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    Last edited by Athenathefabulous; 02-25-2011 at 04:06 AM.
    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    ^First off, I wouldn't assume his story is correct. He may just think this sounds like a more acceptable reason to be a sex offender.

    Secondly, any guy that will chat up a 15 year old (or just think they're chatting with a 15 year old) is a fuckin creeper.

    As for letting offenders in, I believe that rule depends on the state.

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    Default Re: wtf... i dont even know what to think here

    You do not become a sex offender by chatting to 15 year old girls on the Internet. He's lying about what he did.

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    yea. i often give people too much the benifit of the doubt. which is odd considering my occupation.
    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    Ugh Im sorry I do not know how to response... I dont believe his story.. Im sure here they would let one in knowing or not...

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    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Athenathefabulous View Post
    yea im kind of bothered at the idea that known sex offenders are allowed to enter a club with naked women. If i ran a strip club, i certainly would not let anyone with a license stamped 'sex offender' through the door.
    Just curious, how would your club know if a sex offender was entering the establishment? Do they card everyone?
    I don't get carded at strip clubs, maybe when I was 18 or 19 but it hasn't happened in a very long time.

    I agree with the above posters who speculated that the guy was lying. I doubt that simply chatting with a "15-year-old" would get you marked as a sex offender. Even if that was all he did (doubtful), that alone is enough to show that the guy is a creeper.
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    My club ids everyone. If someone had a DL marke sex offender they would know. Unless they were using a fake.
    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Athenathefabulous View Post
    maybe the idea that i was attracted to someone who turned out to be a bad person is also disturbing to me? my attraction to him was before i found out about the sex offender thing, but it makes me feel like a bad person if i had attraction to someone who is actually a bad person. So im guess if i was to psycho-analalyze myself i would assume that trying to see him as a decent person makes me feel better about a. my apparently imperfect creep radar and b. my sex drives bad choices in attraction. if that makes any sense.
    idk but I think you are being too hard on yourself. Sociopaths and other deviants come in all shapes and sizes and some of them are very good at presenting cover personalities. IMO there is no way that, in a casual meeting at a bar, you (or anyone) should be expected to instantly recognize that a guy has issues.

    I agree with others here that he was full of shit and probably did a lot more than just chat with a 15 year old online, but I have no doubt that his story was well rehearsed and came across as very believable. The important thing, IMHO, is that you had the sense to step back and think about it before you did anything that you would regret.

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    That's just creepy that he could be in your club, but I suppose a whole slew of disgusting assholes can come in that aren't registered sex offenders too and you'd never know. But I seriously don't think they should let them in. I think at least in Louisiana they are all stamped "sex offender." I took a deposition of a guy and he had it on his license and it freaked me out even though I was sitting in a room with him and two male attorneys.

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    If you watch that show on sex offendors, they get busted for chatting w the fake girls on line and actually planning to meet them, with condoms and such in tow. So he might not have actually fuckerd a 15 year old girl, but he had the intent. I think the show is called "To Catch a Predator"

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    He isnt telling you the whole story for sure. And even if he was...the fact that he was chatting with a 15 yr old is troubling.
    As for clubs allowing sex offenders, thats something that Ive never even thought about & it makes me uneasy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by KS_Stevia View Post
    If you watch that show on sex offendors, they get busted for chatting w the fake girls on line and actually planning to meet them, with condoms and such in tow. So he might not have actually fuckerd a 15 year old girl, but he had the intent. I think the show is called "To Catch a Predator"
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    Don't knock yourself for this hon, if sex offenders were spottable at a glance nobody would ever get molested.

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    Sometimes when u want someone to be decent and they seem decent we trick ourselves into seeing the good and miss the bad..Men play on emotions if they sense u like them they will lure u n just like females..it happens to the best of us. Its happened to me too.

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    First off, clubs should always card because people don't always look their age.

    Quote Originally Posted by KS_Stevia View Post
    If you watch that show on sex offendors, they get busted for chatting w the fake girls on line and actually planning to meet them, with condoms and such in tow. So he might not have actually fuckerd a 15 year old girl, but he had the intent. I think the show is called "To Catch a Predator"
    That's actually really true. An associate of mine is now a registered "sex offender" because he would wander around his house naked. Apparently he left his blinds open & there were kids playing in the street, so one of the parent flipped out & called the cops.

    If he thought he was talking to a 15 yr old, & continued talking to her in a sexual manner... yeah, that's bad on his part. It may have been the first time it happened, or maybe not. Everyone makes mistakes though, what matters is if he learned from it & actually repents.

    I don't think that you have any reason to feel awkward though. There are millions of crimes in the world, & millions of people committing them. If you are going to feel awkward about being friends with anyone because they committed a crime, then chances are you would have very few friends. There's probably a reason crimes out "stamped on our foreheads", he's already served his time... no point in his friend extending their judgments & punishments.
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    I agree. There are plenty of creepers out there with NO sexual offender stamp. because they havent been caught. and there are plenty of people with the stamp who probably DONT deserve it. So i wouldn't knock him because he has the stamp, I would knock him because he admitted to having, basically, sexual intent with a 15 yr old.

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    He was honest. Surely that counts for something. He gave you the freedom to judge his actions it sounds to me like he regrets it plus he obviously respects you if he told you now instead of waiting till you saw it one day later on. As much as i believe sexually chatting with an underage girl is wrong there are times when all of us have been a bit delluded and been drawn in by something immoral without thinking it through. Besides as far as we know he never acted on it, so maybe yeah he liked the fantasy of it but that is very diff to actually doing it, there's a big chance he would of bottled it when it came to it and not done anything.

    Also how old was he at the time because if he was say 20 or something it's not really that bad, 16 is the age of consent in the UK technically if a 16 year old has sex with a 15 year old he'd be a sex offender but i don't think it's really in the same way.

    I know when i was 13 and used to joke about on chatrooms there were loads of horney 18,19 year old boys saying stuff to girls my age but i doubt any of them actually thought it through.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Roxychu View Post
    He was honest. Surely that counts for something. He gave you the freedom to judge his actions it sounds to me like he regrets it plus he obviously respects you if he told you now instead of waiting till you saw it one day later on. As much as i believe sexually chatting with an underage girl is wrong there are times when all of us have been a bit delluded and been drawn in by something immoral without thinking it through. Besides as far as we know he never acted on it, so maybe yeah he liked the fantasy of it but that is very diff to actually doing it, there's a big chance he would of bottled it when it came to it and not done anything.

    Also how old was he at the time because if he was say 20 or something it's not really that bad, 16 is the age of consent in the UK technically if a 16 year old has sex with a 15 year old he'd be a sex offender but i don't think it's really in the same way.

    I know when i was 13 and used to joke about on chatrooms there were loads of horney 18,19 year old boys saying stuff to girls my age but i doubt any of them actually thought it through.
    The problem is you don't go to prison or get labeled a sex offender for chatting on the Internet. It simply does not happen.

    He had to act on it by meeting the girl in person. Obviously, he did not have sex with her because she was actually an undercover cop but he got up from his computer, got in his car, and drove somewhere to have sex with a 15 year old girl.

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    ^Amen. You don't become a sex offender by chatting-you become a sex offender by acting on it. So that means he made plans to meet a 15 year old girl, got into the car, and drove to her home to have sex with her, and was busted.

    But don't beat yourself up for not spotting that he was a creepy. Many sex offenders are sociopaths, and can be remarkably charming and convincing.

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    Yep. Yep. You could check out this book I enjoyed called The Sociopath Next Door. I understand that you must be feeling thrown though since you were just starting to consider men sexually when this creeper came along.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Athenathefabulous View Post
    and the other reason being that, as mentioned in my older post that i am regaining some attraction to men, is i did have an attraction to him. maybe the idea that i was attracted to someone who turned out to be a bad person is also disturbing to me? my attraction to him was before i found out about the sex offender thing, but it makes me feel like a bad person if i had attraction to someone who is actually a bad person. So im guess if i was to psycho-analalyze myself i would assume that trying to see him as a decent person makes me feel better about a. my apparently imperfect creep radar and b. my sex drives bad choices in attraction. if that makes any sense.

    I mean i dated a guy once who was a bad person but (as far as i know) he was not a sex offender. and also i wasnt really attracted to that guy, it was more of an insecure 19 yr old vulnerable girl situation. But i definitely felt attraction to this person before he showed me the stamp on his license.

    Its a shame. he was very physically attractive too. what a waste of good looks.

    ^^^But remember a lot of sociopaths/psychopaths and bad people throughout history were described by the people who interacted with them as good looking and charming ie: Ted Bundy. Don't beat yourself up

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    Kat, I also loved The SOciopath next door. Another great one is 'the gift of fear'. I highly recommend both, especially to women in the sex biz.

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    Wow, this would freak me out too.

    I am not sure I completely believe in sexual addictions so that was a bad excuse for me to personally believe.

    However, at least he is honest with what happened and doesn't deny it. Without being there you just cant judge what happened during that period in his life. It was the biggest mistake of his life I am sure.

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