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    I don't really have anywhere else to vent this. I can't talk to anyone around me about what I'm feeling or what's going through my head. They won't understand or will just say shitty things to me.

    I feel so depressed and unmotivated. I own a business and I don't even wanna work. I finished P90x last Dec. and was gonna do it again and I don't even wanna work out. I don't wanna answser the phone when anyone calls. I just wanna sit in my bed and stare at the wall.

    I was so motivated last Dec. I did all these things and as sad as it sounds, my whole motivation was so that when my ex saw me again, I was gonna make him feel so bad and maybe even make him want to be with me again. I had this fire lie under my ass like "I'm gonna show you motherfucka!"

    Well, I ended up seeing him again on New Year's Eve. New Year's was the night we met and I thought it was so romantic to see him again on that day. We had sex, and then he never spoke to me and ignored all my texts and calls. I got totally got tooted and booted. Pumped and dumped. I am so depressed.

    I guess it's my fault for building this up in my mind about how it was gonna be the day I saw him again.

    He called me just last weekend at 3am begging me to come over. I told him no and to fuck off for what he did to me at New Years. He said he was sorry and that he really loves and misses me and for me to forgive him. I don't believe him. In fact I look back on the whole relationship and realized how stupid I was to believe anything he said and how stupid I was to put him on a pedestal like this.

    I changed my phone number. I don't want him to do this to me ever again. But then secretly in my mind, I still wish he would call me and say he's sorry and he loves me. I know it won't happen, so the number has been changed and I'm just ...lost.

    I can never trust him again.

    And now I am just so depressed and don't wanna do anything anymore. I don't have anyone to talk to and just don't care about anything right now.

    Ok long rant over. I had to say this somewhere. Somehow I have to pull myself together and get my mojo back.

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    fuck your ex. changing your number was a good decision. you are pretty, sweet, and extremely fun-- you deserve better and you certainly can do better. at least now you know it is really over. and now when a guy who is worth your time comes along, you wont be attached to this ex.

    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    I like your hair Athena. Our hair almost looks exactly alike now.

    I feel like going out and getting trashed.

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    Why not toy with the bastard? - Like, lead him on and get him to buy you gifts, flowers, etc., but don't sleep with him. - Just keep him around (leading him on, but without giving him any) until a new guys comes into your life.
    Women are meant to be loved, not to be understood.
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    I like your thinking Jack. Problem is, he only calls at 3 am. He never sees me at normal times.

    It's hard to lead someone on who is only interested in fucking. Otherwise, I would love to get revenge on him like that. And now that my number is changed, I can't really contact him.

    The idea sounds good, but don't think I can carry it out.

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    I hate D bags like that..There are so many guys I meet that just want one thing and then to take off. Its happened to me, and Ive used guys too who I didnt care for. Ive been the asshole too. It isnt fair when one person truly cares and the other just takes advantage. U were his booty call and he is worthless. I have made many past mistakes. Now the way I look at things is ---Ok, it happened-- now I am going to try to forget it and act like it never happened n a small way and keep moving forward. All the while knowing Im only getting stronger from all the bs and Im on my way to something and someone better and who is deserving.

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    It may sound a little delusional, but if u focus on every mistake u will be utterly and totally miserable and unable to find happiness at all. Life wouldnt be worth living if we didnt try to move forward as we r able to do so. As stupid as it may sound if u believe in something better no matter what it may be ur life def begins to improve. Not saying it can turn around completely and u can get whatever u want but changing ur mindset even a little bit can alter ur life. I did it myself over the past two years when I had some HUGE HUGE things go wrong.

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    I'd like to recommend a book: I Need Your Love...is that True? by Byron Katie.

    I think you might find it helpful. Also, reading is a great way to distract yourself from your sad or fearful thoughts, which will help you to feel better.

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    Quote Originally Posted by shift_6x View Post
    I hate D bags like that..There are so many guys I meet that just want one thing and then to take off. Its happened to me, and Ive used guys too who I didnt care for. Ive been the asshole too. It isnt fair when one person truly cares and the other just takes advantage. U were his booty call and he is worthless. I have made many past mistakes. Now the way I look at things is ---Ok, it happened-- now I am going to try to forget it and act like it never happened n a small way and keep moving forward. All the while knowing Im only getting stronger from all the bs and Im on my way to something and someone better and who is deserving.
    I agree 100% with this. It's really the most awful feeling in the world when you think you are making love with someone and they just think it's sex (and yes there is a difference). I've gotten my heart broken so bad by these types of guys and I often wonder if this is why I am still single. On the other hand I've done it myself to guys who really loved me but to me they were just booty calls.

    Honestly, it's because of this that I made the vow to abstain from sex until I know they will stay around. op, you are far better than he is and you'll get better.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lilmisssunshine View Post
    I like your thinking Jack. Problem is, he only calls at 3 am. He never sees me at normal times.

    It's hard to lead someone on who is only interested in fucking. Otherwise, I would love to get revenge on him like that. And now that my number is changed, I can't really contact him.

    The idea sounds good, but don't think I can carry it out.
    You should call him with your new number and keep on making plans and not coming through when he calls you at 3am for the booty call. Say----"I'm on my way-can I pick you up anything?" Then no show.. Keep on doing it until you get your revenge. LOL

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    I would just get a cheap prepaid phone for it.. No need to waste more time and money changing the number again.

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    clearly you are being used for sex!

    stop giving it to him...and find some self esteem.
    He is NOT your man to be sitting around acting like he is of any importance...

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    I'm proud of you for realizing it for what it was and changing your number. Keep doing the px 90 for yourself.
    Start thinking about the possiblities. Soon you will have a great new guy- and hopefully you will run into your ex while you're with him!!

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    Forget all the ridiculous revenge plots, the best thing for YOU is to forget this guy ever existed.

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    You already know he isn't treating you well And you are smart enough to not put up with it. You had a little blip, but you are doing the right things. If he contacts you , you can always say " I'm not interested in casual intimacy so I'm focusing on finding someone who will treat me well and offer me a relationship " .... But you don't even need to really.

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    Definitely just break all contact and forget about him- it will be hard at first but it works out eventually and you'll wonder what you were ever doing in the first place- you seem to be realising this already.

    Boys are confusing- my first boyfriend broke up with me after a year, then HE was the one wanting to spend time together again when I had started to accept it. Naturally I took the chance to spend time with him again, but sleeping together made it a messy and drawn-out end. He really seemed so upset that it didn't work out, but was content to drag me through the obvious emotional pain I was in by continuing to see me (saying he loved me and wished I had felt the same etcetc). I should have known better, but still it was very confusing! After a while away from him the only way I could understand it was that he wanted to continuing sleeping with me without the 'strings' of the (failing) relationship.

    And I wish I'd just cut all contact after he first dumped me. I think it's the only way to get over someone.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Trem View Post
    Forget all the ridiculous revenge plots, the best thing for YOU is to forget this guy ever existed.
    This ^^^^

    Move on, you will feel better once you do. Go cold turkey, things will change with time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jack0177057 View Post
    Why not toy with the bastard? - Like, lead him on and get him to buy you gifts, flowers, etc., but don't sleep with him. - Just keep him around (leading him on, but without giving him any) until a new guys comes into your life.
    I like Jack's style. Since he calls in middle of the nite, txt him earlier in the day to bring you something you like when he comes by to see you. Txt him dirty txt all day to get him going. Light some candles and fix him a drink. When he gets there lead him to your couch and then tell him everything you've told us about how he makes you feel. He does not need to speak.Then make him leave. Even the biggest dbag in the world isn't gonna call after he knows how bad he's really hurting you. Not because he cares but because he can get guilt free easier sex from someone else. He will leave you alone after that. Or the reverse will happen, and he'll do that need you in my life shit which is bull and you know it too. Let it out babe. On him. I don't know if you are strong enough to do it, but it will set you free if you do. If you think you may falter have a friend there to comfort you before and after he gets there and keep her hidden.
    Thank Goodness I smartened up! The old me is dead and gone.

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    I don't really believe in revenge. I think that people get what is coming to them without you having to help it along. Also if he is a liar/con artist/dbag/whatever, he will probably end up miserable and alone. I'm going through something similar right now, but it helps me to know that I have been the better person throughout all of it and have handled it with as much grace as possible.


    I completely understand changing your number and everything but still wishing that he would contact you. I go through this, too. The guy in question for me mentally terrorizes me...I was doing so great before he came back into my life and now I'm not sure what to do with him. Part of me knows to stay away and that he will never be the guy I want him to be - I'm glad that you realize this too and are taking steps in the right direction to move away from him. You don't need more heartache and hurt, or any negative energy. It may be one of the hardest things you have to do, but know your self worth and don't ever take him back unless he will really fight for you (which just like in my case, probably won't happen).

    Change is hard, but you're doing the right thing by recognizing what kind of person he is and not letting yourself get sucked back in. Strippers are tough cookies. You will be just fine and forget all about him once you find someone that actually deserves to be with you.

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    Ugh, most of the times ex's are ex's for a reason.
    Ive been in your shoes. Saw an ex again(this was a long time ago) but anyhow we had been together 5 yrs and only been broken up about 6 months and he contacted me and I knew he had a new gf and i saw him anyway and I built up this fantastic reunion in my mind and basically, the same thing happened as it did to you.
    I went into a depression for about a month(barely got out of bed, ate chinese food daily, gained 20 pounds). Ugh what a mess.

    Just know others have been thru this and this too shall pass...
    U will feel better

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    It will take time to get past the emotionals. At best, I think what works is think of you, when you were working hard, when you were earning money, when you were happy on your own. Try to get that feeling of rush and force yourself into a mindset of setting up goals and then achieving them. Being busy, having no time on your hands is the best med to get over situations such as this. The busier you are.. the less time you will be thinking of him, less time you will be be staring at that wall.

    I would suggest to break all contact with him. ALL 100%, whatever you have, e-mails, phone numbers, social networks etc.. remove, delete and block. Move on, learn to be happy, when not working, take a day off pamper yourself, go out, look at the postive things in life. Not the path that he will be dragging you down under the emotional distress. You know in your mind he is using you, and it's good you realized this. Get back on your feet, I usually tend to think "Im going to do A, B, C in order to be better than him and Im going to be happier unlike him" usually this works for me, and through out the period of time, doing A,b,c gets your mind off that your in a new life moving forward. GL

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    Wells it's been like a month and a half and I am starting to do better. Actually doing things and getting out again. I tried to come in here and post once, but just couldn't do it. Thanks you guys.

    I just wish today wasn't Valentine's Day

    I was fine until I saw all these guys at the store buying chocolates, balloons, and teddy bears. Makes me sick.

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    treat YOURSELF today! you deserve it!

    xoxo

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