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    Default cutthroating? yeah the fuck right.

    I just started dancing again after a year off & I must say, the girls are just as petty, if not even worse.

    Its been about a week since I started & its been a week of straight up hell. I work at an upscale gentlemans club and I'm one of five black girls that work there. You'd think that because we're in the minority, the black girls would at least try to get along but OH NO,its been drama from the start.

    Night before last, I was sitting at a table with 5 guys. The tables really small so I couldnt get to the customer's lap so we were conversing across the table. Another black girl (kim) came & plopped her ass on my guys lap, which was rude but I didn't make a big deal out of it. She eventually got like 8 dances from this guy....dances I could have had, but I didn't wig.out or get mad. I didn't even mention it actually.

    So last night, Kim was sitting with a customer & I was on stage. He sent her up to tip me. I got off stage & headed to the table to say thank you, and he asked me to sit with him; mind you, Kim was sitting on the opposite side of him. So me & this guy talk for maybe 15-20 mins & kind feeling pretty left outbecause he's no longer interested in her. She left the table & came back asking for a dance & he said he was enjoying his conversation & he might get one later. I eventually talked him into getting a dance from me & just as I was about to bring him upstairs I was called to the dressing room.

    When I get there, kim, my house mom, & Paul (general mgr) were sitting up there. She told the house mom that I had cutthroated her. To me, the definition of cutthroating is if a dancer comes to a table uninvited. I feel as though I should be invited by either another dancer or the customer; in this case, the customer invited me to sit with him, so I did. So my mgr says if its ever a problem again he'd fire one of us...so now I'm like WTF? Now I have management up my ass & I didn't even do anything wrong.

    When I go back downstairs, the customer had already left, which just added to my frustration because I missed out on money entertaining this bullshit with Kims whining ass. I was so frustrated, I wanted to whip her ass but instead of reacting that way I was really reduced to tears...i had 300 dollars stolen from me earlier this week (another dancer dipped in my money bag while I was doing pole tricks & couldn't see her, she was fired but I didn't get my money back), another drunk dancer was testing my patience & instead of knocking her ass out I just let it roll off of my back, & now this bullshit. I got really overwhelmed with being the bigger person in every situation and I just cried in the bathroom.

    I really wanna know guys...was I wrong for sitting at the table with the guy after he invited me over? I cnat help who's attracted to me. I even apologized to Kim but I feel like i didn't do anything wrong. I'm really angry at the situation especially since a) I missed out on money over this shit, b) she CLEARLY cutthroated me the night before & I said nothing, and c) I don't like being portrayed as a bitch or an asshole. I try to be fair with everyone.

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    Default Re: cutthroating? yeah the fuck right.

    If you were invited to sit with the customer, even though Kim was there, I don't see a problem with it. What she did the night before was out of line however.

    My club had to put in anti-cut-throat rules, it was getting horrible with all the recession dancers. So now, if we get a stage call or have to go to the ladies room, the other girls have to hold back long enough to see if we're going back to that customer. Last night I had an incident with a girl I can't stand (she likes to eavesdrop on us other dancers, then blast our business to customers) who jumped in my customer's lap as soon as I went onstage. When I came off stage, I walked right back over and told her to give me my seat back. She skulked away and I jumped down her throat one more time.
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    Default Re: cutthroating? yeah the fuck right.

    I don't think you did anything wrong, you must be so pissed.
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    Default Re: cutthroating? yeah the fuck right.

    Quote Originally Posted by Anastasia Foxx View Post
    If you were invited to sit with the customer, even though Kim was there, I don't see a problem with it. What she did the night before was out of line however.
    I agree,, what she did to you last time is just plain disrespectful. I wouldnt worry about it, as you did everything professional and she was being just a rude bitch about it. I dont think its wrong to go to a customer if there is a girl, UNLESS he calls you over and he did - customers choice.

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    Default Re: cutthroating? yeah the fuck right.

    Well, what she did was wrong the night before.
    What I would have done if I were in your shoes is be like "oh I'd love to sit and chat if that's okay with your beautiful lady" *look at kim*, she nods her head ...whatever. THEN ask for a DOUBLE DANCE. Both of you two can dance for him since she was there first. That way she doesn't feel like an idiot. And also, I would try to engage her in the conversation so she doesn't feel left out.
    I would be pretty pissed if I were Kim, too. I'm talking to this guy and he asks you to sit and you completly take all his attention. Like everyone else said, you didn't really do anything wrong but this is something you can do to help avoid hurt feelings. Last thing you want is enemies cause they will take every chance to fuck you over and cut throat you.

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    Default Re: cutthroating? yeah the fuck right.

    This sounds like bullshit to me!

    I've had some similar problems - new girls breaking all the "etiquette" rules, like trying to hustle customers at the tip rail when there is a girl on stage....

    One night, I had a girl flip out on the floor because she thought that I cut in on her (I absolutely didn't - she was talking to a group of guys who were my regular and his friends, my reg bought a dance for his friend, I took him. She was talking to about 5 guys, and I politely interrupted and gave him the option to find me later) and she was literally screaming at me and them on the floor!!! They ended up buying more from me, and none from her because they were so disgusted at her behaviour...

    It sounds like you are at a pretty bad club for that kind of shit..I applaud your ability to ignore it and let it roll off your back. I would just be super careful from now on - any time that you are talking to a guy - make it CLEAR that you are with him - sitting on or near him - and if a customer asks that you join, mention the other girl and say something like "only if its ok with..name...look - now you have two beautiful girls!!".
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    Default Re: cutthroating? yeah the fuck right.

    It sounds like you should cut your losses and find another club.

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    Default Re: cutthroating? yeah the fuck right.

    You are very professional and I appreciate that. But you are so damn nice girls are going to run all over you. Kim is just the start of what you are going to go through if you don't stand up for yourself. I do not mean arguing in front of the customer. I mean being assertive and matter of fact when you are clearly right and not breaking any rules. Her sitting in that guys lap was a bitch move, but you were too meek, nice, whatever to do anything about it. On the other hand, you've already started watching more assertive girls either make or run your $ off so she knew she could get away with it.

    Got a crazy bitch that wants to get in your way, well figure out how to handle her. When chicks bother me like that I always move on to the friends at the table and do such a good job entertaining the friends while excluding the person with the girl on their lap if she that they either make her sit in a chair or constantly talk over her shoulder til she gets up cuz she feels ignored. Or that guy will buy dances for all his friends with me. Also if your dj is cool start tipping him to put girls on stage to get em outta your way. Say at the table *Kim* is so good onstage you oughta see her stage show. Gimme a couple bucks to tip the DJ and she can go up sooner. While she is outta the way plant your seeds and send a couple of his friends up there while you work your magic. Or if your r friendly with another girl get her to come over and ask a question that'll get her in the dressing room. "Isn't your locker the one by *****, i think your locker is open."

    I used to be the nice girl watching other girls walk away with money I could have made if I was more assertive. There is a difference between bitchy and assertive. I had a chick harass a guy I was sitting with so bad, asked for a dance 5 times in ten mins, while I was away from table he told her well go to the bar and get yourself a drink on my tab and enjoy your nite. This twit comes right back to the table. He then ignored her for ten minutes and she still didn't leave after zero conversation. I return to table and we resume conversation. She is sitting there staring in space. We go do dances she is still there. No conversation whatsoever. Everytime I leave she goes wanna dance? He says no. She is across table sitting alone. He finally leaned over to another table and tells a guy if I buy you a dance and give you $20 will you keep that girl away from me for a bit? College boy goes hell yeah! Some bitches are just thickheaded.
    Thank Goodness I smartened up! The old me is dead and gone.

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