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    So, this has been a problem for years, but since life has gotten rough lately, it's ten time worse...Please save judgments...I KNOW something is wrong with me, but I don't know what to do to make it stop.

    When things don't go smoothly, or if I get frustrated, I lose my mind and go into these rages. God help anyone who may be near me-I scream, I yell, I throw things.

    I haven't hurt anyone yet, but I I'm afraid it could happen. Tonight I freaked out over something stupid, and in the middle of my tantrum, I threw my chair across the room, and it just missed my poor little parakeets' cage.

    Even at the time, I know it's stupid to freak out, but I get this insane adrenaline and I can't stop until I destroy something. I can't just punch a pillow or a punching bag, I HAVE to break something or make it shatter for me to go get any relief. If there's nothing near me I can break, I just claw at myself.

    After I have completely destroyed my apartment, I usually just curl in a ball and cry for an hour, then am very calm, and begin to clean up the diaster I've made. As I'm cleaning, what set me off will reoccur to me, and I'll get the same feeling of frustration and rage, but milder.

    What the fuck is wrong with me, and where do I even start to get better?

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    Default Re: Anger issues?

    I knew a girl in high school who struggled with uncontrollable rage. It's an odd name but they actually call it "intermittent explosive disorder".
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intermi...osive_disorder

    She began seeing a therapist (perhaps a behavioral psychiatrist) and got better.

    If you don't know where to start, just go see your family doctor or even a walk-in type place (aka: doc-in-the-box). They will refer you to the right kind of specialist.

    If you have health insurance, you could look online at their list of in-network providers for a behavioral psychiatrist.
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    Definitely agree, your primary Doctor will be able to point you in the right direction, seeing a Psychiatrist would be best, they will be able to prescribe you the needed medication if that is indeed what you need, and also if you need someone to talk to will more than likely be able to refer you to the right Psychologist.

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    That gives me hope...when I have looked for help, they've told me things like "When you're in a rage, drink herbal tea"

    I mean really? I want to break my table, I don't think herbal tea is going to fix that.

    It's good to know there may be a medicine I can take which can curb my rage

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    Ever try going for a run instead of breaking things? That always helps me cool down a bit.

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    Yeah, working out or anything like that does not help at all. I quite literally HAVE to destroy something for me to get any relief at all

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    1. It's amazing that you want to actively do something about your problem.

    2. I would reccomend speaking to your doctor and then a psychiatrist.

    3. You might be directed to something called cognitive behavioral therapy, which can be very helpful if you would rather try to monitor and control your own thoughts instead of trying a medication.

    4. Good luck =].

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    see a psychiatrist,medication will help, at least for me anyway. It's a positive sign that you are recognizing the problem and wants to change it, but it's somehow beyond your control. A doctor or talking to a psychologist may be helpful. personally talking to a psychologist didn't help me much, it just made me feel uncomfortable telling some random person things I don't even share with my family. sometime you have a chemical imbalance and have to take medication, some people just need talk theraphy,the optimal result could be achieve using both. good luck and keep us updated, it'll be very helpful to those who are experiencing the same thing but are reluctant to post it on here. personally dealing with these silly men, is making me angrier and angrier everyday. *hugs* everything will work out in the end

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    I would follow every ones advice but you might want to get a punching bag the, ones you can stitch back up.. I have one and believe me it takes alot of rage to kill one of those..

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    Punching bags don't work. I have one for workouts, and during one of my rages I forced myself to take it out on the punching bag...I ended up getting so annoyed I ripped it out of the ceiling.

    If something doesn't break, I'm not satisfied.

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    Catharsis - as with a punching bag - does NOT work with anger. It just builds the feeling.

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    ^Thank you, it's hard explaining that to people. Which was my problem with therapy before...every therapist kept telling me to do "calming things", like going for a walk, drinking tea, etc. Which did not work at all, and if anything, made it worse.

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    I had to deal with something like this when I was younger. This is no fix but it's a quick tip. My roommate does it now to deal with his stuff. We get plates from a local thrift and when we need to, we break them. Saves you from destroying your stuff. Again I know this isn't a fix, this is just an outlet. Like you said, you want to break something, so break something.
    I also used a rubber band on my wrist but that was just to curb my minor feelings threw the say that would usually lead to big bursts at night. When I knew I was getting irritated over something stupid, I'd pop myself. I actually saw a big improvement with this stupid little trick. I started having a better attitude, like I was training my brain not to be that way. And I think when I did it with more intense emotions the association with pain made the emotions real when I needed them to be, instead of just trying to cover them up.
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    Oh goodness, this was me for so long! I have THRASHED my apartment. It'd be one giant panic-attack-freak-out-violent-mess.

    Something that helped me (oddly) would be to put pressure on my abdomen. I KNOW that sounds utterly ridiculous, but it has a calming physical effect. When I had roommates (usually friends who I could tell about it), I'd let them know beforehand to place an open palm where my rib cage starts to taper off and apply pressure. When I was alone, I'd lay on a pillow. Obviously, human touch worked a whole lot better. So much of our energy, emotional and physical, stems from our center. Calmly stimulating it means calming that energy, even a bit.

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    Oh goodness, this was me for so long! I have THRASHED my apartment. It'd be one giant panic-attack-freak-out-violent-mess.

    Something that helped me (oddly) would be to put pressure on my abdomen. I KNOW that sounds utterly ridiculous, but it has a calming physical effect. When I had roommates (usually friends who I could tell about it), I'd let them know beforehand to place an open palm where my rib cage starts to taper off and apply pressure. When I was alone, I'd lay on a pillow. Obviously, human touch worked a whole lot better. So much of our energy, emotional and physical, stems from our center. Calmly stimulating it means calming that energy, even a bit.

    .... On a side note, my artschoolfreak is showing.

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    A really tight hug helped me even while i'm kicking and screaming at that person, but after awhile I calmed down. maybe straitjacket would have been better,lol. crying helps and my pets are the best therapists in the world! i wuv my furry children.

    i've been there, done almost all of the stuff listed. I still have relapses every now and then and go around the house like a raging b*tch destroying expensive as* stuff. I hated myself so much for being that way. but i'm much better now then before, so I know that you all will be better too.

    i guess we just have to let it all out/acting out phase b/c of something traumatic that happened. but it will get better I promise. It took me a few years to get to where I am now. if you are like me then, you will continue to break things and throw tantrums and might even lose friends/bf along the way before you get better. it's a time to find out who your real friends are, and just make sure you put all your expensive things away after each use just in case your rage kicks in. and don't throw anything red like spaghetti and sht on the walls b/c its a biatch to clean. and thin glasses like champagne glasses, it's almost impossible to locate all of the broken glass bits.

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