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    So I went today and applied at Expose in Austin. I was nervous, but was feeling pretty confident when I walked in because none of the girls were that good looking (sounds mean, but come on, we all make the comparison). I had also been in this club once before, when my old roommate had worked there and I came to visit her. The girls then were really not attractive either, and not much of dancers. I actually wanted that type of place to be where I started out in, since I have slight anxiety and would feel more comfortable if I didn't feel inferior the whole time, or like I wasn't good enough. I had met the manager that was there, and the dj, and they both told me that I was "hot" and should definitely consider working there. I wasn't really looking to be a dancer at the time, so I just kinda laughed it off. So anyway, I figured I would have at least a foot in the door since I had met the manager before and he made that comment, right?

    Let me also start off by saying that after I was given an application and filling it out at the bar, a dancer was like "are you applying to be a waitress?" and I was like "no, a dancer" and she was like "oh. hmf. well I've been working here since 11 and have only made $7" My first thought was "then why are you sitting at the bar right now instead of hustling?" but then I also remember reading here on SW about how some girls will talk bad about their club to a potential newbie if they feel like they'll be competition, so I just just shrugged it off and finished filling the app out.

    Out walks the NOT the same manager (damnit!) who just points to my app that he had gotten from the door girl, and asks "is this you?" Doesn't even introduce himself, or say he's a manager. Didn't shake my hand. He just looks me up and down and gave me this "I don't believe you actually want to me a dancer look" and the first thing he asks me is that. But he gave me the look before he even asked it! I stumbled out something, and he still looked at me that way. Wtf? He was so rude. I realize that every job you interview with will ask you that question, I'm not stupid, but the way he asked it was almost sarcastic. I was thinking maybe because on the application, I put down that I was still currently working as a manager? Or because I was kinda dressed conservative/classy (it's cold outside!). Anyways, he just asked if I could work starting tomorrow, and when I was like yes, he was like "okay, come in at 11:30. you know what to bring, right?" which was weird because I already told him that this was my first time doing this...so I was like "no, I don't." and he practically sighed like he was wasting his time and brought me to the back dressing room and went over the stuff I'd need, and to come through the back door. Didn't show me around the club at all, didn't tell me anything about the club or the rules. I asked him when the audition process would take place, and what is expected of me. He was like "tomorrow. we'll see what you got and if you're cut out for this industry" with still that look on his face that already believed that I wasn't.

    How rude! Why did he treat me like I was "too good" for the club and wouldn't be coming back? That's the whole reason why I decided I'm not going back. I'm going to apply on Monday at Perfect 10, I've heard they're classier.

    I've attached a pic to prove that I'm not a hideous troll, so I really don't think that was the reason why he didn't seem like he really wanted to hire me.

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    Some clubs just have poor management, and unfortunately, a lot of strip club managers make it to that level not because of experience or qualifications or knowledge, but because they know somebody and think it'll be "cool" to manage a strip club. Hey, next best thing to a pimp, right? A lot of strip club managers also have delusions of grandeur.

    My advice would be not to settle, so it's good that you've decided not to go with this club. Are there multiple strip clubs in that area? Shop around. Check the reviews on this forum, under the "Clubs and Reviews" link at the menu at the top. Trust me, it's extremely important that you feel comfortable with your management, especially when it's your first experience in the industry. Your first time dancing can be nerve-wracking enough without a douchebag manager throwing his weight around.

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    ^ x2. There's a lot of douchebags in this industry, and luckily for us, there tends to be a lot of clubs as well, so it's rare that you get stuck having to work with them. Good luck!

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    Sounds like he was just trying to psych you out. What a douche! But at least you've got a feel for it and since you got accepted at the first one, hopefully you won't be as nervous about the next one. Good luck!

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    Got hired at Perfect 10! Heck yes. I'll let you guys know how my first day goes.

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    congrats

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    Good job! Congratulations!

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    Congrats!! Like shanna dior said, in this line of work there's always somewhere else you can go. You don't have to put up with people like that.

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    The manager at the other club I got hired at was like a polar opposite of the other guy! He was very friendly, and incredibly helpful. I wasn't even starting today, yet he gave me a great tour and a lot of advice. He even said he'd try to see if one of the girls wouldn't mind helping me out with dancing on stage and how to give lap dances. Do girls really help new girls like that? He seemed very adamant that a couple of them would, which I was hesitant to believe. Have any of you guys helped out a newbie at a club before?

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    Sure, I have. Some of the dj's used to size new girls up, and if they decided the girl was professional about the job and not just a young dumb party girl thinking she was going to make money getting drunk and acting like a dumb slut at a dance club, they would call me over to the dj booth, introduce us, and ask me to give her the tour and some advice. I'd explain the rules, give her some very basic advice, and ask if she had any questions. Usually, the girls were most nervous about private dances, so I'd take them into one of the private rooms and show her a couple of easy moves. It never bothered me to do it. I wish someone had been as helpful with me when I would have started; I would have loved some honest advice. It certainly didn't mess with my money, and I really wanted more professional coworkers as opposed to the amount of trash we had working there.

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    I helped a lot of new girls, after I learned the ropes myself. It's just part of who I am. I bet you will really like working at the club, the people sound like cool straight-up people.

    It's not just about being nice, either. it's good business to have high morale among the people working there, and on top of their game. a good dancer will want every girl in her club to shine.... it's not just about "I'm the best and they're shitty. Look at that new girl! She looks so dumb. She obviously doesn't know what she's doing." Sooo many guys HATE that attitude.

    I got a lot of happy customers and repeat business from being positive about my club and complimenting my coworkers and management. "I love this DJ, he is sooo good to us, and really plays what the crowd wants to hear" and "That girl is so sexy, and she's really nice too" goes a long way with a certain set of guys. If it's not part of your dancer persona ("The Aloof Queen of Everything" for example, does NOT compliment ANYONE, EVER, except the people she is trying to manipulate and/or suck money out of) it obviously won't work, but I was always the girl next door so gushing fit with me.
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