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    Possible TMI alert, if the title didn't give it away. In the past few months I've had 2 guys (just casual hookups, not customers) ask me if I squirt. I said no, and then almost immediately they tell me that I just did. I have to believe that I would notice. Also, a few guys that should have damned well known better tried for anal with no lube and no warning (they bounced off and then got yelled at). The only possible explanation that I can think of is that these guys watch too damned much porn. Does this shit happen to anyone else?

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    How old are these guys?

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    30 to 40, and its not like I'm their first time. I did say they should damn well know better.

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    Quote Originally Posted by shy1 View Post
    30 to 40, and its not like I'm their first time. I did say they should damn well know better.
    LOL..very funny..Selfish lovers is the problem & not knowing the needs of their partner. How many times have you had intercourse before you noticed?

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    If they were younger I would say porn was to blame, but at that age... Eh, there porn experiences should have been different when it mattered.

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    Before my boyfriend and I got back together I had two casual hook-ups, and they BOTH tried to stick it in my ass! No lube and didn't ask, just tried to put it in there!

    I always get pissed and ask them what makes them assume I would like it anymore than they would, and one of them said that he'd seen porn and that's how he knew that girls loved it. That one was really bad.

    They also both tried to have unprotected sex with me. One of them had met me for the first time that night. It's like... you don't know me at all, don't you can about your health/the health of your dick???

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    Quote Originally Posted by sierra. View Post
    ... One of them said that he'd seen porn and that's how he knew that girls loved it.
    Hahahaha
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    I do think people are seeing porn (and for that matter other factors) and thinking something is fun or normal. I have heard that anal sex is on the rise because of porn, but wonder if this is a generational thing for men in their 20's. Personally, I haven't dated that many guys into it and it's only come up once.

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    Porn is just like anything else, regardless of age. The more of something you "consume" the more likely you are to become numb to it & possibly look for something a bit more out of the norm to entertain you. One of my ex's was like this... he had problems getting erect because of medical issues, but then because of some wild women he met in the past & how often he watched videos, he expected a lot from me. We actually would get into arguments about it.
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    I will venture to say that the gonzo/reality genre of porn has really warped the expectations of men under the age of 30. They think that girls want to be abused and injured as part of sexual activity by default. So much of the mainstream porn out there is geared not toward seuxally arousing people but turning women into perverse human circus acts, performing in ways that aren't even overtly sexual but rather sadistic and frequently misogynistic.

    I'm no prude--I've enjoyed my share of porn and have engaged in sexual activity that some would define as abusive if not outright brutal, but always with partners that were consenting and informed--but what's passing for so much porn these days is only marginally better than dogfighting videos.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kylea2 View Post
    Porn is just like anything else, regardless of age. The more of something you "consume" the more likely you are to become numb to it & possibly look for something a bit more out of the norm to entertain you.
    ^ I agree with this.... the concept of "desensitization"
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    When I first got with my bf (26), I thought he was already exp'ed due to his past. Anyway he didnt know how to properly go down on me - I had to tell where to and where not to. But that was the only setback. Overall he was careful and listend to me during sex, whether I wanted to stop, slow down, it hurt etc. He never tried anything crazy with me comparing to some porns. He joked a lot about anal, but never tried to "accidential slip it". He is pretty vanilla and I were the one whom got him more open within sex.

    Another guy I saw was 25, he didnt know wtf he was doing. He was 4inches as well, and all he tried was doggystyle... which was more more of a joke that I stopped. He didnt know how to finger or go down properly either. I noticed a few remarks related to porn that he did.. Like taking your finger and smacking it lightly on the vagina (wtf)? He also tried not using a condom... Overall he was just bad. I didnt want to tell him,I felt bad for him.

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    I've run into a couple women whose expectations were heavily influenced by porn.

    Actually, it was mostly a good thing, I suppose, but you don't always want to be the instant porn stud. Sometimes I much prefer making love slowly and in a nice, calm, relaxed way.

    You also have to watch out for the ones that are used to the industrial grade vibrators, some of them definitely need a lot more effort.
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    Not much porn anymore seems to show respect for the woman. That's what I dislike about the recent junk
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kisca View Post
    I noticed a few remarks related to porn that he did.. Like taking your finger and smacking it lightly on the vagina (wtf)?
    Personally, I like that move. ;-) Everyone's different, I guess.

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    Yeah what the fuck is the finger smacking vajayjay thing???? That is one thing thats gotta stop, Im like "WTF???"

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    Quote Originally Posted by Arialandre View Post
    Yeah what the fuck is the finger smacking vajayjay thing???? That is one thing thats gotta stop, Im like "WTF???"
    You mean the slapping it? I don't get that. The spitting needs to go, too. All the filthy talk is one thing, but spitting is never sexy.

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    Wait what spitting, what kind of spitting? spitting where????

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    More recent porn has people spitting on the genitals while giving oral. I'm sure there's some spitting into the mouth during making out, too.

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    Yeah there's been too much spitting (like any at all) for a long time. They started that shit ten years ago, and never stopped. What the fuck is sexy about that?? It's actually a turnoff.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Arialandre View Post
    Yeah what the fuck is the finger smacking vajayjay thing???? That is one thing thats gotta stop, Im like "WTF???"
    I laughed so hard....dam

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    Porn has definitely changed my own tastes. Personally I like the spitting. I guess everyone is different. I also like anal sex, but I've been thinking about a new rule. I fuck you up the ass, before you fuck me up the ass! Just so you know how to do it well

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    hahaha^^^good one!

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    Quote Originally Posted by charlottepower View Post
    Porn has definitely changed my own tastes. Personally I like the spitting. I guess everyone is different. I also like anal sex, but I've been thinking about a new rule. I fuck you up the ass, before you fuck me up the ass! Just so you know how to do it well
    I like the spitting too. And I've had several guys just assume they could try anal with me without asking..grrrr and oh yea..what makes a guy think he can just cum anywhere on you without asking? I've had some guys just assume I'd be okay with them cumming on my face. I really don't mind it but it's like because they always see the same o' stuff in porn that every girl they get with is down to the same.

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