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    I love my ex boyfriend and I know he loves me.

    ...but there's a reason why he's my EX. He is too persistent. When he wants something he will ask/harass you until he gets a YES. He is over whelming when he does this and I'm bad under pressure- he knows this. He is also extremely inconsiderate, somewhat controlling and disrespectful.

    The last straw for me: one morning, I had to catch a flight. ....it's 6:45am- the time we were to leave, I notify him and he goes "We are leaving at 7." He said it was in his "I'm a dick" tone of voice. I'm disappointed because head is pounding, slept only 20 min because I couldn't sleep and the last thing I want is to get to my gate just as they are boarding- It stresses me out and I like to be at airports when I don't have to worry about the line not moving fast enough.

    I say to him, "Why do you have to be controlling? This is MY flight." (maybe it came off wrong because I was stressed out) he starts calling me names, picks on me, JUST PUSHING MY BUTTONS- I ask him to stop and he keeps going and going, every word I say, he screams "she hulk" at this point I am getting very upset ...7am comes around and I tell him it's 7am and he goes- "drop the attitute."I tell him I dont have one and he continues with picking on me, calling me names, yelling at me and while he is doing this, I am screaming PLEASE STOP. 7:10 comes around and while I'm stressing about my flight this guy is picking on me and calling me names to the point I am so overwhelmed and angry, trying so hard to not lose it that I start CRYING. He goes "Are you really crying? You're sad and pathetic, this is hilarious."

    This is the behavior I deal with all the time. The guys a hardcore dick- that's just part of his personality. So I pretty much ended it with him and cutting him out of my life even though I love him with all my heart.

    Am I over reacting by cutting him off?

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    Um no you are NOT overreacting, he sounds like a total fucking douchebag. "She hulk"??? Are you kidding me? Fuck that. You did the right thing by dumping his ass.
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    I dislike him based on that one interaction. You're definitely not over-reacting, and like you said, an ex is an ex for a reason. Stand your ground, girl!

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    Default Re: Am I over reacting???

    You did right! Love is not being abused, physically, mentally or verbally.

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    I'm all about putting your foot down and i normally have extremely low tolerance when it comes to relationships which is why I only had two serious boyfriends (including this one) ....the reason why I asked you guys because he also has his way of making me feel like I'm irrational and crazy, everytime I'm upset he has zero empathy for me untill it's too late...

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    I dont know if you guys know or remember but he is the same guy who tried to date my best friend (I posted a thread about it) and even after I was in depression mode he insist on persuing her because again, he has this thing of making me feel crazy and irrational and has ZERO EMPATHY...which is why I ask around.

    thanks guys, it time to cut him loose.

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    OMG wow. CLASSIC emotional abuse. Their entire MO is based on making you feel like YOU'RE the crazy irrational one. Congratulations.... you can write a textbook chapter on this now. :-)

    What kind of douchebag, when his gf is in TEARS, says "You're sad and pathetic.... this is hilarious."???

    Thank GOD you got rid of him.. Ugh. Now I feel dirty, and I dont even know the guy.

    **Shudder.**

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    Default Re: Am I over reacting???

    The amount of bullshit my gf will put up with with me: zero.

    And vice versa.

    It really simplifies things.

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    Yea Ive dealt w some of this myself. It is the immature assholes who honestly get off on being dicks. Some guys r natural antagonists and they live to get a rise out of people. They usually when around others make there cut downs into jokes where every guy around them can get a laugh over it too. Sometimes guys do this to bond sickly. I deal w some of this now. Although I fight back and threaten back. Im a fighter and Im constantly standing up for myself too. Sometimes though he feels badly for how he acts but mostly he just justifies and blames me. Thats ok though bc I call him every name in the book and I dont care when we fight bc usually he deserves it. Im not so nice myself. I have tried to leave recently and I am given a guilt trip and a few tears when I finally say Im about to really leave lets make the arrangements. So yea my situation is hanging on by threads. These type of guys deserve to be left. Some will never learn.

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    Also though its hard when there are very good things about assholes...Those really good things make it hard to leave. To all the women who walk away easier than me I admire u.

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    Well....speaking as someone who has made a career out of dating douches, it's not so easy to let them go. My ex fiance could have been your ex's spiritual twin.....
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    You could have stabbed him in the forehead with an icepick and i would still think you were probably not overreacting.

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