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    I really want to know what i have to do to get a cute girl. I'm always nervous when it gets intimate thought because my size is a little less than average.. Is there any way to make up for this of letting her know before she gets the surprise or is it a turn off to just tell her before?? pleasee enlighten me!!

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    Default Re: how do i make up for my shortcomings..

    Depending on exactly how much less than average you are, some women don't mind or even might prefer your size. It's best to get that out of the way though - size most definitely matters to me so I will always find a way to do a size check before wasting my time on a small-dicked dude.

    I once walked out in the middle of making out (pre-fuck) with a guy who had a teeny weeny because I knew it wasn't going to satisfy me at all - since then I learned to check well before it gets to the point of opening the package to find a disappointing surprise. LOL


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    well i am about 5. how is that?? but what if i would like do anything the girl wanted! would she still walk out?? would you laugh if you saw it?? haha

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    but also im a big guy im like 6'4:/

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    5 inches is about average. You can always compensate by prepping the woman really well. Go down on her, and stimulate her G-spot. If you engorge the G-spot enough any size feels great!

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    well i am almost 5inches... i dont really know how to go down on a girl but i would do it for her as much as she wanted just so she wouldnt get mad at me being smaller..

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    No person should make you feel bad about your genitals! That's not cool. Ask the woman what she wants...if she has a little sense she'll be able to tell you. I've enjoyed men of various sizes, as long as they are considerate and passionate lovers. Don't be so hard on yourself.

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    thanks but still i get nervous around girls when it comes to that time other than that im really cocky lol

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    Such an astonishingly common issue with guys and girls. I would love to rely on the anonymity of the interweb to just cut loose on the subject, but many people here know me, lol. Plus I wonder how many other people - guys and gals - would be willing to be completely open an honest in a thread like this.

    Aw fuck it. Maybe if I open the can, others will help make it work. And the people who know me already know I'm about as private and shy as an atomic bomb.

    So much on so many topics dealing with sex have so much misinformation and just plain crap in general out there that a frightening percentage of people are still uncomfortable with something as simple as asking for help or information. Girls and guys both have insecurities and behaviors that are just so WRONG as a result! It's so annoying!

    Penis size is one of those things. There isn't as much stigma out there preying on men's insecurities as women's, but there is PLENTY in this particular area; which is bad because it can be SO devastating to a man's all-important confidence. Ego aside, if a guy is insecure about his ability to please a partner, it often becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. And that doesn't do ANYONE any good.

    I know this from experience. This post will come off cocky as hell if I'm honest about it. Oh well - one, I'm not humble in that area anyway, and two, I'm only putting this out there so others can learn from it. I'll deal with the fallout.

    Early in my sexual life, I had a few girls do some serious psychological damage in the penis size arena. It didn't help that my best friend was quite large, and our girlfriends always knew each other. I spent literally years wallowing in horrible insecurity on the subject as a result, and it impacted my abilities as a lover in two ways, one negative and one positive.

    On the negative side - well, I worried, often suffered from performance anxiety, and frankly didn't benefit from experience as much as I could have because of it. I often turned down potential lovers because I THOUGHT they would react to my size before ever knowing. And so on.

    On the positive side - once I began to take things more seriously and - more importantly - gained some sexual maturity and more experience, what had held me back became a drive; I wasn't blessed with a huge dick, so I was going to learn anything and everything I could about pleasing my partners, period.

    A couple of interesting things happened. One - I learned that I wasn't as small as I imagined. Turns out I'm actually very average or slightly above average in length, and just about average or on the low side of average in girth. Not a pencil dick, but not a short thick one either - and guys, if you're below average in either category, girth is more important than length, lol. Point is, I found out that in the world of penises, I was about normal, and blessed with an attractively formed one at that. Small consolation to me maybe, and not much help to guys smaller still, but take away from it that because of some vindictive and cruel bitches in my teens, I thought I was SMALL for years.

    So - why is it that I don't care AT ALL any more, even with girls that are open about being size queens? A couple of things.

    First - I met a girl that was straightforward and honest and blunt, and told me I ate pussy wrong. And taught me how to do it RIGHT. And I learned not only how, but that I LOVED it. I have spent the rest of my sexual life perfecting it, and I am not humble about my talent in that area. Lesson - learn to eat pussy and eat it well, and if you don't love it like I do, learn to, lol.

    Second - to put it bluntly, I learned to fuck, lol. I am FREQUENTLY told that if all guys knew how to do what I did, size would matter a lot more, lmao. How's that you ask?

    Here's a secret for the small to average size guys out there: Most guys with larger cocks are lazy lovers, because they rely on their hefty dick to do the work. And a lot of the girls that prefer size do so because the extra sensation allows them to "make up" for the guy who may or may not be doing it just right. Just because you're hung like a porn star doesn't mean you can fuck like one - it just means you'll think you can because the girls will learn to use your size to make it work. Smaller guys ARE at a disadvantage here; if they're not good lovers, there's not much left on the table. So become a good lover, lol.

    The first couple of times I was told by a woman that I was "better" than a past lover who was hung, I thought she was lying - and said so. The resulting conversations and many that followed over the years are what led to that piece of wisdom above. The resulting confidence boost helped me be even better. And so it goes; when you get better, you keep getting better, because of that all-important confidence factor - regardless of your size.

    One of my current fuck buddies is a GORGEOUS little dancer and a diagnosed nympho who barely keeps it under control. She doesn't fuck around indiscriminately, but she does get a lot. And she's one of those who by sheer luck seems to find a Ron Jeremy around every corner; she's been with more guys blessed with over 8 thick inches than under, and she doesn't pre-qualify them, lol. Lucky girl. Since she started sleeping with me, she also comes to me within 24 hours after EVERY hookup because she left hornier than she got there and "needs it right". She says openly that I'm the only guy she's been with with whom monogamy wouldn't bother her, and that the 2nd time we ever fucked I qualified as the best she'd ever had. I told you I was going to sound cocky, lol. MM's ex wasn't HUGE huge, but he was very large. She'll tell you I gave her a better time our first time than he ever did in 2 years, and she's a blunt little creature who wouldn't hesitate to tell me if I had some catching up to do. Shall I go on? A close friend of ours, one of the most beautiful girls I've ever met, has stated - and I quote - "I prefer average guys if they know how to fuck, then I don't get all loose and I always know I can take it any way either of us wants it. Sex with [name of ex, 2 year relationship] was only so good because he was pretty big and I could do the work and make it good; he thought he was God in the sack but if it wasn't for his dick I would never had kept fucking him. I spent 2 years wishing he was smaller and actually knew what the fuck he was doing." Lots more where that came from.

    That last one brings up another thing - you hear it but don't always believe it - some girls don't like it large. Girls come in different shapes and sizes too, lol. Part of learning to be a good lover is learning how to work with a given woman's equipment as much as yours - they're all different. What feels great to one will feel terrible to another, be it foreplay, oral, penetration, or ANY sexual stimulus. Learn to learn on the fly and make it work, and you're in the top 10% right there. On the other end of the spectrum, some girls REALLY like it - even NEED it - big. So get over your insecurities and learn to work with that, too. I have a large selection of toys, some of which dwarf what God gave me, lol. Instead of being intimidated by such things, learn to make them part of your repertoire; learn to use them so well that she doesn't care that it's a toy and not your cock. There are sleeves you can buy to make you larger - and they come in textures that no natural dick could ever have. And a big guy trying to use one is going to get a resounding OH HELL NO from most women - 9 thick inches might be enticing, but add another inch or two and even more girth, plus all kinds of texture, and that means more pain than pleasure for all but the craziest girls. Ive learned to view my average size as a positive - he's always big, I can be just about anything she wants, lol. Learn to take pleasure in pleasing her - I assure you, a thoroughly satisfied woman responds VERY well to a confident lover when she decides she's had enough and it's her turn to do something for you! Using toys and other accouterments doesn't mean you're making up for a lack, it means you're willing to set aside your ego and give her what she wants, no matter what it is. Oddly enough, women seem to like that, lol. Go figure.

    I could go on for pages and pages. This post only covered a portion of the penis size thing, and there's a LOT to be learned on both sides that has nothing to do with that. Ask questions and all you sluts out there, make this thread the one place on the internet where people of both genders can GAIN confidence, not lose it.

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    Geez - that was even longer than I feared. Sorry - but I hope it helped.

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    You'd be perfect for anal sex first timers

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    lol really you think ariah haha maybe i can use that to my advantage haha

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    Default Re: how do i make up for my shortcomings..

    Well my ex bf was 5 inches and he still made me cry

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    maybe theres hope for me after all

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    After re-reading this while not on 36 hours without sleep, I think i wasted my time posting this. You're not just another cuckold fetishist looking to be bashed on here, on you? Lame. Oh well, I posted it all, guess I'll leave it, lol.

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    loll noo not at all!! i honestly really appreciated what you wrote! even though i had to take a few breaks because it was so long hahah jk. Ive just always lacked confidence when it comes to going to the next step with ladies. other than that i have a ton of it! I guess its all in the mind but whatever

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    If you gleaned anything from a particular post, or laughed at it, or just liked it, by anyone, anywhere on these boards, feel free to click the "thanks" button on that post.

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    5 inches isn't that small. Lord, my fav toy is 5 inches! Anything over about 6 hurts a lot of us tiny girls! Also, I agree with AJ! How you use what you've got is more important than size, plus good oral can make up for a LOT.
    "I hear you calling and it's needles and pins. I wanna hurt you just to hear you screaming my name...You're poision. but I don't wanna break these chains.... I wanna love you but I'd better not touch."

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    Quote Originally Posted by princessjas View Post
    How you use what you've got is more important than size, plus good oral can make up for a LOT.
    Its like a friend of mine says.. "I might not bottom out, but Ill beat the shit outta the sides!" hahah

    5 inches is just fine.

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    looks like i got to start practicing my oral skills lol how ever im supposed to do that i dont know but ill try. I'm glad you think im not that small!! yaay! i once had a 6inch toy shh ( not saying i used it! ) and no im not gay

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    Crown Royal, give her lots of it.
    I can do better than you in a two bit fancy house

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    Quote Originally Posted by fast tan77 View Post
    Crown Royal, give her lots of it.
    hahaha i dont want to take advantage of her though

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    a an above average guy there are times i wish i wann't i think oral would be better for me if more fit in a non deep throaters mouth

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    Was that English? lol - again, a lot of women prefer "normal" size when it comes to oral on their end for sure.

    Enjoying the same toys as your female acquaintances doesn't make you gay, it makes you open minded and interested in exploring every way to please yourself as well as your partner. I am not ashamed to say that there's not a toy in our collection that I haven't enjoyed too. If you're fantasizing about MEN while engaging in these activities on the other hand... Well, get out of the closet, you've got a lot more self discovery and exploring to do, LMAO.

    OP - about practicing - if you have a partner or someone you mess around with, ask her to be open and completely honest with you and help you out. It's entirely possible that this hypothetical "she" doesn't even know - a frightening number I've women I've run cross couldn't give me direction 'cuz they'd never had it right before and had no idea. "What do you like best?" "Um - I dunno - it all seems to be working - dear God..." is a conversational overview I've had too many times, lol.

    If you don't have one, here's one from left field that I totally recommend; hire a prostitute. No joke. Every woman I've known in that line of work gets customers every once in a while that hires them to help them be better in bed. Generally these girls not only don't mind, they are happy to help. If you learn anything, tip generously.

    Another story: I was 21 and living in Seattle. I was o the cusp of this whole gaining confidence thing, but still learning for sure. I started dating this awesome chick, a self-described "reformed lesbian" who had recently come to realize she was bi and liked guys too. I was the 2nd guy she'd dated and the 4th she'd ever slept with. 1st time I went down on her she said the most amazing 5 word I've ever heard, something no woman had ever said to me before, 5 words that changed my life forever, no joke.

    "Stop - you're doing it wrong."

    Apparently, lots of women have a hard time saying this to a guy. LADIES - DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT!!!!! If he reacts poorly, you should move on anyway, lol. Most men would MUCH rather be told how to improve than to find out later that they weren't pleasing you, TRUST ME.

    We talked. By the end of that talk, I was amazed that all the girls I'd been with before (somewhere in the mid teens by then) had never told me anything close to that. "MMM - that feels good, but i want you to fuck me now" was the usual response; i thought oral constituted foreplay, something to rev her up but not a finishing move. LOL!

    By the end of that relationship, I knew my way around every piece of the female anatomy as well as any lesbo. Over the next few years I perfected the art and learned how to adjust to different womens preferences. My very next partner was amazed, and it just got better from there. Tip to the OP and other guys like him - when they're already shaking and gasping for breath after a couple of earth shattering O's on your tongue and fingers, 4 to 6 inches can get quite a reaction, lol. The first time you actually make a girl black out is something you'll never forget (MM was the first girl to ever make ME black out - yes ladies, guys can have it just as good as you).

    Keep it coming... (yikes...)

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    lol know i actually think of a girl wearing it and using it on me hahaha i know weird hahah but whatever

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