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    Dizzy Should I give her the boot? (kinda long)

    I have this new friend and she's a great girl. She's really sweet but incredibly sheltered. She moved up here from an extremely rural area in Alabama and has never had any social connections or even friends. She's probably the shyest person I ever met. But that's okay, I'm shy too. But she is ridiculously shy.

    Well, I started talking to this girl because she lives so close to me and she's a cam model on MFC. She usually works every night and makes less than $20 in a 5 hour period. She is okay with that. She says that's the most she's ever made in her life. But she's really shy and she's not sexual at all. She told me she lost her virginity 6 months ago and she's 22 years old.

    She's bisexual but I'm pretty sure she's a lesbian since she is incredibly grossed out by penis'. I've helped her apply to all the other sites and she still only makes less than $20 a night. She's not bad looking. She has a great body and an okay face. But she doesn't apply herself. I don't think any adult job is fit for her and I'm really surprised this is whats she wants to do. But she makes no money.

    I decided to help her out a little and offered to try F/F on SM, AW and MFC with her. I wanted to do this because I live in a small town (but not as small as hers) and everyone here knows my name because I used to do porn. Well I often get threats and a lot of people hate me here. I'm very depressed because well... it's Saturday night and I don't know a single person who doesn't hate me, except for this girl. I can't find anything to do on a Saturday night. My only social contact is her and I'm usually an extrovert, so it bothers me being home all the time. She doesn't drive either and she needs to take the bus over to my house in order to work. The only way we can work together is if she shows up at my house at 8am EST, M-F and the bus picks her up at 5pm to take her home.

    I've been working with her for a week now and I thought it would be great because it gives her the chance to actually make money and gives me the chance to interact with a real person who doesn't judge me. But it's difficult to work with her because she's not a "Performer". She doesn't give it an effort and it gets awkward. She will talk on cam but it sounds like just a mumble and it's obvious she doesn't want to communicate with customers. She usually doesn't even read what people type and she just stares at me. Then when we go into private, she has no clue what to do and it just looks awkward on cam. She'll try and look sexy but it looks like her eyes are just rolling around in the back of her head and customers always ask if she's okay because she always looks like she wants to cry when on cam. She will also just randomly stop after just 30 seconds and sometimes walk away, forcing me to turn the cam off for a second to make sure she's okay. But she always tells me she's having a great time and is really turned on. But we always have to take like 10 minute breaks after each private, even the short ones because she's dizzy. But we're not doing anything rough at all, it's all just gentle play. Sometimes she'll just roll over and she'll sound like she's out of breath and she always looks like she's having such a bad time in private. But she says she's not. She won't role-play either, even just vanilla sex role-playing that involves any sort of acting. She just sits there and won't say anything. Even if I try and help her out to avoid seeming awkward, I'll ask her (in pvt) what she wants to do or what position she wants to do next and she won't say anything. She just stares at me.Then it becomes awkward.

    We've been making okay money on streamate. We didn't make 1 cent on MFC and AW we did like $20 an hour ($10 each). But Streamate, I'm making less money than I used to doing F/F shows. I used to make between $30-$50 (alone) an hour on SM and now since we have to split what we make 50/50, my share is $20-$25 an hour. I don't think its worth it for me, but we keep taking breaks. If I stop working with her then she won't make any money at all. She thinks we're making a crazy awesome amount of money. But to me, I do so much better working alone.

    Should I keep working with her? I've politely told her what she could do better and how we can work together to create a rhythm but it just doesn't work. Should I give this more time and see how it goes? Or just go back to working alone?

    PS. Sorry so long and I really don't wanna sound like a bitch cause I'm not. I just want her to open up more. She can't even say the word "dick" or anything like that. Not even off camera. She seriously says "thingy". lol. Her general personality and style reminds me of me in 6th grade. I'm slowly trying to get her to experience life and have fun. =) But now I'm worried because I'm afraid she might have a "thingy" for me because off camera, she just wants to kiss me and cuddle. But I'm really not into her like that. I don't wanna hurt her.

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    Default Re: Should I give her the boot? (kinda long)

    if i were in your position I'd personally cut my losses. She doesn't sound like she is learning and improving her performances such as in an apprentinceship situation. She isn't a hard worker and is making excuses, such as long breaks after the shortest private, to get off cam. I don't think the adult industry is for her but bless your heart for reaching out and trying as hard as you did to help her out. Some girls don't use the tools practically handed to them to suceed in this industry and she honestly sounds like one of them and she's dragging you down in the meantime...- you need to do you and what's best for you at the end of the day.

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    She needs to go. Its about the money, and she is a liability, not an asset.

    Give her the boot.... and a 4 inch stiletto to that ass.LOL
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    It was nice of you to help her so much, but it doesnt seem she is improving. Since you mentioned it is good to have a social interaction with her, why dont you try to take it out for coffee instead? She is dragging you down, she doesnt seem to enjoy it or take the advice, while you know the steps into acting on cam. I think its time to boot her, you helped her a lot, you gave her advice and your time, but she seems not to take it seriously. I hope she finds something else though.. camming doesnt seem to cut it for her.

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    Default Re: Should I give her the boot? (kinda long)

    Quote Originally Posted by KushKandi View Post
    Then when we go into private, she has no clue what to do and it just looks awkward on cam. She'll try and look sexy but it looks like her eyes are just rolling around in the back of her head and customers always ask if she's okay because she always looks like she wants to cry when on cam. She will also just randomly stop after just 30 seconds and sometimes walk away, forcing me to turn the cam off for a second to make sure she's okay.
    ^ This is a prime example why it's best to stop doing cam with her.

    I think you should just tell her that you prefer to not do webcam with her anymore and be honest let her know that you know she is not completely comfortable and also tell her about customers can see it. Customers also may write negative reviews based on seeing her looking discomfort and it's not fair for both.

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    Default Re: Should I give her the boot? (kinda long)

    Yeah and eventually she will make YOU look bad. You have a reputation to uphold.

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    Default Re: Should I give her the boot? (kinda long)

    It was very nice of you to go out of your way to help her out. You really went above and beyond for her; but at the end of the day you have money to make, and she is holding you back from reaching your potential. Also, if she is all "kissy-kissy" with you off camera she might be just using the F/F cam shows as a way to get closer to you...even though she doesn't interact with you on cam. She might see your "interest" in her on cam as a mutual feeling and is taking it as a sign to make a move on you to something more than "just friends". Anywho...good luck, girlie. Do not beat yourself up, instead give yourself a pat on the back...you did a good deed.
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    Default Re: Should I give her the boot? (kinda long)

    Wow, someone who can't even say the word "dick" has no business being in the adult industry. I'm pretty shy too, but learning to act sexy & play the part on webcam is super easy. It almost sounds to me like she may have some hang-ups about sex... if she's walking away during a private and looks like she's gonna cry, obviously something is seriously wrong. Maybe she was molested in the past (or something equally traumatic) and that's why she acts so weird.

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    Default Re: Should I give her the boot? (kinda long)

    ^^Exactly. Sounds like she has some major sexual issues and doesn't belong in the adut industry period. I agree with everyone else's advice so far, be her friend, but don't work wit her. Maybe try and suggest something else she could do for money if you have any ideas? It's clear that camming is not at all for her.

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