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    I recently broke up with this semi famous rapper who owes me $600. I gave him the money (like a fool, I know, I KNOWWW) because he said he was going to "flip" it (meaning, buy drugs, sell them for a profit, and give the money back to me). I've asked him to repay me but talking to him is like talking to a narcissist wall. He's definitely a con artist and he's good at placing the blame and focus on anything but himself. He tells me that $600 is chump change, then when I say "You're right, it's change. So why is it such a hassle for you to give it back to me?" he'll reply something along the lines of "I don't have it right now" or "You made a decision to give me the money but you didn't stick around long enough for me to make a profit off of it" or "I was trying to "build" something with you". He's told me that he wanted the money because he's better at managing money than I am and that he has better uses for it then having it sit on my bedroom floor waiting to go to the bank (he told me that AFTER he had the money of course). He goes back and forth a lot and he contradicts himself all the time and he comes up with an excuse for everything. I've realized that I'll never see that money again, which is fine, but I feel disrespected and used and I want some 'justice'. I've tried being civil with him but there's no getting through to someone like him. Since he's semi famous, he has a following and I think making a video for Worldstarhiphop.com would out him as the con artist he is and make people see him differently. Also, on twitter he talks about what a great man he is and how rich he is, and in reality, his whole life is a lie. It really bothers me that he puts up that front and some people actually believe it and here I am knowing the real miserable sorry excuse for a human that he is. He should just be honest, either with me or with his fans. If he would just tell me "Hey, I needed that money at the time to pay rent and sorry, I lied about what I was going to use it for", that at least I could respect and I would leave him alone and just chalk the $600 up as a charity donation but for him to be such a dick and say things like "that's chump change", it just pisses me off. It doesn't make any sense. Am I wrong for wanting to expose him? If nothing else, he will be embarrassed and I can save the next poor girl some heart ache and money.


    Give me some advice ladies, I know giving him the money was stupid and trust me I've learned my lesson. He talked a real good game and I thought he would follow through with getting the money back to me. In retrospect, I should have realized he was beneath me when I saw him at the club not spending any money. And the worst part is that I actually liked the idiot, we had a lot of fun together. But hell hath no fury like a woman scorned and damn't, I'm scorned. I want him to regret the day he met me.

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    Ughhhhhhh how dick of him.

    I hate 'men' that use women for $ to "pay rent" or anything.

    Soooooo digsgust-o!


    Here is the deal.... he used you. And you're a smart, savvy lady...... However, you have to accept that the money is long gone, and attempting to retrieve it from him is more effort than the cash worth. Don't get tangled in his hot mess.

    If you are feeling scorned.... read on...
    If you wanna flip the script on him, consider his fame--- is he famous enough to sell your story & salacious relationship details to a tabloid or popular online blog like bossip.com or therapup.net? You may make a couple of dollars from a well marketed tale of his broke-assery. Even if you don't... it could feel pretty damn sweet to stick-it-to-him. He's too broke to pursue any legal action (OBVIOUSLY!). So there shouldn't be a problem in terms of slander/libel. Do you have any fugly looking photos of him? That would make for great online tabloid stuffz. LOL!



    That being said... You can meditate, take a spa day, and treat yourself. Revel in the fact that you ditched a LOSER and it only cost you $600. That is a tiny price to pay....

    Maybe a few months down the line you will be very satisfied in knowing you worked through a tough situation and took the high road. Karma is a bitch and he will get his regardless of what you do. You're a sassy, strong woman and getting your hands dirty, sinking to a level that is beneath you, and mucking up your own spiritual well-being may not be the wisest route to take.

    I know you can get through this with the support of your friends, making a voodoo doll, playing darts with a pic of his face as the dart board, drawing/painting/journaling/singing angry karaoke songs, etc.


    F him. You're a billion times better off.

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    Giiirl. You are not I repeat NOT getting that money back. I dont lnow if you should go as far as to expose him but he is very wrong. Just answer this, eould you want to ruin he's carrer is he a bad enough person gor thst to happen? Because you dont want to come off as a kat stacks. I delt with the same thing with my man. It hurts he lies what je needs money for but its pride

    Again is he a bad enough person to be expised ie ripping off a lot of ppl? Cuz this os your image and job at risk. If he is loved you will be seen as a hater/ groupie

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    I like the way Sophia_Starina thinks...but then I'm malicious when people try to screw me over. I agree with what she said. The money is gone. There's no use trying to get it back. I've been in the same boat. A grand+ was penny pinched away from me over time and I was too young and dumb (and "in love") to see what this loser was doing. I've made peace with it and I'm happy to say that I don't at all miss the grand and that my asshole ex is still a worthless human being and always will be. That should be your revenge too. While he can only dream of being a baller, you're living it, eh?

    Then there's always selling an expose piece. Tee-hee. I really like that idea.

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    Well he isn't famous enough that anybody would want to BUY my story. I don't have any embarrassing pics of him, but I've got tons of good info about him that he would hate to have put out there. Not to mention, I have a million texts from him all showing how incredibly lame he is. My idea is to make a video, and make it funny, so that he becomes a joke. The video would go up on WorldStar/bossip/mediatakeout/youtube where he has a bunch of videos already and then he gets exposed and I can sleep easy at night. I've got nothing to lose, and he's got everything to lose. I don't think it's a bad idea, it may be a little immature, but I tried going the civil route and it got me no where.

    Plus, he can't pursue legal action and sue me for slander or anything if I'm not lieing. Everything that I say will be true. He's such a character that I don't need to make up anything juicy, he's given me all the ammo I need and then some.

    I could take the high road and just chalk this up as a learning experience, but then HE doesn't learn anything, and I want to teach that bastard a lesson.

    Sorry for the rant lol

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    Double post

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    Quote Originally Posted by Queenzshorty View Post
    Giiirl. You are not I repeat NOT getting that money back. I dont lnow if you should go as far as to expose him but he is very wrong. Just answer this, eould you want to ruin he's carrer is he a bad enough person gor thst to happen? Because you dont want to come off as a kat stacks. I delt with the same thing with my man. It hurts he lies what je needs money for but its pride

    Again is he a bad enough person to be expised ie ripping off a lot of ppl? Cuz this os your image and job at risk. If he is loved you will be seen as a hater/ groupie
    I could definitely ruin his career. His career is lackluster as it is. He was kinda big a few years ago and now he's getting a buzz again, but him being exposed as a bum, lieing about his whole entire life on twitter, and having his salad tossed in a threesome recently (he told me, I don't know why, but he told me) would definitely knock him down a few notches on the gangster rapper scale.

    He isn't that loved that people would attack me persay. Sure there would be some nay sayers but I've got proof for days. And my job as a stripper would probably be improved by me putting out a video, i would gain some cyber notoriety which would probably translate into more stage money at the club.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Spinnerette View Post
    I like the way Sophia_Starina thinks...but then I'm malicious when people try to screw me over. I agree with what she said. The money is gone. There's no use trying to get it back. I've been in the same boat. A grand+ was penny pinched away from me over time and I was too young and dumb (and "in love") to see what this loser was doing. I've made peace with it and I'm happy to say that I don't at all miss the grand and that my asshole ex is still a worthless human being and always will be. That should be your revenge too. While he can only dream of being a baller, you're living it, eh?

    Then there's always selling an expose piece. Tee-hee. I really like that idea.

    I know my ex is and always will be a worthless sorry excuse for a man, but that's not enough, I want EVERYBODY to know. That would make me feel better. I know that sounds terrible, but he deserves it.

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    ^^get him then. Men gotta learn

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    Quote Originally Posted by Queenzshorty View Post
    ^^get him then. Men gotta learn
    I like the way you think. lol

    That inspired me. I'll probably make the video on Sunday.

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    yeah that money is long gone and the relationship? ha, i will be single forever. i'm not wasting my money, energy, and time on anyone but me from now on. That's how I was before i met his dumbass but I was blinded by the dimples. *holds head in shame*

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    Another idea.... kickboxing class.....

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    in the entertainment business-ANY press (negative or positive) is good press.

    Don't feed his bullshit.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Queenzshorty View Post
    ^^get him then. Men gotta learn
    And women gotta learn to stay away from rappers who treat women like shit and steal their money while talking a big game. You can't just blame the fucking men when women buy into the bullshit.

    I'm ordinarily against revenge, but I say go for it. Embarrass the hell out of this sack of shit. Please post a link to it when you are done.

    OTOH maybe Headturner is correct. Rappers sing about abusing 'bitches' all the time, and it doesn't seem to be hurting them at all, far from it.

    Whatever you do, in future try to stay the fuck away from rappers, and any other men who treat women like dogs.
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    Sophia, it's weird how similar we think. The first thing I did was go onto dontdatehimgirl.com and I've kickboxed for about 4 years.

    But anywhooo, I've decided to not make the video. I thought it was a good idea at the time but I just don't have it in me. Even though he's a piece of shit, I can't sink down near his level and make some video airing out his dirty laundry, lord knows he deserves it and eventually he will get it, just not from me.


    Djoser, him being a rapper has little to do with it. An asshole is an asshole, no matter what he does for a living. I'm not going to caste off all rappers cause I dealt with one that just so happened to be a conartist. For the time being, I am however going to caste off all men, but at least I'm avoiding an entire gender equally, not based off career choices or race or anything else that borders on politically incorrect. ")

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    Quote Originally Posted by Djoser View Post
    And women gotta learn to stay away from rappers who treat women like shit and steal their money while talking a big game. You can't just blame the fucking men when women buy into the bullshit.

    I'm ordinarily against revenge, but I say go for it. Embarrass the hell out of this sack of shit. Please post a link to it when you are done.

    OTOH maybe Headturner is correct. Rappers sing about abusing 'bitches' all the time, and it doesn't seem to be hurting them at all, far from it.

    Whatever you do, in future try to stay the fuck away from rappers, and any other men who treat women like dogs.

    Umm not all rappers are bad and not all ureat woman like dogs. Was joking about men have to learn and women wouldn't have to gove up on love decide whose fake and real if guys didnt give out bullshit. So yes get him and in the hiphop industry certain things will distroy your career.

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    Well, I think you should do it..

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    Quote Originally Posted by LexyNYC View Post
    Djoser, him being a rapper has little to do with it. An asshole is an asshole, no matter what he does for a living. I'm not going to caste off all rappers cause I dealt with one that just so happened to be a conartist.
    Yeah.... when I read Djosers post I was like

    I agree with you Lexy 100%

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    You gave money to a criminal, lesson learned. Revenge? seriously? walk away before you make more mistakes.

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    I clearly wrote in my original post "give me some advice LADIES", not men. If I wanted some rude ass man's opinion, I would have wrote "give me some advice rude ass men that have no business being on this website anyway and clearly don't understand how a woman feels. Please give me advice on a situation that you can't understand and have no sympathy for, I don't get enough of you morons at the club, please respond to my posts online."

    What should I walk away from Trem? The relationship? Because I already did that which you would have known had you read the post. The situation with him? Because I already did that as well had you read a few posts down. And yes, seriously revenge, revenge for him using me financially and emotionally.

    I mean wtf, why write something abrasive and negative that adds nothing to the discussion that was already finished?

    I fucking hate men. You didn't even take any money from me and I hate you.

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    I'm sure with hard work and dedication i will somehow find a way to live with that.
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    Quote Originally Posted by LexyNYC View Post
    I fucking hate men. You didn't even take any money from me and I hate you.
    Too bad you hate all men because a 'semi-famous rapper' talked you into giving him 600$.

    I don't hate you, I feel sorry for you. Maybe someday you will learn what kind of man to trust.

    Quote Originally Posted by LexyNYC View Post
    I clearly wrote in my original post "give me some advice LADIES", not men.
    You should have posted it in Ladies Only, if you didn't want any input from men.

    Quote Originally Posted by LexyNYC View Post
    "give me some advice rude ass men that have no business being on this website anyway and clearly don't understand how a woman feels. Please give me advice on a situation that you can't understand and have no sympathy for..."
    Over the past eleven years, working in the clubs, I have probably seen a couple hundred dancers at least, giving their hard earned money to men who either spent it on drugs or other women. I can understand it, sort of. Some women will fall for the most amazing lines of bullshit ever. Then blame men for being the assholes, of course.

    Quote Originally Posted by LexyNYC View Post
    I mean wtf, why write something abrasive and negative that adds nothing to the discussion that was already finished?
    There was nothing abrasive or negative about what Trem wrote. You posted this 'semi-famous rapper' used your money to buy drugs and sell them. That is criminal activity. He advised you to avoid revenge, which is an abrasive and negative activity.


    Quote Originally Posted by Queenzshorty View Post
    Umm not all rappers are bad and not all ureat woman like dogs. Was joking about men have to learn and women wouldn't have to gove up on love decide whose fake and real if guys didnt give out bullshit. So yes get him and in the hiphop industry certain things will distroy your career.
    By all means, feel free to seek out other 'semi-famous rappers', and give them your money to 'invest'.
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    Im just dying to know who it is..... And ithink u were right not to put him on blast. Even if you were telling the truth, because of your profession it could have easily been spun as another groupie/thirsty broad/ho that is just salty for whatever reason. U did the right thing. Live and learn.

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