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    While this likely has very little to do with the far more complex aspects in the title, I had another curious thought since I got such helpful feedback in my last thread.

    On a less-serious note, what are your thoughts about the audience's positions, actions when you're up on stage? More specifically, while it's clear that most people will be watching who's dancing on stage at the time, and I'm assuming it's easier to not notice people watching further back, how different is it when a client (or clients) stand or sit right in front of the stage for a better look? Just wondering how you all change, if at all, your performances when someone's paying that close attention though I'm guessing it's an organic experience rather than any set dance routine.

    Also, how weird/common is it for clients to keep their eyes on your face or eyes rather than the more tantalizing bits?

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    Don't care, doesn't matter. a good performer knows how to avoid getting caught in the gaze and to make each gazer feel like she is looking back at him and only him

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    it's most common for customers to not be looking at all, lol. but if they are, their eyes usually go back and forth from the eyes to the naughty bits to other parts of the body over and over again. you'll rarely come across a custy who just looks at one. if he does, he's probably either insane or blitzed out of his mind.

    it's kind of like the different types of eye contact in body language. only in normal human contact, you're dealing with dressed people and aren't inclined to look downward unless you're genuinely attracted to them.

    i'd really rather talk about the other meaning of the thread's title. far more interesting than strip club stuff. strip clubs are supposedly about "escaping" the real world, so what goes on in the real world is very pertinent to discussions about strip clubs.
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    When sitting on rail, I always used to make and keep eye contact, for as long as their eyes are in view. I will check out the "rest" when her face isn't in view, but I like a pretty face and Ive seen plenty of the other bits, they're not quite as varied as the face.

    Then a dancer told me laughingly that a lot of the girls got nervous when I was on rail 'cuz I locked eyes so much, even when they were obviously meaning to draw attention to other "bits". Since then I let my eyes wander more, even though that's not my preference, lol.

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    Useful stuff, and it certainly helped with my curiosity on the topic.

    I really just thought it was a 'witty' title to use, though I suppose it would also apply to the topic of stripping in a matter of speaking. Just for those who are unfamiliar with the concept of the 'male gaze', it's used in feminist theory and art to explain the perspective of how men look at women, objectifying or desiring them. Feminine identity and male perspectives is obviously a really involved and potentially heated topic of course, so I certainly can't comment too much here.

    Though to address the thought early, I undoubtedly like looking at women both clothed and unclothed, but I try not to make any assumptions or guesswork. My thoughts have always been that a dancer on stage who knows what she's doing and enjoys the work is a beautiful scene to watch, more to titillate the audiences and revel in the expression of her feminine qualities (bared skin, breasts) which would otherwise be taboo to be exposed anywhere else.

    Simply my thoughts summed up best as I can, and I'm welcome to any other opinions/discussions on this.

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    My thoughts have always been that a dancer on stage who knows what she's doing and enjoys the work is a beautiful scene to watch,
    While I agree with this I have to say that, honestly, a beautiful woman on stage who is going over her grocery list in her mind as she works the pole is also a beautiful thing to watch.

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    What about the type of clothes she's wearing? Do you think guys are as picky as women as far as being turned off is she is wearing something not so attractive?

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    Even if I didn't like a particular outfit on a dancer I would still be willing to watch long enough to see how she looks without it!
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    Quote Originally Posted by EnvyChic View Post
    What about the type of clothes she's wearing? Do you think guys are as picky as women as far as being turned off is she is wearing something not so attractive?

    No matter what she's wearing, I'm picturing her naked anyway, so it doesn't matter a bit to me.

    So much for this "picky" woman!

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    Tipping big is the reaction Im looking for. So you kinda have to be close to do that and looking generally attracted without leering like a dirty sleaze is good. I dont like it when guys look away it makes me feel like they dont like it. Looking interested I suppose is what keeps me entertaining.

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    I had a girl once mention that some guys make a big deal about eye contact or not seeming interested when she's looking their way, then immediately stared at the naughty bits the instant she turned her back. (Apparently something about mirrors making that really easy for her to catch, and smirk about.)

    While I have a bit too much self-respect to be a leering baboon if I can avoid it, I also don't get the point of choosing to go where the drinks are expensive and bad, the music is generally way too loud, and then pretend not to be enjoying the view.

    "Interested," as a previous poster put it.

    I enjoy a good hustle, sure, but I admit it: Seeing attractive women dancing with all their clothing fall'd off is definitely a top-ten reason to visit a strip club.

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    Stripper vajay-jay haz hypnotic powerz!

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    My show doesn't change for 1 person watching or 100. And I don't care what you're looking at or paying attention to. Its my job to keep you interested. Look at whatever ya like just make sure you tip me and everyone will be happy.
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    Quote Originally Posted by JayATee View Post
    My show doesn't change for 1 person watching or 100. And I don't care what you're looking at or paying attention to. Its my job to keep you interested.
    This is the sort of thing I notice about a girl on stage when I'm not sitting at the stage. Lots of girls can be entertaining and vivacious when the stage is packed with guys and they are all tipping. If she's up there still doing her thing and selling it even if it's not packed that tells me something. Most of the time I will get up and walk to the stage to put down a tip even if I'm not interested in watching her show or getting a dance later. I respect the work ethic. It's become all-too rare.

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    ^ You know one of these days I'll get you up my way!
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    I am dying for the day when a few of the girls here make a strip trip to Vegas, lol. Jay os near or at the top of the list.

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    I am dying for the day when a few of the girls here make a strip trip to Vegas, lol. Jay os near or at the top of the list.
    Unfortunately not this year. There's no way I can do it in the next month and anytime after that I won't be dancing or close to dancing ready for at least the next 10.... *sigh*
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    My eyes wander all over, although they wander up to her face and eyes less than I'd prefer. I worry that it comes across as creepy if I'm gazing into her eyes too much.
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    Quote Originally Posted by lestat1 View Post
    My eyes wander all over, although they wander up to her face and eyes less than I'd prefer. I worry that it comes across as creepy if I'm gazing into her eyes too much.
    You're not creepy in the least... Just sayin'.
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    I've had dancers tell me it creeped them out that I made so much eye contact.

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    I hate it when a guy makes too much eye contact.. Maybe because I don't like to lock eyes for too long? It seems like they're trying to challenge me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Almost Jaded View Post
    I've had dancers tell me it creeped them out that I made so much eye contact.
    Eye contact has always been my game... oh look how into you I am. Oh look how much I like you. Oh you're so amazing yadda yadda yadda....
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    Yeah - 'cuz I needed ANOTHER reason to be pissed that I can't see you at work, LOL...

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    Eye contact is one of the sexiest things a dancer can do during a dance for me. My buddy and I got a dance from the same dancer on the same night once. He complained about how "she didn't do anything" since her dances did not have much contact but I thought it was sexy as hell because of the way she was looking at me the entire time.
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