any money. How the hell do I snap out of this??!!!!!! I was hoping to move at the end of January so I wanted to have some money saved up but right now it's just adding to my anxiety. Is that even a realistic goal at this point? How do I get myself back on track?


    There are two mistakes that you made here. The first one is that you haven't been working and the second is that you spent your last few bucks on Christmas presents. You should always strive to maintain a steady stream of income especially if you don't have a substantial amount saved up b/c evevntually it will run out and then you find yourself in a desperate situation trying to figure out how to make money fast when it's difficult to do so. Then on top of that, you spent what little you had left and used that to buy gifts. I'm sorry but buying others presents for a one day holiday when you couldn't afford to should have been the last thing on your mind. It doesn't make sense nor is it worth harming yourself financially just to follow a holiday tradition and to please others; especially when you plan on moving in about a month from now; which is not very long. You should have been working, saving, budgeting and being prepared.

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    Ive been in a blah mood too.Sucks huh.

    I make myself get on the cam for at least 2 hrs.By then Im happy with the money that I made that I dont want to get off. You sound like you have a lot of stressors in your life.

    Im in a similiar situation regarding moving.That is like a nightmare but ur awake.Just remember jump on cam whenever you can.Some money is better than no money.

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    Some good advice here so far but also I want to add -- be sure you are on a site that has traffic so you can pull in some bucks - that in itself will make you feel better. Plus don't worry if you don't really feel like it - just do it for an hour or even 15 minutes if that is all you can handle.

    I find once I get on and get a show or two it often makes me want to stay and make more.

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    I always try to do 2 hours at a time. Sometimes less. Take a break, and do another 2 hours. Sometimes I think it helps to only do a few hours at a time. If it's going really well, you wont even notice the amount of hours you are online.

    Plus it also helps me to have content up for sale. I have videos for sale on 3 sites. Pics too. I didn't work a few days around xmas like I wanted too, but I still brought in daily income from my videos.

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    Awwwww.... hugs!! Been there!!!

    When I feel like crap, I do one of two things.

    1) FORCE myself to get online, so that I can make a few bucks and feel proud of myself (success breeds more success)

    or,

    2) If I am REALLY down in the dumps, I make it a 'pamper' day. Go tanning (the uv lights may make you feel better), drink a GALLON of water, go to the gym and do only your favourite exercises, take a bath, etc. I go out and buy lettuce, other salad ingrediends, and some chicken breasts, and that will be my 'diet' for the next few days. I like to think of this as 'setting myself up for feeling skinnier, sexier, and more amazing TOMORROW'. Maybe even allow yourself to wallow in self-pity and have a good cry if you need to. This sometimes helps me to "fast-track" myself through my 'blahs'... spend a solid half-day ACTIVELY feeling sorry for myself, so that I can get over it faster. Sounds silly and self-indulgent, but it works.

    There's a light at the end of the tunnel!!! :-)

    Good luck---- you are not alone!

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    I am in the moving anxiety mood... Moving Miles from where I am with half the money I needed (my own fault) and today I fell asleep and woke up 4hrs after I was to work (blah) Forced myself to work and made some decent money because I need it. Thats what I told myself I need this, I need this and said fuck it stop fucking yourself (no pun intended) and work...

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    sometimes you can't just 'snap out of it'. Lots of people go to work depressed-especially this time of the year where the sun is hardly out.

    So have you looked into herbal supplements AKA a whole lot cheaper and SAFER alternative to pharmaceutical drug dealers? St. Johns Wort is an excellent choice for helping curb your depression/anxiety. Please check it out. Also if you're not exercising that will help. Exercising has been proven to help with your mood and overall health.

    If you don't want to cam and feel it's contributing to your depression-DON'T. Look for alternative ways to make money. This board has lots of information and plenty of helpful ladies(and a couple men lol). Good luck!

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    5-htp is another awesome supplement to help beat the blues. I'd say if you need the money, just get on cam and work it girl! Stop telling yourself you won't make any money. People come into your room because they like YOU...that's half the battle. After a couple of pvts, I bet you'll feel a whole lot better.

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    I get winter blahs too.
    My mom actually has seasonal depression; in the middle of winter she'll bust out some coconut lotion (because it smells like suntan lotion), make herself some ice tea or lemonade or something, crank the heat and wear her fave summer outfits. She used to have one of those sun lamp things. Exercise (30 min of cardio) is supposed to really help too.
    I self-indulge, like Jessica said. Just feel sorry for yourself and do things you want to do to relax... by the end of the day you might want to jump on cam. Or, just work on content and promo for a while. Build up some hype for your "first show of 2011" and just work on that!


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    Thanks ladies! Just feeling like I'm not alone helps the depression lots. I'll definitely check out some of the supplements mentioned. I've really not been taking care of myself, that's part of the problem. I think once I make a few bucks I'm going to get one of those sun lamp things too. I'm like a zombie in the winter.
    So I was on webcams.com for awhile and doing pretty well and then I got out of the habit of logging on and now I'm signed up for daily pay w/ both AW and MFC and I can't seam to make a dollar on either site! Granted I haven't really spent all that much time on either but an hour here and there and I can't seam to get pvts or tips. I think it's like the law of attraction thing (I swear I'm really not that fug despite my glowing self description in the original message. I'm like 5'6'' 150 so chubby at the moment but I don't think it's my looks?!) I'm in this funk and I feel like I don't deserve to have guys spend money on me and have a mood of well.... desperation. I got on AW today for a hour and a half and got nothing but beggars. I'm eating lunch, regrouping, moisturizing lol and getting my ass back on webcams.com (money in 2 weeks is better than no money.)

    You are totally right rainwater, I should have been kicking my butt into gear instead of sitting around like a mopey fool. But there's nothing I can do about it now except try to do better the next couple of weeks. Spending my last couple bucks on my friends was f*cktarded but they are soo good to me and I knew they were all going to get me awesome gifts so if I gave them nothing I would feel even worse about myself than I already do.

    I love that idea about selling pics and vids Lacy. I'm going try to work on that this afternoon too on AW.

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    Quote Originally Posted by XOXO.Katie View Post
    Thanks ladies! Just feeling like I'm not alone helps the depression lots. I'll definitely check out some of the supplements mentioned. I've really not been taking care of myself, that's part of the problem. I think once I make a few bucks I'm going to get one of those sun lamp things too. I'm like a zombie in the winter.
    So I was on webcams.com for awhile and doing pretty well and then I got out of the habit of logging on and now I'm signed up for daily pay w/ both AW and MFC and I can't seam to make a dollar on either site! Granted I haven't really spent all that much time on either but an hour here and there and I can't seam to get pvts or tips. I think it's like the law of attraction thing (I swear I'm really not that fug despite my glowing self description in the original message. I'm like 5'6'' 150 so chubby at the moment but I don't think it's my looks?!) I'm in this funk and I feel like I don't deserve to have guys spend money on me and have a mood of well.... desperation. I got on AW today for a hour and a half and got nothing but beggars. I'm eating lunch, regrouping, moisturizing lol and getting my ass back on webcams.com (money in 2 weeks is better than no money.)

    You are totally right rainwater, I should have been kicking my butt into gear instead of sitting around like a mopey fool. But there's nothing I can do about it now except try to do better the next couple of weeks. Spending my last couple bucks on my friends was f*cktarded but they are soo good to me and I knew they were all going to get me awesome gifts so if I gave them nothing I would feel even worse about myself than I already do.

    I love that idea about selling pics and vids Lacy. I'm going try to work on that this afternoon too on AW.

    Something else to try on AW is coming out of free chat. When I was in free chat, I got a lot of beggars and demanding people too. I was getting shows, but I should have been getting them constantly with the # of people in my room. Then I stopped doing freechat and strangely I actually had consistently more shows. I'm not sure why, but it's something to try and see if it works for you If nothing else, not doing freechat enables you to manage more sites at once!

    Hope you feel better soon, I know exactly how you feel lately!

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    On AW i get more shows not doing free chat as well. Some are just peekers, but they are paid peekers. *wink

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    I hear you! I am going through depression as well. Losing a person extremely close to me, and not being able to work because I will be super depressed crying/shaking/having emotional breakdowns and then not having any money has really taken its toll on me. I feel like I am starting to get out of it, but I know it's all still there. I need to start working out more, eating better and tanning again (all of which make me feel 50x better when I am doing both regularly). I love reading this thread and seeing all of you going through about the same thing.

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    *hugs*

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    Thank you Camwhore <3

    I have a question for the ladies who sell pics & vids.. do you sell them on AW & clips4sale? And if so, how much would you say you sell in a month?


    Nevermind! I saw your guys' responses to the above question in another thread.. gonna go sign up for Clips4sale as well and sell on both! Might as well for the times when I am not in the mood to cam, and it can be extra income
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    yup, and remeber to promote your videos as well =)

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    Also, check your negative thinking. You are telling yourself you wont make any money, STOP IT.
    Put one foot in front of the other and get on cam, smile a lot and only listen to the positive people, ignoring the negative.

    YOU NEED TO TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF. No one can do it for you. I suffer depression and am medicated for it and I still have days when I cant get on cam because I just feel apathetic.

    But negative thinking about your image will bring you down. You have to remember that you are beautiful no matter what size you are and guys will like you anyway because theyre fucking MEN. THEY ARE PAYING FOR PUSSY. Like DUH. Go make them fucking pay for it babe.

    Big hugs xo Now get your finger out your ass girl!

    ps: eat well, and get some exercise that you enjoy. xo
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    remember, sometimes when you just log on for a quick half-hour thats when you make BANK!

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    I logged in to MFC today planning to just hang out.
    Ended up on for nine hours.
    BANKED.
    Sometimes when you least expect it, it happens! Just try logging in for a little bit, then leave if you aren't making money.


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    OMG >>>i have suffered majorly from depression/anxiety throughout life..
    i know exactly how you feel!
    i medicate- i have to or else i go nuts.
    whatever- get on cam even if you feel crappy.. i mean comeon, they think you're hot! if they didn't they wouldn't be sticking around/paying you! seeing them compliment you brings up your mood! it helps me!
    try little things- even like putting on a costume, doing something different with yr hair/makeup, or even your cam background to make you feel special (it sounds dumb but little things like that cheer me up lol)
    watch a funny movie
    look at cute pictures (google images) >>this always always helps me!!
    feel better girl !!!<3333

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    I feel yeah, I definately hit "slit my wrists mode" about 20 minutes ago. Ugggg

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    WHAT???? why??
    feel better Aria you sexy mama *hugs*

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    Oh just one of those "hit rock bottom" nights last night. It's all good.

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