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    so...me and my mom were talking last night....she brang up my job. she thinks its just as bad as selling drugs and its just bringing me back in life. ok im sorry im not going to school next semester mother!!!im getting a customer service job and keeping stripping and then maybe i will attend a cooking school or get my estetician licsense (beauty school). im only 19 1/2 and school (college) is not my thing anymore. she thinks stripping is an easy way out and that its just so easy and i do nothing!!! god!!! i work my ass off at night ...she just doesnt understand. anyone have this problem? what are your opinions on this? well at least i am happy...i want to do my life my way and not follow what she wants.
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    Well ... I'm kind of jealous that your Mom knows and you even have talks about it. I hide it which is stress in itself. The main thing that I have run into when I have told people ( and this is only a handful of people ) is explaining how difficult the job actually is. It would be fantasic if you could make good money all the time just by showing up but since the isn't how it works, I do my best to educate the handful of people that I have told. It is a job that requires some skill and a lot of patience. You could try to start there ( explain that you pay intially to even be there and illustrate how you don't turn a profit until about 2 hours after you walk in the door ect. ).
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    Do you live with your mom? If so then you should probably think about moving out if you don't want to have this constant battle with her.. Move out, then you can do whatever you want.

    And I doubt that telling her dancing is actually harder than she thinks it is will change her outlook on it for the better. In my opinion I think you're lucky that she cares so much about your future to try to keep you in school. I wish my mom was like that. She thinks dancing is "cool" and never really asks me about how I'm doing in school.. she could care less if I finished or not.

    It would be nice if she accepted the job for what it is and realized that it's opened a lot of opportunities for you financially, but at the same time you'll look back on this when you're older and realize that she wanted what's best for you (and finishing college is, in a lot of parent's eyes, what's best for their child).

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    Darling, I will try not to be judgmental in this post, as I don't think it'd be helpful to you. But listen. If your mother was wholeheartedly accepting of your stripping, I would be concerned. She is your parent. And she should not want you to be getting naked for money, as it goes against the societal values we as good American folks have developed. For this reason, my mother does not know I am a stripper and neither does anyone else in my family except one cousin who is my age and a good friend of mine. Telling your family opens a whole can of worms that is just a fucking disaster. They will constantly beg you to stop, and you won't, and it seems like you're still into that rebellious teen thing, so her pleading only feeds your desire to piss her off. Believe me, I've been there. But it is quite tiresome.

    Also, do not say that school isn't your "thing," because it is nowhere near a thing. It is a devotion, a choice, and a promise to yourself. I will be graduating from college this year after almost four grueling years of university and there is nothing I am more proud of on this little planet. I believe you are a bit immature in your beliefs. Maybe you should consider going to community college, even just to take basic classes, because in the long run, education is a valuable asset. If you are going to blow money on tuition, I wouldn't suggest blowing it on culinary school. With that being said, no one can take a degree away from you, no matter what institution you got it from, no matter how Mickey Mouse it may be. And since you are young, you have a lot of time to dick around before it's too late to take the opportunity to go back to school before you're flogged with responsibilities, children, health complications, and so on and so forth.

    Stripping CAN bring you back in life, if you do it wrong and don't have any other solid plans. But it also can supplement your life in an extremely fabulous way, creating so many innumerable pathways for you to follow if you play your cards right. To quote The Specials, "stop your messing around, better think of your future." Take advantage of your youth and whatever talents you may have, and milk the shit out of it. Use stripping as a stepping stone or a building block, not as a foundation for your entire life.

    I hope this helped and I didn't sound too preachy. I just want people to struggle for the right reasons and not make the mistakes I did in the past.

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    It sounds like your mom is just looking out for you... most parents want their kids to be educated because it can give you a wider range of career opportunities and help you succeed in life. Plus, your mom's probably ignorant of what strip clubs are really like. There's (obviously) a humongous difference between strippers and drug dealers, not to mention stripping is completely *legal*, but most parents don't want their kids to be involved in either one because they think they're dangerous/immoral/degrading jobs, and they'd be concerned for their child's well-being.

    I think you should tell your mom that you appreciate her concerns, and you don't plan on stripping for the rest of your life, but it's what you're going to do for the time being. You could also explain that it gives you a ton of freedom and independence, which is exactly what most people are seeking when they go to college for a "real job."

    Also, if you do go to school (culinary, esthiology, college, whatever), you'd probably be better off just stripping and not dealing with a customer service job at the same time. Two jobs plus school is a bad idea, I did it last year and wanted to die. Stripping is the ultimate job when you're a student.

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    She is just looking out for you. Honestly I am your age... I hate school.. but you know what? Its the whole purpose to get a degree to not end up in a customer service job -- anyone can do that. You can get fired anytime someone else with more exp shows up then what? Go to school before you'll be stuck in a CS or at a stripclub.

    You can make a career out of stripping.. but are you doing it fulltime, are you taking traveling into your advantage, are you making your max. profit? ...

    Right now I truely want to just work at a SC, and not go to school.. but I cant. I know within a few years, Ill have a job, Ill get exp and follow up with that job... If that doesnt work, I can always go back to school, use my degree to my advantage.. and there is the stripping always behind you! There are many strippers with high degrees.. they are able to leave the SC - Will you if you wanted to?

    Do what you can now, stripping will have your back whenever you fall back or need help. There are new girls coming in, there is less money over periods. You can always keep stripping as a parttime job, on weekends, on time off from school.

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    Stripping is the hardest job I have ever done. There is nothing easy about it. It's acting and heavy sales. And then there is the physical, health, beauty and psychological aspect. No ones parents want to see there kid work in the sex industry. It makes them feel bad. This is a really brutal economy. It's not like the 90's where working as a stripper was considered highly unusual for the average person. There are well educated people working for 8 bucks an hour because it's all they can get.
    Just remember stay off of drugs, don't be an alcoholic and start reading some really good psychology books and also anything thing you can find by Zig Ziglar. It's a very tough business and it will change your outlook on life. You can make this job positive or it can be a very negative influence. It's up to you. But your mom is right when she tries to tell you to beware of the dangers because they do exist.
    This might sound like an odd thing to say and I'm sure a lot of people will disagree - but I think 19 is too young to be stripping. That is just my personal opinion. If you have to because it is your only choice other than the streets obviously stripping is better than the streets. Be careful and please start reading some really good psychological books or check out some great videos on the topic of psychology on utube. The Psychetruth channel is what I recommend. See the links below. Good luck and be aware.
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    I think your mom has a point. You should really look into finding a career path or at least a solid back-up plan. Dance, but create a plan for yourself. When your age still ends in "-teen", it makes you seem younger than you feel, so I can understand why she is pushing you and why you feel so fed up. Good luck

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    College may not be your thing now, but you should definitely consider going to school and planning for a future career within the next couple of years. And if your mother is able to support you and pay for all your needs, then i would probably just stick with focusing on school and maybe dancing only once or twice a week. If not, and you're situation is that you have to pay for your everything yourself, then keep doing what you do. I'm in a situation where i have tuition, rent, bills, car insurance, health insurance, gas etc that I have to pay for myself cuz my dumbass family wont help me out financially. My dad doesnt know what I do and he would never accept it and my brother, who does know, gives me shit about it and calls me a slut/whore/trash whenever i try to have a conversation with him over the phone. I'm only 18 and I have everything figured out with school and I know what I want to be when I get older. I care for everyone around me and I'm involved in my school, and yet i'm put down for trying to make something of myself. So I say fuck it. I don't have time for people who are going to hate on me, If they don't accept it, then they can move on with their lives and leave me alone. Thats my two cents on that lol. But the fact that your mother knows what you do and is at least supportive and trying to help you out, I would listen to what she has to say and compromise with her. Keep doing what you want/need to do but try to show her that you're trying to do better for your future Good luck girl!
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    i feel like theres a bunch of moms on here haha
    im gonna start beauty school soon to be an estetician
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    Eh, I did that and while it's fun, it doesn't pay well at all & it's really hard to get a job in it since the positions are very limited.
    I'd save the money and time, and make college your "thing". I know easier said than done. I started dancing at 19, too and I'm still going through the struggle of working vs. putting most of my time and energy into school.

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    Im jealous you can even tell your mom. My mother would have a conniption if she found out what I do. Same with my dad.
    Do what makes you happy...but remember you need to think about your future too. You wont be young and hot forever I would start thinking about what direction you really wanna take your life and go from there. Noone says you cant strip and go to school.

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