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    Default Bouncer friending me on FB?

    I really don't get it.

    For one, I work at a different club than he does.
    Two, he got "laid off" from said club.

    I think it's weird and kind of desperate, actually. It's like, "Hey, I've seen you naked, but I can pretend I haven't so I can play the sensitive guy friend role! "

    He comes into my current club and hangs out because he knows some dancers there.

    And when he sees me, he acts like we're best friends and smothers me in an awkward, one-sided best friend hug.

    Maybe I'm just being mellow-dramatic, but I feel violated when he (or customers! weird!!) tries to friend me on facebook. We have like 2 mutual friends who happen to be dancers. I prefer to keep my identity separate from people at work whom I haven't decided to entrust with my friendship.

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    Default Re: Bouncer friending me on FB?

    That's kinda weird. Some people are just premature friend adders and will add anyone they have ever spoken to. Does he have a huge friend list? If he spends money on you, I might be inclined to put him on limited profile (meaning, you're friends, but he can't see/post on your wall or anything, so it's no different from someone who isn't your friend), but you say he "hangs out" so I doubt that's the case. Just leave the request sitting there or hit ignore if you're not comfortable being friends with him. I don't think most people would bring up an ignored/rejected friend request in person, how awkward.

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    Default Re: Bouncer friending me on FB?

    Quote Originally Posted by shanna dior View Post
    Some people are just premature friend adders and will add anyone they have ever spoken to. Does he have a huge friend list? .

    haha, ya. One of those.
    ____ has 147930 friends
    I only have like 90 friends or something

    anywho
    Id just decline his request and ignore him.

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    Default Re: Bouncer friending me on FB?

    I just leave those requests in "pending" status (I neither accept nor reject), so if they look at my profile, it will just say "friend request pending". That's how I avoid the conflict or drama of failing to add someone I have no interest with having on my friends list.

    If or when they ask me about it, I just say, "really? i have so many pending requests, i just haven't gotten around to checking them".

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    Default Re: Bouncer friending me on FB?

    The DJ at a club I went to for amateur night did the same thing to me. I added him because I really didn't care. Now he sent me his phone number and has asked for mine because "he'd love to chat with me out of work sometime" ugh! He's ugly and older and I can't believe that's what he wanted (kind of).
    I had told him I didn't have BF when he asked 'cause that's what you do at a SC...not thinking that he was asking because he was hoping to date me. Ick. I just haven't written him back. I just got hired at a different club and want to delete him but what if I wanna stop by that SC sometime again in the future?? that would be awkward. Still on the fence.

    Good luck girl.

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