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    Crossfingers My Custy pays the bills, Ive been out of work 2 years, dumping him & going back :/

    I have been a dancer for 9years. I started when I 18, I am now 27. 2 years ago while at work I came across this guy, your average lonely, 400lb country west virginia redneck, who Adores & He "thinks" he loves me. He begged me to stop dancing because he would take care of me. I was hesistant at first, but then thought after years of dancing a break was well needed.

    In these past two years of not dancing & depending on him, things have changed for the worse. I have gained 20lbs, he only pays the rent and bills, so I have no pocket money, and he getting more and more annoying and clingly, and needy. In all honesty i am disgusted by him and get chills and repulsed by his touch. It possible would be diffrent if i had money in my pocket all the time and a car, but in 2 years i have none of that.

    I have made a cameo in the club time to time, but I have outgrown that, and my hustle, my game is gone, along with my self confidence after gaining these extra 20lbs. My wish is to cut him off completely and get back to supporting myself, but if i did that i would lose all my livelyhood, and have to go back to a dirtbag club everyday which i am so not ready for.

    I guess my question is How do i get him to understand that he is my job and he needs to give me more money OR what id rather do: drop this 20lbs, get back in the club and get my hustle on and make that $$$. the few times i have made a cameo in the club i have either done really well or really bad, hit or miss, but most times i go I always find the next potential regular who adores me and has loads of money.

    Tonight is Saturday, I havent danced in Forever, but im think Im going tonight, give it the good ol stripper try any suggestions, constructive critisism, or support will be greatly appreciated. Thanks for taking the time to read my post.

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    Default Re: My Custy pays the bills, Ive been out of work 2 years, dumping him & going back :

    Try to go in a bit more regularly so you can get back in the hustle groove and make enough cash to support yourself for a month or so. Then, when you have a nest egg saved up, drop this dude. It doesn't sound like he's going to give you more than he already does, especially if he's getting clingier and more annoying. Your sanity is worth more than your rent and bills.

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    Default Re: My Custy pays the bills, Ive been out of work 2 years, dumping him & going back :

    Quote Originally Posted by shanna dior View Post
    Try to go in a bit more regularly so you can get back in the hustle groove and make enough cash to support yourself for a month or so. Then, when you have a nest egg saved up, drop this dude. It doesn't sound like he's going to give you more than he already does, especially if he's getting clingier and more annoying. Your sanity is worth more than your rent and bills.
    Agreed.
    This sounds like a pretty manipulative and controlling situation- if he found out you were dancing he'd prolly pull the rug right out from under you and leave you fucked over, no? Dont tell him youre going back to it. Youve gotta look out for yourself, he aint gonna be around forever, and then what will you have to show for it once he's outta the picture? No money for rent, bills, spending money or a car. You'll be back to square one.

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    Default Re: My Custy pays the bills, Ive been out of work 2 years, dumping him & going back :

    thank you girls. i know what you girls have said is what i have to do, and it has to be done.

    last night, while at work, my first time in the cub in Months! i get a text, from my SD, "I Love You, We Need To Talk". so i call him and what does he have to say?.. 1st of all, hes drunk as a skunk! then proceeds to tell me, "IM A MAN! I HAVE NEEDS! I GOT YOU A LAPTOP, A PRADA PURSE & LOUIS VUITTON PURSE FOR CHRISTMAS! YOU DIDNT SPEND NEW YEARS WITH ME! AND YOU DIDNT GIVE ME SEX ON MY BIRTHDAY!" (but i did get him a fantastic gift for christmas & his birthday with my own money i earn from my part time job at Pier 1 Imports, $200 every 2wks! that aint shit! but i spent it on him!) He is a Child! a 400lb country redneck child! ugh im so sick of it. so after his rant, i begin to reassure him and comfort and console him to let him know its all right. he tells me, "maybe i should just leave u alone, i expect too much from you." he wants me to be head over heels in love, but he doesnt understand thats not the situation.

    he said he wants to talk tonight. so im going to tell him, what it is. i have before, but i guess he chooses not to hear me say, "we are friends, i care about your health, your wellbeing, i adore and appreciate everything you do for me, but we are not in a relationship. if you want to introduce me to people as your girlfriend, thats fine, but I am not your girlfriend, i am your friend. you help me out of the kindness of your heart because your able to, not because you expect something in return." thats not what he wants to hear, in one ear out the other.

    the very first time i met him, he gave me 1k for 5minutes of sex, it was the most repulsive thing i have ever done in my Life, and he thinks because hes paying the rent and bills which is over 1k a month, that he should get sex? ugh.. im so annoyed. he is really testing my sanity and patience. so i guess ill talk to him tonight, try to get things square for now, but i do have to go into work at the club more regularly to get back in the groove and support myself. thanks for being there girls

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    Default Re: My Custy pays the bills, Ive been out of work 2 years, dumping him & going back :

    ^poor baby. that sucks. But twenty pounds isn't insurmountable. Just get yourself a killer outfit with fishnets, a waist cincher and whatever you need to feel sexy and go hit that club!

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    Default Re: My Custy pays the bills, Ive been out of work 2 years, dumping him & going back :

    Get back to the club to save up $ so that he doesnt have the upper hand on you....This dude could actually lower your money to get you to do more and all the while you are desperate for more $.

    He has the power until you secure your own income. Get back to the club, cultivate regs, and get your hustle on.

    Dont accept less from him or you will end up doing more for that lesser amount, and you need the opposite. Once on your feed demand more $ from him...and keep working.

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    Default Re: My Custy pays the bills, Ive been out of work 2 years, dumping him & going back :

    Here is what I would do...

    Don't get rid of him before you need to...drop 10 pounds and see how you do at the club.

    Then raise your price on him. Does he give you cash? Just tell him "oh I've got some extra bills to pay" or flat out tell him "I need some spending money".

    If you raise your fee - he'll give you the money or he might drop you entirely.

    Personally I would go back to the club but that's me. Regs and sugardaddys can get kinda clingy.

    Good luck!




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    Default Re: My Custy pays the bills, Ive been out of work 2 years, dumping him & going back :

    400 lbs.?! babydoll, you can do way better than that!!! "d*cks are a dime a dozen." there are some great guys out there, and there are some great sugar daddies out there, and if you can support yourself at all that's better than being with a real choad. some guys want girlfirends, some guys just want 24-7 GFE. If he can't handle you supporting yourself, he falls into the latter category (hey, you're not alone). do what makes you happy, and cover your bases.

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