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    Default annoyong custie wont leave me alone.

    Honestly, the guy is starting to scare me. Yesterday he sent me 38, yes, THIRTY EIGHT texts. He has given me a LOT of money, & is totally clingy & needy. It's getting to be too much for me to handle, I'm starting to be scared of him. Is it possible to look up someone's address through thier phone number even if you don't know thier real name?

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    Default Re: annoyong custie wont leave me alone.

    And so far he's texted me 6 times today, not including the ones he sent me between 1am & 3 am because he couldnt sleep.

    I really hope someone has an answer for me other than ditch him, because I'm already trying to get rid of him.

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    Default Re: annoyong custie wont leave me alone.

    Can you block him? If not, text him: "Stop harassing me or I will contact the police".

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    Quote Originally Posted by hockeybobby View Post
    Can you block him? If not, text him: "Stop harassing me or I will contact the police".
    He's obsessed with me. I'm wondering If that would make it worse. I'm going to change my number. He knows where I work. one time I swear I saw him watching me from his car as I left the club in a cab one night. I'm apprehensive about contacting the police because cops don't give a fuck about strippers.

    I've never met him otc. I've never told him my real name I've known him in the club for just under two months.

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    Default Re: annoyong custie wont leave me alone.

    I don't know about the looking up an address through a phone number, though I think it is wise to hedge your bets that someone like this can be resourceful. Have you been texting him that you're getting uncomfortable with this? I would make it more and more clear that this is unwanted: this way you give him the chance to back off with dignity, but still you make it firm that the situation won't stand--that you won't just accept it continuing. If that doesn't work you need to get more firm with the guy, and get legal help.

    The fact that he's texting so much (38 times!) means that he's living in some other reality, and I think it is worth for a time taking all the precautions--having friends to walk with, altering your routines, etc. Just be careful. It probably won't move toward violence--I hope he'll get the hint--but I think you should be aware of the potential for trouble and plan accordingly. Better to be as pragmatic as possible in this situation.

    I've very sorry that you have to deal with this. I hope it gets better.
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    you need to start carrying some pepper spray or stun gun in your purse and keep it accessible at all times. or a nice handgun maybe a .38 special or a glock 19 that always works!

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    intelius.com allows you to do a search just using someone's phone number. This should give you their full name and maybe an address. I have had notes left on my car...been followed...I guess people can always sit and watch and figure out what car you drive. I would stop texting him. At some point he will get it. Also, you may be able to block his number. Good luck and be careful.

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    contact the police anyway. paper trail is good to have in case something does happen

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    Default Re: annoyong custie wont leave me alone.

    Can a bouncer or anyone else from security walk you out to a cab after work?

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    Have you told him to stop contacting you?
    Quote Originally Posted by Vamp View Post
    As Katherine Hepburn put it so eloquently " Nature is what we were put here to rise above"

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    Default Re: annoyong custie wont leave me alone.

    Do you want to keep him as a customer, or fully get rid of him?

    I think its best to call him, MSG him saying "Please do not message me after X pm" or "Can you message me less... praphs when you want to see me at (work place) and letting me know.. Im not a phone person" etc something along the lines and depending on the approach if you want to keep him as a customer.

    If not, ignore and block. You can call your service provider and ask them for a block feature (calls and texts). You can change your number. I think telling him "Please do not bother me... I feel harassed and will take further notice if I feel in danger." etc.. See what he says, either he goes crazy, then telling the police, walking out with the bouncers, keep pepper spray on you is best and ofc blocking his number. If he seems ok, do take caution - just cause you dont see him, doesnt mean he doesnt see you. Have a person walking out with all times, have pepper spray.

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    Default Re: annoyong custie wont leave me alone.

    why continue to see a guy in the club/lead him on when he sent you 38 texts in a row? I'm sure you can make cash without leading on a stalker

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    Default Re: annoyong custie wont leave me alone.

    He sounds creepy.
    I would tell him to stop texting you. If he wants to see you in the club thats one thing but harrassing you through texts is not ok. Tell him to knock it off or youll call the cops.
    Im sure you can get someones address if you have there number so I would change it. Especially if your scared of him.

    You should do like me, invest in a nice gun

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    Quote Originally Posted by livingdeadgirl View Post

    You should do like me, invest in a nice gun
    What kind do you carry?>

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rookie2010 View Post
    What kind do you carry?>
    .45 Kimber
    I think thats what it is anyways? lol Im sorta new to guns. I just got it a few weeks ago

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    Quote Originally Posted by livingdeadgirl View Post
    .45 Kimber
    I think thats what it is anyways? lol Im sorta new to guns. I just got it a few weeks ago
    Great choice! treat it good and Welcome to the club lol .45 ACP is always the way to go!
    Plus there is nothing sexier than a woman with her own 1911

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    ^^^ .45's have too much recoil when wearing heels LOL !!! Personally, I'm a .40 S&W girl !



    ...but either way, if you're going to carry a handgun to deal with potentially risky personal situations, you don't want anything smaller than a 9mm !

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    Quote Originally Posted by Melonie View Post
    ^^^ .45's have too much recoil when wearing heels LOL !!!
    haha I didnt even think about heels!!
    I have no complaints so far I likeyy

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    ^^^ well, actually, if you do have any problem controlling recoil ... which I did with my .40 S&W Baby Eagle ... there is an aftermarket service available that you may want to consider



    Basically, they machine slots in your gun barrel to allow a small amount of the expanding gases to escape upward at the same time the bullet exits the barrel, which 'jet propels' the gun barrel back down at the same time the bullet is trying to kick it up. After I had the Magnaporting done, I can get my pistol back on target for an accurate second shot in about 1/2 second. Before I had this done, the best I could manage was was well over a second. In dicey situations, having a second shot ready can make a HUGE difference in the outcome. Also, this process is particularly effective on small, lightweight guns ( which tend to kick worse because there isn't much weight to the gun itself to act as a 'shock absorber' )

    But your .45 ACP does offer the 'horseshoes' advantage over my smaller calibre ... i.e. there's so much more energy in the .45 slug that the odds are that a would-be assailant will be knocked on his ass even if your aim is only 'close' !

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    Default Re: annoyong custie wont leave me alone.

    i would definitely agree with her getting the MP for her 1911
    especially if she is going to use it in her stripper heels


    so what's the deal with your stalker, OP? lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rookie2010 View Post

    so what's the deal with your stalker, OP? lol
    ya, sorry to threadjack!

    What went down OP?

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    1 word - Taser

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kisca View Post
    Do you want to keep him as a customer, or fully get rid of him?

    I think its best to call him, MSG him saying "Please do not message me after X pm" or "Can you message me less... praphs when you want to see me at (work place) and letting me know.. Im not a phone person" etc something along the lines and depending on the approach if you want to keep him as a customer.

    If not, ignore and block. You can call your service provider and ask them for a block feature (calls and texts). You can change your number. I think telling him "Please do not bother me... I feel harassed and will take further notice if I feel in danger." etc.. See what he says, either he goes crazy, then telling the police, walking out with the bouncers, keep pepper spray on you is best and ofc blocking his number. If he seems ok, do take caution - just cause you dont see him, doesnt mean he doesnt see you. Have a person walking out with all times, have pepper spray.

    Great advice.

    And yes, update us please. Now we're going to worry about you, if you don't.


    Watch your ass, let him down easy if you can, it'll be better all round. But be prepared. If the average woman runs a serious risk of being stalked sometime in her life, you know damned well it's not a matter of 'if', but 'when' in our business. It's bound to happen if you dance more than a few years. I fucking hate it when some dancers insist on leaving without escort by a bouncer or friend.

    Look at this article, it's pretty good.

    http://www.bookofodds.com/Relationsh...or-Celebrities
    You must have chaos within you to give birth to a dancing star.
    Friedrich Nietzsche

    Free your mind, and your ass will follow.
    George Clinton

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    good article ^
    and yes...please update or Ill be worried.

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    Default Re: annoyong custie wont leave me alone.

    Sorry it took me so long to get back here. I've spoken with the managers at my club so everyone knows what's going on. we've decided that letting him down easily and slowly is the best plan because the guy is emotionally unstable.

    Also, I bought a taser.

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