So, I wrote about this a little in the confession thread.
Basically, I've been lying to my mother in law for almost 9 years now.
Lying to her about something soooo stupid. My birthday.
I was 17 when I got with my husband, he was 24. She didn't like that....and in order to stay in her house, he made up a lie saying I was turning 18 on July 18.
Since then, she has thought my birthday is July 18 and I'm a year older than I actually am.
My real birthday is February 21, and I'll be 26 next month.
It has always bugged me because she has bought me gifts before on my fake birthday. Then, on my real birthday I just have to act like it's a normal day when in all reality, I'm usually super excited about my birthday. I guess it's especially bugging me this year because she's my friend on FB, and I'm going to have to block her from seeing my wall around that time...PLUS, she's coming to visit on February 20.
There goes my birthday....
I'm just sick of lying about something SOOOO FUCKING STUPID!
I woke up all ready to send her a long message on FB telling her that I'm sorry this lie has been going on for so long, and I don't want it to go on any longer. I don't want my son (my kids) to have to hide the fact it's my birthday when they're old enough to realize...etc, etc.
Then my husband got mad. Asking why it bothers me so much, and that I don't care if he gets shit on, and by me saying something it's just going to all come down on him (when it should, he made the stupid lie up) and why I could lie this long and all of a sudden can't do it anymore...etc, etc, blah, blah, blah...
It bugs me because I am not a liar. I guess this one has been "easier" to deal with because it only comes up once a year really. When ever my birthday is mentioned, I quickly change the subject. It bugs me because it's an important day to me, and his mom is cool, and I'm sick of having to hide it it. It bugs me because he's more worried about his mom coming down on him then me being relieved and finally having a weight lifted off my shoulders.
Soo..what would you do? Would you tell your SO to fuck off and spill the beans, or go with your SO wishes, and continue this lie?
I mean, it EVENTUALLY has to come to light and be found out. Right? Wouldn't it mean more if the truth came out from me or him rather than some weird way??
We're already fighting about this situation, so should I just go and send the message to his mom?
What would you do?
(ugh, sorry this was so long.)




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So I can definitely relate to how torn you're feeling about the whole situation. But I think you'll feel so much lighter after this is all over and behind you





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