This isn't something I want advice on (I'm not going back with him) but something I find rather strange. I just received a Facebook request from an ex. That in itself isn't bad, but there's more. He wants to go out with me again (he's going through a divorce and has 3 kids).
I should probably explain his story. I met him in 1989 and we had a long distance relationship. He was probably someone I never should have dated because he was weird. He was 21, still in high school and every weekend he spent in jail. We lived 5 hours from each other. He found someone near him a few months later. I didn't know this at the time because the distance. I didn't find out until I sent him money to come visit me and I found out he used the money on another girl. So we broke up, I moved on, but about 6 months later he wanted to be together again because he broke up with this girl. I rejected him and that was it for 2 years. Then in 1992 he reappeared on my doorstep asking for another chance. We spent the day together downtown and then I told him friends only. Through the years he lost my phone number but started to call relatives asking where I was. Last year he wanted to get back together, but I told him I was engaged (a lie). Now he found out I am on a break (forever, who knows?) from the one guy and he wants a chance again. I am still not interested in being with him again. Strangely, he's done well and owns a business now.
He wasn't the only guy I dated who wanted to reunite. Ot of every guy I dated (and I dated a lot) everyone single guy except two returned. I took back two briefly but that's it. One guy was (and is) a great guy and we only didn't work because of religious issues. The second one I never should have taken back. The rest I never took back (I am still friends with the one with religious reasons). At one point 5 (yes!) exes all tried to reconnect.
I'm not asking for advice since I have no intention of taking any of them back. I might consider my last guy (the one I mention often) but only if he gets over his issues. I'm just curious if this is a common thing for everyone.



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