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    Dizzy Re: Hiding it from your live-in partner...

    I'm wondering if someone has advice on the best way to tell your BF. My guy is actually away (merchant marine) and I thought he was going to be back in a few weeks. Well I just got an email that said it will be the end of March now. I can't avoid telling him what I'm doing for that long - it just doesn't feel right.
    So in this circumstance I will have to tell him via email, I thought he'd take it better coming straight from me...ugh. This sucks.

    I don't want to make it sound like I'm apologetic or sorry about what I'm doing...I'm not ashamed, but I AM worried about what he's going to think.

    Best way to give this news to a guy??

    Also, when ya'll meet someone new when do you usually come out with the (I'm a dancer) thing?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lyssah View Post
    I'm wondering if someone has advice on the best way to tell your BF. My guy is actually away (merchant marine) and I thought he was going to be back in a few weeks. Well I just got an email that said it will be the end of March now. I can't avoid telling him what I'm doing for that long - it just doesn't feel right.
    So in this circumstance I will have to tell him via email, I thought he'd take it better coming straight from me...ugh. This sucks.

    I don't want to make it sound like I'm apologetic or sorry about what I'm doing...I'm not ashamed, but I AM worried about what he's going to think.

    Best way to give this news to a guy??

    Also, when ya'll meet someone new when do you usually come out with the (I'm a dancer) thing?
    You can't really sugarcoat it. "I decided to start dancing. It provides me with freedom and income" or something along those lines. My advice is to be as business like about it as possible and show him you're responsible for the money.

    And when I met my current SO I told him right away "I'm a stripper" accompanied by a graphic pussy shot.
    "Fake tits are like Kevlar. They don't guarantee your chances of survival but they sure as hell improve it."
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    "And when I met my current SO I told him right away "I'm a stripper" accompanied by a graphic pussy shot. "

    lol!!!

    Thanks girl, wish me luck!!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lyssah View Post
    "And when I met my current SO I told him right away "I'm a stripper" accompanied by a graphic pussy shot. "

    lol!!!

    Thanks girl, wish me luck!!

    Good luck Like I said try to emphasize the positive aspects of it and the economic advantages. Feria goes a long way with most guys trust me.
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    Every situation is different. I hope everything works out for you.

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    Okay I'm go to be brave and admit I'm doing the same thing. I love my boyfriend. I simply cannot continue to rely on my parents for help. They own a small company and are in serious financial problems. He works full time and is doing the best he can. I'm going to school and cannot seem to find anyone to give me enough hours. I love him very much. I'm saving to help him get through accounting school. I hope he forgives me. If he doesn't I guess it wasn't meant to be. Our relationship is really suffering b/c of our financial woes. Hopefully I'll only have to continue doing this for a few more months (till I'm done with school and find a job) I'm not telling anyone. If you want to judge me that is okay. I'm not a saint but I see dancing as a means to end and I think it's going to benefit both of us in the long run :/

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    Default Re: Hiding it from your live-in partner...

    Okay, but what if this "live-in partner" is your mom? My boyfriend knows and is fine, but I live with my mom, and I want to strip to save money to move out but for now, I can't. And she can't know!

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    Default Re: Hiding it from your live-in partner...

    ^ Why can't she know?

    Regardless, you can always say you're a cocktail waitress at a bar. Or you can say you work for one of those promotional alcohol companies...like you'll sometimes go to a club and see "Coors Light" girls in little shorts and T-shirts selling merchandise.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LisaHiroko View Post
    Okay, but what if this "live-in partner" is your mom? My boyfriend knows and is fine, but I live with my mom, and I want to strip to save money to move out but for now, I can't. And she can't know!
    I would think it would be easier to hide it from your mom. Is she very intrusive? You can always say you're going out with friends.

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    Default Re: Hiding it from your live-in partner...

    I'm going to tell him eventually. Or quit. Once he sees how much it's helping with his schooling and our financial situation in general I hope he'll back me up. If he finds out, well he has cheated/ done some awful things to me and have found it in my heart to forgive.

    It's only a few months. Hopefully it works out in the end. Maybe it is childish not to tell right away. I don't care. I'll help him with his schooling whether he leaves me or not. He knows I love him. I hope that is enough.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Athenathefabulous View Post
    chances are if you are not adult enough to be able to tell your partner or parents while living with them that you are stripping, then you are not adult enough to work in the so called 'adult' industry.

    True, but in this case it isn't that I'm not "adult enough" to tell her; I have no problem telling her, its that I rely on her (by living in her house) and I know for sure that if she knew she would ... potentially kick me out or take my car. I think she is just bluffing but I don't want to take my chances. I wouldn't give a damn what she thought if I didn't have anything to lose.

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